[audible gasp] | MKE Year 3 Week 24

Would it be alright with you if I ask you a question? Are the peptides that tell our brains to produce collagen – our Fountain of Youth – the same peptides (or similar?) that wire our brains and determine if we associate positive or negative emotions to situations?

Is that why happy people look so young? enter [audible gasp]…

Perhaps working well under pressure is simply another way of glorifying the habit of procrastination. Actually, that’s exactly what that is…and what its not is something to be celebrated. It’s a bad habit and as Og Mandino reminds us, we are slaves to our habits.

The good news?

We can CHOOSE which habits to become slaves to!

Except that we often don’t.

Until I knew that the subconscious mind makes all the decisions, I didn’t know it was less than ideal to simply ‘go with the flow’, or that I was actually addicted to the ignorance?!

Procrastination perpetuates the addiction because thriving from the RUSH of being rushed, literally causes a chemical reaction in my brain. For me, completing tasks in a nearly-impossible time frame was a rush. And a super bad habit. One that wasn’t serving me.

Working well under pressure is simply secret code for an addiction to the peptides we repeatedly attached to feelings.

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Because Science, that’s why! | MKE Year 3 Week 23

I was at the doctor the other day, undergoing a battery of standard [read: boring] tests for my memory and cognitive capacity. I’m talking about 2-full days of mind-numbingly boring tests, yet when the doctors asked how I was doing – my answer was consistently “Great!” or “That’s the most fun I’ve had all day!”. Sincerely.

 

In my life and around my home, I’ve talked a lot about being HAPPY, always. Being positive and agreeable and easy to be around…perhaps it’s because my ColorCode is pretty evenly split between White/Yellow/Blue…meaning I have quite an agreeable personality…doesn’t mean I’m a Yes-Man…means I’m easy to get along with, and subsequently, get along with nearly everyone pretty easily as well.

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Powerful Beyond Measure | MKE Year 3 Week 22

I know I can have whatever I want. In order to set aside my past habits and thought patterns – which have only proven to produce only what I do not want – I must first learn to visualize what I DO want.

If nothing changes, nothing changes.

Sadly, many people stop doing great work (either consciously or unconsciously) because they know they’re powerful beyond measure – and that’s a truth which often scares even the bravest among us. Marianne Williamson was right…it is out light, not our darkness which scares us the most.

It's who you think you're not that holds you back

before I can bring about change in my physical life, first, I need to learn how to count on myself. I’ll do the thing when push comes to shove…but I need to learn how to do it before I’m backed into a corner, or up against a deadline. I’ve proven my abilities…to earn income, keep a house in a nice, safe neighbourhood. Have kids who want for nothing. Be the best hockey-mom. etc. Even for myself, my ability to create is solid. Follow-up ability is haphazard. Doing something for myself…still struggling, big time. I’ll do it for anyone else,..just not used to making ‘me’ a priority.

Looking for the answers ‘outside’ your true self is nothing more than running from your own greatness. As I write this, I am overcome with guilt as I have been doing just that – running from my own greatness, keeping both my Good, and my Great, under wraps. Liken it to a wick-less firecracker – lying dormant until suddenly it is exposed to one tiny flame…except I’m stubborn so I needed a full-on cataclysmic event to ignite the firecracker inside me. Because honestly, Marianne Williamson had it right – it does scare me.

It’s all too easy to fall into the trap of mindlessly regurgitated language. When speakers gravitate toward any one of these AWESOME (or similar) adjectives to describe the world around them, it’s time to visit the thesaurus for a few peppery alternatives. Selecting unique adjectives demonstrates more original thinking. The same holds true for my ‘fan club’…those who cheer me on towards my own greatness. I do not simply want a mindless claque (defined as: a band of people hired to applaud an act or persons), I want to inspire people; to move them at the core of who they truly are, to help steer their return to innocence.

With the help and encouragement through MKE, I’ve realized I cannot possibly serve other people unless I serve myself first. In order to realize my true purpose and live my calling, I first need to treat myself as my first project…I must love myself enough to put as much focus on me as I would on anyone else.

In my MKE18 LOVE blog, I repeated the known fact that with love all things are possible. If LOVE is all we need to do, then LOVE is also all we need to know. Therefore, by focusing on LOVE by helping others get what they want, it’s a Universal law that by default, we will also get everything we ever wanted. We don’t have to believe in Gravity to know its a thing…LOVE is the same way. All we have to do is trust in LOVE as much as we trust in gravity.

Be your own gravity.

Trust. It’s already inside you.

Love, Jen

Broadcasts Of Our Soul | MKE Year 3 Week 21

Our greatest barriers are the conflict within our own minds. Peace and abundance is first found in the heart of the individual, and the Law of Attraction brings back to us what we put out to the Universe.

I am very blessed and highly favoured – thinking good thoughts, finding the silver linking, having a HAPPY day, always. To master self-control and self-governance I will myself forward with positivity.

during Week 5 of the Master Key System, we were reminded that power is contingent upon the proper use of the power within us; therefore I cannot grow bigger until I embrace what I have already created and share with the world my personal credo along with the cornerstones upon which it is built. Applying my ‘happy’ filter to every experience allows me to respond, rather than react to situations.

While I cannot control what happens around me I can control how I respond to it. 

Calming my breath.

Calming my heart rate.

Calming my mind.

I am smart enough to know my own mind. I know I can control it and I KNOW I can create a different reality. My thinking has and will continue to catapult me towards my own greatness.

I am Brave. Selfless. Intelligent. Empathetic. Honest. Kind. Divergent. This is my frequency – my souls’ broadcast. 

want more?

 

What frequency do you resonate at? If you feel like you’re always getting the short end of the stick, it’s time for some serious introspection! Adjust your frequency. The stuff that’s been holding you back – let it go! Your life is worth more than your excuses. Be stronger than your circumstance. Be brave.

Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we deal with it.

True story…we create our realities – the good, the bad, and the ugly. Reality, therefore is literally an illusion. If we can create our own realities…why don’t we? For most of us, the root of the problem lies in that we don’t believe in ourselves.

You believed in Santa for like eight years, yet you find it hard to believe in yourself for five minutes?

Somewhere along the way we accepted and applied some form of unconscious self-sabotage…we absorbed ‘lack consciousness’ and limiting beliefs.

…feelings of unworthiness or inadequacy silently consume our soul…

…the lack of self-confidence to pursue our dreams cripples us…

…congested mental bandwidth prohibits dreaming because our frequency is so clogged with relics from the past…

Unknowingly holding them as truths, these subconscious shackles lock us to events, circumstance or people, and because we repeatedly and incorrectly attribute these external factors as though they are the same as ‘who we are’ – and soon we begin to buy what we’re selling regarding lack consciousness – eventually and without fail bringing into our reality that which we don’t want – our reality becomes one of lack instead of the light that is our birthright. Somewhere along the way we become convinced that we’ll ‘get what’s coming to us’ and it seems to be human nature to automatically associate a negative connotation to that sentence. Why do we do that? What if we believe we deserve greatness and expect it to descend upon us in all we do…the world would be such a different place.

lobsters of spreading our wings, we allow society to clip them – we tighten ourselves up emotionally and physically… which drastically constricts the Universal flow of peace we so eagerly want and need.

Deliberate use of the current of manifestation ignites sweet restoration of self, and in turn it consequently and successfully activates peace, prosperity and abundance within the family, home and ultimately, the planet.

Reversing the polarity of limiting belief thought-forms can help free your mind and your soul. Imagine with me for a few moments if you will…

Imagine you have a lot more money than you do right now. How would that transform your own life and the lives of those closest to you?

Imagine you could attract increased wealth – simply by removing the internal blockade thats been keeping you from your Abundance. How would this change your world?

Imagine you could immediately pinpoint your sense of Purpose, and in doing so, begin living your most empowered life. Would this re-awakening of your Spirit invigorate you? Would you live your life differently? What does ‘living on purpose’ look like for you?

The truth is, these are not fantasies for you to imagine, rather realities waiting to happen. YOUR realities. All you have to do is learn to control your own frequency! Exciting stuff, isn’t it!! When you control your frequency, your actions, belief and overall persona will guide your life.

Controlling your frequency – your vibration – is key.

If you send out crazy vibes, crazy vibes is what you’ll get back.

If you send out abundance vibes, abundance vibes are what you’ll get.

Well done is better than well said

The Law of Life

Whatever you give away today or think or say or do, will multiply about tenfold and then return to you.

It may not come immediately, nor from the obvious source, but the LAW applies unfailingly through some invisible force.

Whatever you feel about another, be it love or hate or passion, will surely bounce right back to you in some clear or secret fashion.

If you speak about some person a word of praise or two, soon tens of other people will speak kind words to you.

Our thoughts are broadcasts of our soul, not secrets of the brain, kind ones of happiness, pretty ones; untold pain.

Given works as surely as reflections in the mirror, if hate you send, hate you’ll get back, but loving bring love nearer.

Remember, as you start this day, and duty crowds your mind, that kindness comes so quickly back, to those who first are kind!

Le that thought and this one direct you through each day…The only things we ever keep are the things we give away!

-Jerry Buchanan

However, once you begin to shift your Mindset, your entire experience of this existence begins to change…you become Unstoppable. You start to feel freer in every way. As physical and emotional barriers dissolve new avenues of income and opportunity appear as if by divine intervention without any effort on your part…the natural process of you reconnecting with the Universal State of Flow. Improving your mindset will improve your life by bringing awareness to the Mind / Body / Spirit / Universal Flow connection.

 

Go ahead – uncover and transform self-imposed limits and redefine and reinvent yourself. Eliminate fear and lack and replace them with self-acceptance and love. Focus on your transformation, surrender to the challenge and let it guide you.

Learn to forgive and heal the past.

Expand your capacity to give and receive.

Embrace gratitude. For everything. All the time.

Starting right now let this be the year that changes everything! Let today be your New Year…there’s still 365 days regardless of how you slice the cake…decide that today instead of ‘one day’ decide that today will be your new ‘day one’.

Be COURAGEOUS…You’ve got this!!

Let me know what you’re going to let go of and what you’re going to focus on so I can cheer you on as well. YES YOU CAN!!

Love, Jen

The Incandescent Lightbulb Experiment | MKE Year 3 Week 20

Thomas Edison found 10,000 different ways to successfully fail at creating the incandescent lightbulb before one day he discovered the only right way. I wish Humanity still had that kind of resolve.

Think about this…

…what if Thomas Edison stopped after only 15 tries??

[Who knows, Humanity may have reverted back to knuckle dragging and grunting.]

Now imagine…

…what if you are to the world what Edison was to the lightbulb?!?

A good rule of thumb is this: whatever you default to when you’re procrastinating is a giant clue as to where your interests and passions lie. When you honour your true calling you’ll love what you do, and as a reward for your intelligence and resolve, you too will never work another day in your life!

[Interestingly enough, if I’m avoiding doing erroneous chores or things I dread such as filing my taxes or cleaning toilets, I turn to writing.]

If you knew you were making a difference and touching lives would you continue to sell yourself short and admit defeat so easily?

I’ve been consciously observing people for nearly two decades and realized that possessing the fortitude to sink our teeth into a project and stick with it until completion is a dying art. Resolve as a virtue has dwindled down to a barely discernible remnant of Edison’s commendable stick-to-it-attitude. More often than not, peoples’ default setting these days is to err on the side of caution. Many seek – and sadly find – acceptance within a depressing yet overly common tie…at one point or another they’ve all given up their hopes and dreams, currently settling for (or will soon settle for) a life of mediocrity.

Being realistic is the most commonly travelled road to mediocrity.

We tell ourselves stories that we wouldn’t have been good at it anyways, loser. It typically goes down something like this (strewn with self-loathing and cynicism):

  • With a fits-and-starts approach, we ‘trysomething a few times putting in minimal efforts, not willing to commit the time to mastering our craft – yet are flabbergasted when these mystical half-assed efforts don’t bring us overnight success. Must be the industries fault.
  • Our belief and desire in the project – and in ourself – dissipates at an alarming rate, and in the wake of the proverbial ‘throwing in of the towel’ our friends and family write us off as a failure – hurling ‘I-told-you-so’ insults behind our backs and to our face (is one really worse than the other??).
  • This one-two punch is quickly and surely followed by a looming loss of confidence in ourselves; leading to a deep-rooted belief that we are indeed a failure. Who am I to have a better life. I don’t deserve it. 
  • Blinded by our own neurosis, we begin feverishly shifting our energies from betterment into self-loathing; beating ourselves up both emotionally and subconsciously. Perhaps even physically. What a stupid idea. Certainly won’t be trying that ever again. 
  • The torment deepens as we avoid working on ourselves, focusing instead on imaginary grandeur to substantiate how ‘busy’ we are. Ignoring our misplaced priorities in order to poke fun at the ridiculousness of ever having thought stepping out of our box was a viable option in the first place. Honestly, I should be more realistic. This is as good as it gets for me.
  • Enter various forms of self-sabotage [This is not an action plan, nor an escape, it is a cry for help] such as (over eating, over thinking, over drinking, partying, staying up too late, negative self-talk etc.). All in a wayward attempt to camouflage the underlying issue – that we simply don’t LOVE ourselves enough to persevere.
    • Instead, we justify our failures by convincing ourselves that it’s okay to give up on our dreams. *Enter random excuse of how the actions (or inaction) of someone else has doomed your life for all eternity [eye roll]*.
  • Crawling into a pit of despair – your only goal in life is to hide out wearing your fat pants and binge watch Schitt’s Creek on Netflix with the necessities: a comfy blanket, a bag of coke bottle candies and a big bowl of yesterday’s popcorn. Nothing like diving in to whatever crisis the Media has fabricated for us to drown our own sorrows. Anything to take the spotlight off our own misery and despair.
    • Netflix binging is a sure-fire gateway – always ending in an awkward and uncomfortable sofa-snooze-fest [complete with drool, most probably].
    • Following this Euphoria, you are rudely awakened by a sharp, unpleasant and equally predictable jolt as you are once again reunited with the fact that you have a body. Dazed and confused, you question if it’s even humanly possible to unfold yourself from the bizarre position and begin to gain certainty that you’ll likely have to accept that you shall indeed remain in this pretzel-like form for the rest of all time.
    • These nonsensical thoughts are derailed by more nonsense as you question *like, legit* if your head is still attached to our body because you can’t tell given the bizarre angle of your neck. That’s great. Just great.
  • The next day hits you like a tonne of bricks! Yet you remain ignorant to the factors that continue to land you in this same.exact.situation.
    • An unending orchestra of random, snarky remarks rattle around among the brain fog…Somewhere in all that chaos and drama you manage to justify actual jealousy of sharks with laser beams attached to their heads, and ponder your exempt status as it relates to the sign in the fridge that reads ‘Don’t eat this – it is not your food’ – surely it can’t apply to you – after all, you didn’t have time to pack a lunch.
  • You spend the rest of the day a slave to the unruly headache plaguing your existence.
    • You’re basically a Zombie by the time you *finally* get home. Instead of having a nice family dinner and helping kids with their homework, you grab drive thru and float in and out of consciousness while the kids eat in front of the TV and stuff sandwiches into the VCR.  You muster every ounce of strength you’ve got left and crawl into bed at 7:42pm with your clothes still on because you’ve lost your will to give a shit.

We make excuses and play the blame game to avoid the necessary self-work that must inherently be present prior to changing our circumstance.

Don’t let the giants of fear and failure stare down at you and cause paralysis. Crush your fear. Don’t let your fear crush you.

Subconsciously these excuses begin (or continue) to berate our self-worth – feelings of inadequacy consume us, and our internal self-dialogue convinces us we simply didn’t deserve happiness.

Here are a few examples – some of which may seem (all too?) familiar:

…if we applied for a new position – we justify how it wouldn’t have been a good fit because of *enter random employee’s name and identify their annoying habit*…

…if we applied with a new company – we sell ourselves some nonsense about it being a farther drive and then all of a sudden we’re super relieved about all the extra time we won’t have to spend in traffic…

…if we had ventured into Network Marketing – we chalk it up to the industry being no good; and because those things don’t work anyways…

 

At the end of the day, we cannot escape the harsh reality that we didn’t really ‘try’ that hard at all. We kicked a can around a few times – taking a few steps forward – usually followed by a uncomfortable and immediate retreat back into our comfort zone.

It’s as if our ambition has been squelched…taking our creative intelligence and work ethic along with it.

Comfort zones aren’t usually very comfortable. Comfort now ensures long-term discomfort. Whereas discomfort now yields long-term comfort. Ironically.

Armed with these powerful reminders, we can now shift our focus to a handful of delightful truths that are naturally weighted in our favor when we honour the Laws of the Universe:

1. You can’t develop balance while you’re already balanced… balance is actually developed while you’re falling. Therefore, failure makes us stronger – it teaches us how to develop balance.

Try standing like a Flamingo … you can’t get into that pose until you’re balanced, and you can’t hold that pose unless you’re balanced. One of those strange but true Universal Laws.

2. Cheer everyone on. All the time. Regardless.

Have you ever noticed how many times a baby falls down while attempting to walk? They fall down all the time, but they always get back up again. Falling makes them stronger too!

P&G nailed it with this Olympics video – watch these babies learning to walk

We don’t deem toddlers a failure when they fall ten thousand times while learning to walk. We don’t demean them for how many falls it took before they got it. We don’t laugh at them for trying again. No, that would make us savages.

Since we can muster joy and support for a child, why can’t we find within us the compassion and empathy to do exactly the same thing for a friend or co-worker, or better still, for ourselves?

Heck, we practically throw them a parade – cheering happy thoughts of love and support from the sidelines. Showering them with praise and accolades – assuring them they can do it because we believe they can! And when they finally reach our outstretched arms we love all over them with lots and lots of kisses, naturally!

It is completely normal to applaud the walkers for their resolve and ambition. Yet we are cynical and unsupportive of any adult who exhibits those same traits? Where does that excitement go? How do our cheers turn so quickly into daggers? We are like crabs in a bucket. Shame on us as a civilization. Don’t be that ‘friend’. Rise above it and be the light in someone’s life.

3. Proceed with caution when telling yourself stories. We must think happy thoughts.

This applies to the stories you tell other people about yourself, as well as what you say silently to yourself.

4. It is acceptable necessary to quit feeling bad, silly or guilty for pouring yourself into two, or five (or even 30) different ideas with the intention of moving your life forward.

You probably don’t beat yourself up about having multiple pairs of shoes, right?? Of course not, that would be ridiculous! So why do we think less of ourselves if we try out a bunch of different interests; pursue various hobbies; and/or bust it at a day job while building a #sidehustle in our down time??

4.1. Keep trying until you find the right fit. Like shoes:

In general, us ladies have at least a few pairs of flats (casual/work/on the town versions – in a variety of colors), flip flops (…c’mon they take up like zero space in the closet so three pairs really only counts as 1 actual pair of shoes!), high heels and pumps, ankle boots – flat and high heeled versions, slippers, winter boots (not to be confused with the walking-the-dogs-in-the-winter’ boots) and at least one slightly bedazzled pair – maybe even with a kitten heel.  You’re almost weird if you don’t.

For the guys out there, you’ve probably got brown work shoes and black ones too, a comfy pair of flips, the comfy slip-ons that you’re not allowed to wear in public (reserved for cutting the grass and late-night milk runs), converse – in a few colors because they’re cool, at least one pair of presentable running shoes, maybe even some cowboy boots shit kickers, maybe even a pair of shower shoes – if you’re into that kind of thing.

5. We know from Malcolm Gladwell’s ‘Outliers’ that it takes approximately 10,000 hours to become a master at anything.

In regards to personal development and becoming your best and brightest self, you don’t need to invest all the hours in one place. Similarly, you don’t need to work at the same task, in the same chair, for the same company for 20 consecutive years to develop work experience.

You only need to put in the time and keep learning. Keep practicing. Keep failing forward. Focus on activity, not results.

Whether your current endeavour is your first, fifth or seventeenth attempt to secure your own legacy, I applaud you for pursuing your own greatness and getting your Edison on!

You are enough. The world needs YOU to shine!

Watch one of my favourite movie clips: Facing The Giants | Death Crawl Scene

Let’s go do good things. Together.

Love, Jen

Big Dreams Have More Magic | MKE Year 3 Week 19

Dream big.

We are the Architect of our own lives. So go ahead and dream big dreams my friends. Don’t let circumstance be the handmaiden of your future. If a 5-year old can become an Astronaut or Fire Fighter, then you can certainly become anything you want as well.

If you’re unhappy in your job…find a new one. If you hate your job and live a life of misery…and you openly (or silently) complain about how miserable you are…that’s the vibration you’re sending out into the world…which means that is the exact thing you end up attracting more of. Ironic, isn’t it.

A job is not your identity – it is what you’re currently doing. A salary is simply the bribe they’re paying you to keep you from pursuing your dreams.

You don’t need a job, you need an income – so do what makes you happy and you’ll be amazed how much money you end up attracting – it’s a Universal Law!

If you can’t quite yet picture your dream, or feel like you don’t deserve the best and the happiest there is to be had…perhaps a small shift in your perception will help:

Emotions are the physical manifestations of our thoughts, so when you feel a negative thought or emotion coming on, find something else to focus on. Something seemingly meaningless…for instance, during this MKE course we are teaching our subconscious to associate shapes and colours with our most sacred desires and the thinking habits – and resulting mindset shifts necessary to become self-directed thinkers helps us reclaim the throne in our own lives.

My shape quickly became a circle. So I did a little experiment at home…in a large vase in the kitchen, I started collecting every circular thing smaller than the palm of my hand that would have otherwise been destined for the recycling bin. The sheer amount of circular objects that pass through my kitchen on a daily/weekly/monthly basis was astonishing…beer or pop cans, salsa jar lids, K-cups, salad dressing flip caps…now each time I toss one in the vase (or see one in the fridge or pantry for that matter), I remind myself of one thing I’m grateful for.

It’s to the point now that I see circles everywhere…and so am constantly reminded of gratitude and the concept of Give More Get More has become part of my DNA.

Circles, circles everywhere – and so is my Gratitude!

Driving…tail lights are nice red circles. Steering wheel and tires are too! Showering…all those bottles have round lids. Lying in bed…smoke alarms on the ceiling. Door knobs. Key rings. Feeding the dogs (their bowls and their kibble). Coins in my purse…

Training your brain is fun (hello, evolution!) and as you get more skilled at it, it becomes hard to see a vehicle as I walk up to it because all I see is my gratitude. Im not driving myself to work, rather I’m immersed in the Universal law of giving and receiving.

There’s no time to be negative and feel sorry for myself…I’m too busy showing gratitude and appreciation for all the good things in my life, and in turn, as promised, and without fail, the Universe is showering me with all kinds of favor!

In MKE week 16 we collectively focused on kindness – amazing how true it is that what we focus on expands! As Earl Nightingale said in The Strangest Secret, we become what we think about!!

It all begins and ends in your own mind. Guard it like a fortress.

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I believe we are put on this planet to accomplish our life’s purpose, and I happen to think that LOVE is a critical component to us finding that destined path. Love is the illuminator. Give up the struggle and the pain will cease. When you clear your head from the negativity you make room to breathe again, to think…to dream!

Remember this…you’ll never get what you want – you’ll only ever get what you can picture.

Put yourself first!

Think happy thoughts.

Stop thinking. Start feeling.

YES YOU CAN!

Jen 🙂

What’s Love Got To Do With It? | MKE Year 3 Week 18

My kids and I love watching good movies and listening to good music – so by natural extension, randomly dropping one-liners is kind of our thing. For instance, instead of simply announcing ‘Dinner’s ready…’, I’ll say ‘Oh, oh, oh, sweet child o’ mine…dinner’s ready’.

Oh sweet child of mine...

Mega Mind is one of our favourites, and the line ‘…and I love you, random citizen’ speaks to so much more than just a giggle from movie night…it epitomizes my mindset and is a major contributing factor to my ‘sunshine and rainbows’ world.

While my kids were growing up, my parenting style was based largely upon my understanding of unconditional love. And truthfully, having this core belief as the lodestone of my parental compass is a huge part of why they survived teenage hood 😉

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I learned very early on that it was necessary to have a strong moral compass to keep me on the straight and narrow, in life, but also in parenting.

As a leader – which as parents we are – I strived to do my best to lead by example. Mostly because it’s the right thing to do, but also because everybody knows people won’t do what you say, they’ll do what you do.

Beginning with the end in mind I knew that unconditional love was the key. Having a long-term vision to foster independence and empathy in my kids helped me see past whatever the current struggle was. Keeping things in perspective allowed me to ‘pick my battles’ as they say…

By no means have I been awarded a medal as the Worlds’ Best Mom [though I am pretty sure it’s in the mail], however, I’ve learned a thing or two along the way that helped keep me focused.

Well rounded, magnetic humans was the end-goal, so it was equally important that they become self-directed thinkers. Deep down I knew it would click for them. Eventually.

Some of the lessons included:

Show them how to always give their best and highest effort by always giving my best and highest effort.

Redirect your best self into a positive experience-based teacher –  you’ll be setting a contagious example at the same time.

Rather than lecture about priorities and responsibilities, instil within them morals and values.

Find the good in everything.

We all live in the house, therefore, it’s everyone’s privilege to pitch in around the house.

You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

Avoid drama by not expending negative energy into being all pissed off about this, that, or the other thing. *”Life is too shorts.” RIP Jaydon Summerfeldt*

Get done what needs to be done, calmly, and from a place of love. This will energize you, rather than drain you while having so many things on your to-do list.

Don’t cut them slack only to hold it over their heads or use it as leverage.

Don’t keep tabs or tally who owes who what because you did some thing on their behalf.

Stick to it – it’s 100% worth it!!

Acceptable: I would like, or may I please have. Not Acceptable: I want.

Above all else, Love unconditionally. Even when you don’t want to or think you can’t.

It is good to be me, and I am very blessed and highly favoured because I have decided to make the best of everything and because I choose to feel the best in everyone.

Well done is better than well said

During a recent performance review at work, my boss was explaining a 5-point self-assessment and made it very clear that he NEVER awards feedback in the Always column. As we approached the part about my attitude, he lifted his head said:

‘I know I literally just said I don’t hand out ‘Always’ ratings…however upon reviewing the attitude and presence you consistently bring to the office, anything less would have been an injustice to you. Well done.

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Sara said to me the other day that her understanding of unconditional love meant doing something for somebody even if she didn’t want to, and doing it before she would do something else for herself in its place.

I explained to her that the true meaning of unconditional love, in fact, is loving someone regardless of what they do; without an agenda or caveat, and for no other reason than because they are who they are and you are who you are.

I’ve often referenced The Eisenhower Matrix when discussing being a good friend, brother, sister, daughter, son etc. to illustrate the difference between Urgent and Important, and how it will often vary depending on who you’re talking to, based on their life experiences.

In this particular instance, Sara was faced with a challenge that was urgent to her friend and while it was important, it wasn’t urgent in her eyes, yet she allowed their-urgency to become her-urgency. As she described the situation in retrospect, the resentment was evident in her voice yet she dismissed her feelings with a shoulder shrug by saying “It’s a good thing I love him unconditionally”.

She wasn’t acting from a place of love, she was acting from a place of guilt. Unconditional love has nothing to do with making yourself available on a whim, or sacrificing your own priorities because someone else can’t get their own ducks in a row.

 

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In my profession, we hear one saying all the time, so imagine my delight when Sara quoted it back to me at the end of our conversation…asking how it related to her challenge.

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This doesn’t only mean grandiose gestures such as donating a kidney or building homes on a Tsunami-devastated island…helping other people get what they want can even mean helping them achieve 5-extra-minutes-of-sleep or saving the day by bringing a roll of TP to the helpless, stranded person at the end of the hall.

The implementation of unconditional love comes in many forms…including, for instance…doing the dishes.

Have you ever assigned ‘dish duty’ to someone…

yet the sink magically remains full of dirty dishes?

Frustrating, right!?

Doesn’t have to be.

When you do the dishes for somebody else because they didn’t do it, you’re not doing it from a place of love, rather from a place of anger – begrudgingly sacrificing your time [and sanity] because some ass-hat didn’t do the dishes – again. There’s a difference between doing something for someone else in a selfless manner, and being a sucker.

This forces you into second place as far as your own priorities are concerned, and the inconvenience you feel is usually preceded with – or followed very quickly by – feelings of resentment, frustration and/or disappointment.

The toxicity resulting from negative emotions consumes your heart and your mind, torturing you as it resonates throughout your entire being, eventually becoming part of the energy around you, and therefore by extension, the energy or vibe of your home.

Speaking from personal experience, it’s highly unlikely that the dish-ditcher (*cough, cough, Michael*) will leap off the couch when they hear the commotion in the kitchen and race in to take over, apologies in tow. Unconditional love means loving the dish-ditchers even when they don’t do the dishes. They might not appreciate it, but the Universe does if you do it with love.

It’s not about doing the dishes for somebody because they didn’t; it’s about doing the dishes so you they can do something else.

Fundamentally, these two things are the same, at the end of the day, choosing to act with love rather than anger can sometimes mean that

– – you’re the one doing the dishes – –

…yet the feelings, thoughts and emotions you choose to associate with that particular action can’t help but manifest themselves into their physical equivalent in the form of energy, which will – without fail -reverberate throughout your life.

For better or worse.

Therefore, it’s really about doing the dishes so you can do something other than bitch about the dishes not being done.

When you act from a place of love, you set yourself free and everything becomes easier. Subconsciously, we inflict so much unnecessary pain and suffering onto ourselves and those around us. Day after day, these seemingly inconsequential decisions shape our world – stories we tell ourselves about how much we have to do, or why the kids are ungrateful, or how life has stacked the odds against us. By telling ourselves these stories – we concede to a tough life, allowing these tiny battles chip away at our souls – slowly but surely turning what is and should be a dream life, into a real-life horror story.

Simple changes to how you perceive situations…the stories you tell yourself regarding how you feel about your experiences, can and will have a dramatic impact on your life for the better.

It’s not about what did or didn’t happen.

It’s about the feeling you associated to what did or didn’t happen.

Your kids are watching. If you throw a fit about doing the dishes, what sane person would expect them not to throw a fit as well? You know that they say about Monkey’s…

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Acting from a place of servant leadership does not mean you are an actual servant in the Cinderella sense of the word, but rather, it means doing what you do, and doing it with love, regardless. Doing the dishes with love doesn’t mean you love doing the dishes.

When putting love first – even if it means doing the dishes yourself – you act from a place of love; you create the time and space in your schedule so that they can do other things, and your payback is 100-fold…this act of selfless love actually makes time and space in your heart, also!!

Giving without the expectation of reciprocity is very freeing. It’s rare that the Universe will return your efforts to you in the same form.

Instead, maybe the person ahead of you in the drive-thru will pay for your coffee.

Or smile from the next car as you wait at the light.

Or someone will hold the door open for you.

Or shovel your snow.

Or simply say Hi.

Now don’t get me wrong, you may be doing a lot of dishes in the 18+ years that they live at home, but I promise you it’s all worth it when you overhear them talking to someone about acting from a place of love, or when they act selflessly by helping someone else, or that glorious day when you come home and the dishes are actually done, and they even have a glass of wine ready for you because they recognize and appreciate that you had a long day!!

Helping other people with seemingly inconsequential tasks so they can do other things means you are opening your heart to love and by extension, it opens their heart to love as well.

Love is all that is real.

And with love all things are possible.

My wish for you my friends, is that you keep your sinks clear of dirty dishes and your hearts open to the possibility of love in all that you do. I promise you this – you’ll be glad you did!!

Love,

Jen

 

Optimists Rule The World | MKE Year 3 Week 17

Kindness, unlike Unicorns should not exist merely in our imaginations.

As an empath, thinking of others first isn’t a difficult or challenging task for me. Because my world is always Sunshine and Rainbows, it’s not hard for me to find things to be grateful for, or ways to show my appreciation to the Universe. What I’m learning, however, as I track the evolution of my thoughts – essentially, the evolution of my actual DNA – is that being kind to myself is equally, if not more important.

Be kind, for everyone is fighting a difficult battle.

-Plato

Faith vs. Belief

I’m stuck in this back-and-forth…an endless tennis match of my thoughts, torn between heart and mind – trying to decide if Faith is exclusive to Religion, or not. I don’t believe Faith has anything to do with Religion at all. Or anything not to do with it, for that matter.

Gravity. We don’t need to ‘believe’ in it Perez, for it to play a fairly significant role in our day-to-day lives…right?!!

The difficulty however, is that belief precedes the action…deciding where to place my Faith therefore, is a critical juncture to all success; to my past, present and future successes.

So, where do I want to place my Faith?

We all have equal capacity for Faith, it’s all about what you believe, and where you choose to place that belief.

When I talk about Faith, I’m not referencing Religion…while I haven’t related to Religion in a long time (…been on the short end when ‘Christians’ hide their judgement of others behind the guise of ‘Religion’), however I do relate to God…so now, I am simply…

Spiritually Optimistic…I choose to do good and be good to people, with full Faith that they will do good things – not back – but forward.

I give, wholeheartedly, without the expectation of reciprocity.

The creator doesn’t judge people until they’re at the Pearly Gates…so what makes us think we have the right to do so?

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Why do we need to judge people at all? Perhaps judgement is nothing more than a fear of the loss of power? Why can’t we all just get along?

The bottom line is nobody really knows – yet it has been proven that we project our insecurities onto other people by judging them (quietly to ourselves, or verbally to others) in order to deflect our lack of self confidence.

In order to remain on the straight and narrow, I often ask myself?

Am I seeking approval? Perhaps…

…more than that though…am I seeking to avoid disapproval…

My belief is intact. Belief in my strengths, and belief that I can overcome my weaknesses. Belief in my abilities to better the world for myself and for others. My unending, optimistic belief that kindness cures all.

Be kind. Be Gentle.

Constant thoughts of gratitude are a great form of prayer.

All it takes is concentration… | MKE Year 3 Week 16

Manifest your ideal | A ‘how-to’ guide [in progress…]

I’ve worn my ability to multi-task like a badge of honour for as long as I can remember…turns out, what I thought was among my greatest strengths has actually been, perhaps, my greatest weakness.

When focusing on one thing at a time the results are astounding…the quality of work rises, and the task is actually completed faster. A recent Stanford Multi-Tasking Study found that when we multi-task we are actually less organized, retain less information and are unable to filter out distractions. Science has proven that it takes less energy to succeed than it does to fail. Imagine that!

This Quad | Far Quad visual is a pretty accurate (and entertaining) descriptor of how easy it is to get distracted…it personifies the reason why multi-tasking is a trap and how so many people can easily fall into its clutches. Also, it’s funny because it’s true.

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 (Wish I knew the origin so I could give appropriate props and accolades to the genius behind this…)

Consider what your old blueprint is telling you…

Why do we continue to do things that we know are not effective?

Why do we keep running on the proverbial ‘Hamster Wheel of Life’?

Enough already.

You control your destiny…and it’s achieved by the tiny steps we take day-in-and-day-out to direct our lives down the path of our choosing.

Charles F. Hannel repeatedly teaches that “Knowledge does not apply itself”…we’ve got to make the application.

John P. Wooden says that a Dream Without a Plan is just a Fantasy.

“All it takes is concentration.” Charles F. Hannel

For all the List Makers out there, the last ‘To-do List’ you’ll ever need is: Plan the work.  Work the plan. Schedule the most important activity FIRST…literally, write it into your schedule.  Actually do the most important activity first. And be nice to yourself.

It’s simple. Focus + concentrate and STOP MULTI-TASKING. Keep distractions separate.  Let go of what you do not need. Instead, focus on the most important activity. Cling to what you do need, and manifest your ideal.

A line that sticks with me from the movie ‘The Help’ is this…

“You are smart.  You are kind.  You are important.”

 

The Hedgehog Concept | MKE Year 3 Week 15

The Hedgehog Concept

When you take care of the most important activity first, it’s amazing how easy it is to find time to do all the other stuff…the little things that are such time-gobblers.

“The fox knows many things, but the hedgehog knows one big thing.” Isaiah Berlin explored the fundamental distinction that exists between those who are fascinated by the infinite variety of things (foxes) and those who relate everything to a central, all-embracing system (hedgehogs).”

We must ask ourselves two questions…

Q1 | What am I pretending not to know?

and

Q2 | What would the person that I intend to become do next?

You know those videos that illustrate the importance of scheduling the big things in your life first, trying to visually prove that when you schedule the big stuff first, magically it all fits in?  So for this BLOG, I’m jumping past the cleverly illustrated examples of how so many people start backwards…

…and fast-forwarding instead, to illustrating the importance of scheduling – and doing – the big things first, such as making family, faith and income producing activities the priority *imagine tennis balls being put into a tennis ball sleeve*…

Secondly, a visual explanation of how it makes so much more sense to follow the most important activity with the supporting or background details *now imagine pouring rice into the sleeve and watch it fill in the space between the tennis balls*…

Next, and time permitting, allow time for the ‘other’ stuff – the minutia – such as cleaning the house, scrolling your social media feed, updating your phone, organizing cupboards etc. *imagine sand being poured into the sleeve, wiggling its way in between the tennis balls and the rice*…

As a reward for working smarter, not harder, we can then add the ‘fruits of life’ as my friend Mark J. puts it…the fun stuff, the ‘us-time’ or ‘me-time’ that we crave *finally, imagine pouring water into the sleeve…over top of the tennis balls, the rice and the sand.*

Now, stand back and marvel at how beautifully it all fits in…So why then, do we all tend to fill our days with the sand first…???

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On too many occasions, I’ve looked at my business as a reflection of myself – only to become frustrated at the fact that I’m not making the income I’d like to make, or more accurately…need to make. I get down on myself for not doing the simple tasks…the most important tasks, rather than filling my days with ‘busy work’…all the useless, time consuming, non income-producing activities, and for what? …for nothing except the ability to have an excuse to fall back on for my lack of progress in business.

It’s far easier to trick ourselves into believing we’re actually working…when in fact we are just pushing piles of stuff around on our desks, rarely accomplishing anything of value or importance.

Justifying the avoidance factor in business…and to an extent, in every day life as well, introspection has taught me that if I fear doing the activity that will bring me success – let’s say it’s telling people about my product/service despite KNOWING that I understand my product/service – upon analyzing said avoidance on a deeper level, I’ve realized that I don’t actually have a fear of sharing my business, but rather a fear of being rejected…a fear of people not taking my advice, a fear of putting myself out there and being shot down.

So this is what happens when we concentrate – the truth reveals itself. And it does truly set you free. If you’ll allow it – embrace it rather than reject it.

The avoidance on my part is not whether they do or don’t elect to become a customer, rather for some silly and strange reason, I place extreme personal success or failure based on if they deem my advice worthy or not. I’ve equated them not buying my product/service with them not valuing my opinion – instantly, I become reclusive and my desire to be recognized for creative expression gets all bent out of shape and so I simply stop asking because then I can’t possibly be rejected. Ridiculous, I know.  This is nothing but fear, and everybody knows that nothing more than F.E.A.R. is simply False Evidence Appearing Real.  

I was re-reading How to Win Friends and Influence Others yesterday and read a quote by Benjamin Franklin…

“I will speak ill of no man, and speak all the good I know of everybody.”

It takes self-control to be understanding and forgiving. Along this #LifeChanging journey of self-discovery, I began implementing the 7-day Mental Diet, making a habit of not judging others – which has helped me realize that when I was previously jumping to conclusions about people or situations, I was merely avoiding doing that very same work on myself.

When you can face your fears – which is often [sadly] ourselves – and overcome them, it is then that we discover our greatness on the other side!

I’ve begun recognizing my own self-sabotaging behaviours, and was recently introduced to a powerful resource, a book called Get off your But! by Sean Stephenson.

From the Inside Flap (via Amazon.ca):

“This book will show you how to move beyond your limitations and begin to experience and share your gifts at the highest level.. . . Read this book in its entirety, follow the lessons closely, and watch as your life transforms into a masterpiece filled with an abundance of bliss, passion, and gratitude.” —From the Foreword by Anthony Robbins

In addition to presenting Sean Stephenson’s unbelievable life story, Get Off Your “But,” offers anyone who needs to conquer fears and insecurities a hands-on guide for overcoming the forces of negativity and self-sabotage. Sean—a successful psychotherapist—shows what it takes to overcome the big bumps in the road, eliminate excuses, end insecurities, and ultimately stand up for happiness and success in life. As Sean explains, anyone can fall victim to the “Buts”:

  • “But” Fears (But what if I fail . . .)
  • “But” Insecurities (But I’m not good enough . . .)
  • “But” Excuses (But there’s no time . . .)

Get Off Your “But” offers a practical guide for putting fear behind you and building the inner resources to become self-confident at work and at home. It’s time to get off your “but” and start leading the life you dream.

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Book reviews, as per Amazon.ca:

  • “Sean is an amazing person with an important message.”
    —President Bill Clinton
  • “Sean Stephenson is the Yoda of personal development, with less pointy ears.”
    —Jimmy Kimmel, host of ABC’s Jimmy Kimmel Live
  • “As we struggle with inertia to become the best that we can be, Sean Stephenson’s book informs and inspires us to stand up and keep moving forward. Thank you, Sean, for your life, your work, and your abundant sharing.”
    —Ken Blanchard, coauthor, The One Minute Manager
  • “Sean Stephenson is a hero to me. When you read his book, he will be a hero to you as well. His moving stories about himself and others who have found the gifts in their pain will teach you so much about courage and, just as important, you will learn how to build your own sense of confidence when it comes to health, career, relationships, and more. Do yourself a favor read this book! ”
    —Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and Embracing Uncertainty
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Nerd Knowledge | MKE Year 3 Week 14

Remember in school, how there were all the groups, the cliques…lines were drawn and there was no fraternizing with the enemy. Labels have changed over the years, but basically there were the Cool Kids, the Book Worms (read: Nerds), the Jocks, the Rebels, the Teachers’ Pet, and the Floaters; who didn’t belong to any one group in particular; and were loosely accepted by all groups because they were neither a threat, nor an advantage.
I was a Floater.
Theatre seatingAs I observed each group hold their ground for the duration as year one morphed into year two, and year two into year three, was that their knowledge – both individually and collectively – didn’t increase with any notable significance…with the exception of the Nerds.
The Nerds were always inventing new things, learning new skills, asking for help and stretching the boundaries; applying logic from one success to the previous failure of another, and in doing so, creating an entirely new concept. After all, bread still existed before someone sliced it.

Learning was thought to be Geeky – but to the Nerds, it was always super cool.

Their ‘wins’ came from trying new techniques – and failing until they succeeded, and they celebrated the acquisition of Nerd Knowledge like it was winning the Big Game, acing a test, or being crowned Prom Queen.
If you fast forward 10-years after High School [any 10-years; any High School], the Nerds have secured their place as ruler. Bill Gates. Nicholai Tesla. Mark Zuckerberg. You get the point.
So, the way I see it, adopting some Nerd Knowledge of my own; studying with the same tenacity as the Nerds’ studied, then I too can morph into a Nerd and celebrate the slicing of my own bread!
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Introspection is one of my favorite things. Time spend in self-reflection – quietly reviewing my life – reflecting, wondering… ‘What am I Missing?‘ fills my cup. So I decided to apply this logic to figuring out how exactly to re-claim my sanity and put my Dragons to rest, once and for all. And it begins with the question I haven’t been able to answer. I need to put my Jennergy in the spotlight…and that begins with the desire to give more. In order to do that, I must first ‘Nerd-up’ my finances; abolish my bad spending habits, live within my means and conquer the infamous ghost who keeps draining my bank account.

It’s been said a time or two that money is the root of all evil. Everybody knows that’s not true. It’s the love of money that is the root of all evil.

If you’re a nice, generous, compassionate person, money won’t turn you into a giant prick, rather, it will simply accentuate your kind soul. Likewise, if you’re a giant prick…well…I’m sure you get where I’m going with this. You see, money simply accentuates that which we already are.

“Every human being who reaches the age of understanding of the purpose of money, wishes for it. Wishing will not bring riches.

But, desiring riches with a state of mind that becomes an obsession, then planning definite ways and means to acquire riches, and backing those plans with persistence which does not recognize failure, will bring riches.”

Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill, describes the method by which DESIRE for riches can be transmuted into its financial equivalent, consists of six definite, practical steps:

  1. Fix in your mind the exact amount of money you desire. It is not sufficient merely to say “I want plenty of money.” Be definite as to the amount. (There is a psychological reason for definiteness which will be described in a subsequent chapter).
  2. Determine exactly what you intend to give in return for the money you desire. (There is no such reality as “something for nothing”.)
  3. Establish a definite date when you intend to possess the money you desire.
  4. Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire, and begin at once,whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.
  5. Write out a clear, concise statement of the amount of money you intend toacquire, name the time limit for its acquisition, state what you intend to give in return for the money, and describe clearly the plan through which you intend to accumulate it.
  6. Read your written statement aloud, twice daily, once just before retiring at night, and once after arising in the morning. AS YOU READ – SEE AND FEEL AND BELIEVE YOURSELF ALREADY IN POSSESSION OF THE MONEY.
These subtle nuances between what we ‘think’ we know, and what actually is, shapes our perception of the world. When we can look at FACTS vs the TRUTHS we tell ourselves, we realize that our realities are nothing more than our perceptions.

Perceptions aren’t reality. Reality is reality.

Our realities are shaped by the feelings we associate (our perceptions) to the situations which we experience. When we realize this we’ve got a chance of living our true Greatness.
Knowledge is power girl

I hope and trust you are living your own Greatness and embracing your inner Nerd – I have Faith in you, I will be your Cheerleader and your Biggest Fan.

Go get your Nerd on.

YES YOU CAN!!

Thank you for taking the time to read…I look forward to your comments!

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What am I missing?? | MKE Year 3 Week 13

I’ve realized something pretty epic…the more I learn the less I actually know. I guess that means I’m succeeding and struggling. A truth that sucks sometimes…in an awe-inspiring kind of way.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been trying to merge what I’m learning – and un-learning for that matter – with what I’ve been living by…my JennyJenJenCode…my Jennergy.

Feels like I’ve been in an endless battle-of-the-wits between my past and my future. A bizarre, torturous, but yet glorious 2-steps-forward-1-step-backwards kind of dance; a crusade, blinded by ritual and orchestrated upon half truths, hazy directions, and good intentions. Packed with enough misinformation to provide a lifetime of adversity, righteous autonomy [just enough to retain my sanity], and a scattering of Universal favour to remind me I am indeed, Very Blessed and Highly Favoured.

I see now how everything I’ve done in the past has shaped my current reality, and for that I’m so great-ful [both great, and full of gratitude].

Yet I feel like I’ve been under a perpetual fog for a decade and a half. I seem to be able to master anything and everything I touch – yet I have no idea what truly drives me.

I’ve become so astute at figuring out the correlation between all things…connecting the dots…it continues to amaze me that I still can’t figure out what the hell I’m doing here, on earth?? Shit.

Every once in a while, I am graced with quick, temporary glimpses of purpose, fleeting moments of fulfilment that have the power to fill you up again – if you let it. If I let them. I promise I will let them.

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Why can’t I picture what I want?

Why can’t I narrow down what I am working towards?

Why am I stuck?

WHAT DO I WANT?

aargh.

Marianne Williamson had it right; it really is my light, not my darkness that scares me the most.

We are never prepared for what we expect. — James Mitchner

So, what am I pretending not to know?

If the future me doesn’t know, and doesn’t care about my history…she doesn’t know what I’ve struggled with – doesn’t know what I am struggling with…the future me simply moves forward, free of bias or limitations. Then, sadly, it is my current self who brings all the baggage from my past along for the ride. My future, in and of itself, is baggage free.

So as I walk you through the evolution of my thoughts, so too, you will witness the evolution of my DNA for once I realize that I know what I once did not know, the old me is no longer.

What do I want to be known for?

What’s my Legacy? My Dynasty?

I enjoy helping people, I enjoy leading people, helping them think. This constitutes a big part of my DNA. We should choose ourselves who we believe in…I believe in myself. Developing more confidence throughout the MKE course and realizing I’ve got to think for myself! If nothing is happening towards my DMP, it means I’m doing nothing towards my DMP. Very simple. Harsh reality. Truth really does hurt.

It fills my cup when people spend time with me and feel better about themselves as a result.  I need to remember that I am having an effect on other people…there’s no logical explanation of the ripple effect, but big or small, I am having an effect.

Constant thoughts of gratitude are a great form of beauty. You can put yourself in the way of beauty – there’s a sunrise and a sunset everyday and you can choose to be there for it.

Talking about my personal evolution…thinking for myself…how beautiful is that. By the end of 2018, this sentence will ring true and pure for me, but right now it’s pretty scary.

Once I let go and expected that I could do anything that I wanted, it became very easy to say I LOVE YOU in the mirror 100x daily.

Your intuition – the way in which the Universe speaks to you.

Your happiness is in direct proportion to the degree you listen to your intuition and follow it. The degree to which you suppress your intuition and live a lie is the degree to which you will suffer and experience misery. You choose.

Sometimes, you will not be able to see where you are going in life—clearly. But know your Soul’s inner GPS will guide you home. You will find that you will be the right person, at the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing, rightly. 🙂

How many times have you had a gut feeling about a person or a situation?

An innate confidence that you know what needs to be done?

How many times have you not listened to that voice?

We have all done that.

Yet, we all have that sense and inner guidance. Not listening to it is costly, often more than not costing you your happiness.

Intuition is the sense that arises from the deepest part of your soul. Intuition is the pure impulse of your Soul; nudging you in the direction of your highest path. Intuition is beyond your mind, your logic…your emotions. Emotions are often rooted in your past conditioning…forming personality and character.

If you’re willing to be honest, truly, when faced with a tough decision, often times we will instinctively know what to do. Yet, we constantly question ourselves:

What if I am wrong?

What should I do?

What if it doesn’t turn out like I plan?

How can I be sure?

Let’s discuss the curse of the ‘I don’t know’ excuse. Truth is, if you confess your deepest truth, then you no longer have any excuses not to move forward or take action. Immediate action.

What don’t you want to acknowledge or admit?

What are you convincing yourself you are confused about?

Forget all that. Instead, trust your intuition. Think HAPPY thoughts.

You know what to do.

What causes one thing to flourish, or to die, or to take another course. Everything has taught me something. Everything I’ve done are the  exact things that got me to where I am today. And I wouldn’t change a single thing about my journey for there’s no way to know what makes one thing to lead to another.

For everything my path has taught me. And for everything I couldn’t yet know. I won’t even know where I am going until I get there. My life, like all lives, mysterious, irrevocable and sacred. So very close. So very present. So very belonging to me. And how wild it was to let it be.

-WILD (a movie I discovered on Netflix late NYE 2017)

Gratitude Attack | MKE Year 3 Week 12

Gratitude is a cause, not an effect.

I’ve discovered that the more I give, the more I get…and having a GIVE MORE GET MORE mindset continues to open a world of possibilities.

Gratitude is not a one way street.

To give freely, we must also be open to receiving.

While I am happy to help others, I often reject the offer to accept the same help I so willingly hand out. By not accepting help I am blocking the gratitude flow…preventing it from completing the rotation.

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For example…I give and give, and do and do for everyone any chance I get, yet when I have the change to receive help, I tend to immediately reject it. For I feel guilty, as though I’m imposing on other people…ridiculous, I know.

This is simply fear…False Evidence Appearing Real (FEAR).

Fear of asking for help? Fear of appearing needy? Perhaps fear of needing help?

Still learning about myself, aware of the feeling and can now identify when I react this way. It is after all, a reaction, not a response.

 

Allow the abundance to flow back to you.

As I was telling my friend Carrie about this story, she questioned why I wouldn’t simply accept help and allow others to return the favour? She pointed out that surely I had earned a break, if for nothing other than the enormous amount of service I provide to others, always without hesitation. She went on to enlighten me that I’m cutting off the flow of abundance by allowing myself to be overcome by guilt rather than simply being accepting of the Universal law of giving.

This realization hit me like a tonne of bricks right to the side of the head…suddenly a bunch of things made total sense.

Welcoming abundance and receiving gratitude are part of being Very Blessed and Highly Favoured. I promise to embrace the help that is offered with grace and humility so as to no longer block the flow of abundance.

I welcome abundance in and from all directions, with an open mind and a grateful heart. So grateful that my friend took the time to highlight how ridiculous it is for me to pick and choose how gratitude will work…

I’ve got to let go…

I will let go…

…I have let go.

Gratitude, Ya’ll. 

Having gratitude and expressing gratitude to people are different.

So many people have trouble accepting compliments. Many people will wonder if you’re dying when you tell them you’re grateful – they’re simply not used to hearing it. That, my friends, is a sad state of affairs. We all have greatness inside us. I believe I have been put on the planet to help draw out peoples’ greatness.

When was the last time you were grateful for having 10 fingers and 10 toes?

Homework: Find three people in your life and tell them – physically pick-up the phone and call them, or write a card not a text – tell them why you’re grateful or thankful for them. There’s something about the written word…and something equally as powerful about the spoken word.

Feel gratitude for everything. You’ll be happy you did 🙂

I had the pleasure of meeting a wonderful and inspiring leader, Muzafer just over a year ago. He explained that he wears gym shorts under his suits while he’s on stage presenting because it reminds him of his roots when people clap give him accolades.

He described it as keeping him grounded, and reminds him that he’s still the kid from humble beginnings. His lesson: Be grateful. Do things to keep you grounded, find ways to remind yourself daily.

Never forget where you’ve come from, or you’ll be on your way back.

Create and maintain a vital S P I R I T. You need to make sure you are giving yourself opportunities to find stillness. Do things every day that bring you joy, keep you grounded, and feed your soul. Sharing with others, giving to others, giving your all – these activities, while enriching, take a lot out of a person. Even a day that is filled with meaningful, fun activities can be tiresome. There can be no restoration without rest so don’t forget to make time to rest, to sleep, to recover.

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My JENNERGY | MKE Year 3 Week 11

I realize now that it’s really more how I am IN the Universe, rather than what I am TO the Universe that matters most.

My destiny is a lot more about the Universe’s plan for me, for my life, rather than my plan for the Universe…

The brilliance of the Master Key System, especially this week [WEEK5], confirms that the more I read, the more evidence I discover to support living by a code rather than a direct course of action.

My entire life…I’ve heard, read, and really felt for that matter, that ‘the Universe has a plan for me’. I’ve received encouragement to ‘live my greatness’, yet I’ve drawn a blank when trying to articulate what that ‘greatness’ actually is.

The link that I realized this past week is that I was understanding what I was hearing incorrectly – I was trying to do the Universe’s work…I was trying to be the message and the messenger. I should have been acting as a channel for the message.

Same old thinking...same old results

As Haanel states in 5-11:

“But if we have stored away nothing but courageous thought, if we have been optimistic, positive, and have immediately thrown any kind of negative thought on the scrap heap, have refused to have anything to do with it, have refused to associate with it or become identified with it in any way, what then is the result?

Our mental material is now of the best kind; we can weave any kind of material we want; we can use any colour we wish; we know that the texture is firm, that the material is solid, that it will not fade, and we have no fear, no anxiety concerning the future; there is nothing to cover, there are no patches to hide.”

Truth be told, the only thing I’ve ever really known as a sure and real thing, is that I wanted to be HAPPY. Aside from that I couldn’t have articulated from the seat of my soul – my Solar Plexus – what I wanted out of life, who I am, or what I can bring to the world. For as long as I can remember, I’ve kind of been beating myself up because I haven’t truly been able to answer the questions, among others:

What do you want to do?

Who are you?

What do you want to become?

Who are you, and what do you really want?

Really annoying…because I’m really smart and I should be able to reverse-engineer this kind of stuff. How on earth I could pigeon-hole all of my wonderment into only one thing has never made any sense to me. And I’m smart…like just shy of MENSA smart but this one embarrassingly simple questions have evaded me for decades. Seriously?!?

Haanel goes on in 5-12 to connect this though, namely:

“These are psychological facts; there is no theory or guess work about these thinking processes; there is nothing secret about them; in fact, they are so plain that every one can understand them. The thing to do is to have a mental house-cleaning, and to have this house-cleaning every day, and keep the house clean. Mental, moral and physical cleanliness are absolutely indispensable if we are to make progress of any kind.”

Seems I’ve always had a hard time choosing just one thing, or narrowing down to only one path. Historically, I’ve had difficulty answering those questions, perhaps because I’m so multi-passionate?

I’ve mistakenly associated ‘living my greatness’ with ‘being some specific thing’…

… a writer, a mom, a servant leader, an employee, an entrepreneur…or with specific traits like bravery, tenacity, strength, honour, resilience, persistence…insanity. I haven’t had a messy house, it’s simply not been kept clean everyday. I haven’t taken my gifts and put them forth with purpose.

I’ve enjoyed everything, everything that I’ve done in my life, which is a long list; varied from accounting to marketing, to driving, to travel planning…there hasn’t been any one thing that defines me…I’m just one of those people that’s blessed with a varied skill set. I’m talking permanent Sunshine and Rainbows kind of stuff. I’m a mom and can throw a kick-ass party, I’m a baker, I’m funny and well spoken, I like to proofread and I’m pretty good at finances, I love to travel, and I don’t have a green thumb but have learned to be ok with it, I’ve got above-average communication skills and I make a mean banana bread, and I love my kids, hard!

I’m all about being HAPPY. Spreading Happiness. Sharing HOPE.

My best friend is a paramedic, and she has known she wanted to be a paramedic since she was young, I admire that dedication and rooted knowledge. She’s been a paramedic forever – that’s her identity, that’s what she does, that’s her thing, and that’s her brightness the world. I love that – I love it so much.

Yet when I talk to her, she loves that I don’t have just one thing, so she says I can do everything, and is in awe that everything I touch turns to gold. She thinks it’s amazing that I know how to do so many things, because [as she puts it], she only knows how to one thing – paramedic. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. [Isn’t she beautiful!!]

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Our life story isn’t defined by the things that happen to us, instead how we handle it. The good and the bad.

And it’s high-time that I harness the full breadth of my uniqueness. Rather than holding myself back as I have been [by giving into my ghosts, allowing resistance to be the governor of my destiny] – I’m allowing myself to celebrate it, embrace it.

My gift to the world is HOW I think.

How I react.

How I share my brightness.

Blissfully ignorant.

Full of empathy. True joy.

Edifying everyone…building up their greatness, helping them embrace it.

How I am is part of my DNA.

I am so unique. So special. Insightful, pure, honest, empathetic, compassionate, funny and kind.

I can be what I will to be.

My Jennergy is the essence, the heartbeat, of all that I am

All I need do is reach out and claim it. Claim my greatness. The world is counting on it!

Infinite life flows through me, because I earnestly desire happiness for everyone.

I hereby assert my claim over my unique trifecta of Brains | Beauty | Bravery and the more I put it into practice, the deeper I feel my connection to the Universe, urging me to continue the cycle and share it more and more.

I promise to manifest Liberty+Recognition for Creative Expression and living the Law of Compensation; giving more without the expectation of reciprocity.

…BTDubs, this question mark has been hanging around my home for about 7-years – sometimes stuffed in a closet, sometimes hung in a prominent place…depending where I am in life and whether or not I can answer the question. When I feel I can’t answer it, I stuff it away – or is it the other way around?… I promise you all right here and now, never again am I going to take it away from my daily sight lines, if I do, I give permission for one of my top 5 favourite humans – AA – to take it from me and hang it in his own home!

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Thank you for joining me on my journey through the Master Key Experience…your comments fire me up and encourage me to continue Blogging. Thank you for that! I am very Great-Ful!

Jen

Hard Wired Happiness | MKE Year 3 Week 10

Magnetic Happiness | The Happiness Project

Think HAPPY thoughts. That’s really all there is to it.

Time and time again, against all odds and seemingly incomprehensible, relentless challenges, I remain blissfully ignorant to the negativity and destruction trying to breach my psyche and pull me down. I refuse to engage in drama (actually, am allergic to it), instead, I elect to see the best in everyone – find the good in every situation – identify the silver lining. This is how I remain diligent to answering my call to GREATNESS! By remaining faithful to being HAPPY, always.

Telling my story, and helping other people tell theirs’, is an extremely impactful and very powerful experience for me. Through storytelling, and empowering others to tell their stories as well, my greatness is sired – HAPPINESS fulfills me, and frees my imagination.

Blogging provides an outlet to think out loud – hearing/reading the impact it has on other people really fuels me, encourages me, and lifts up my spirits when I’m feeling stuck. Or frustrated. Or scared. Or any other number of treacherous thoughts – that, if I give into them for even a moment, can send me down a path of destruction.

So instead of giving in, I let go – I choose let it all out. I am whole, and I am free, and I am HAPPY!!

I am whole, because I am HAPPY. I am HAPPY, because I am free. I am free, because I am whole, because I am HAPPY. I can be what I will to be, and I will to be HAPPY. I am HAPPY.

Thinking outside the confines of structure…allowing the words to flow, seeing where they organically end up has magic to it. Learning the process of expressing myself. Enjoying the discovery. Giving myself permission to be vulnerable. You’ve Gotta feel it. If you feel it, your subconscious will work it out, effortlessly, and EVERY time!

Dictated or typed, sentences and an endless mash-ups of notes jotted on paper (or my hand), then edit, edit, edit…massaging my thoughts into a story. Developing a relentless, underlying tone – a pattern, a habit – of persistence and grace, sarcasm and hard truths, but most of all, empathy, compassion and understanding.

At the end of the day, my precious cargo – my sacred thoughts, my intimate self – is set free to dance in curious wonder, despite, or perhaps in spite of all the trials and tribulations. I refuse to give any power to fear, jealousy, anger, resentment, hatred…instead I CHOOSE to focus on the sunshine and rainbows. Believe me, sometimes they are super hard to find, but the reward has been life-changing.

Magnetic Happiness. Contagious Enthusiasm…a blissful existence, where the sun always shines, because my HAPPY powers its’ generator, and anything less simply won’t do.

Think. Feel. Do. Be. Become. Evolve.  

GRATITUDE, Y’ALL

In my experience, it all begins and ends with Gratitude.

When I didn’t have anything to give, I surrendered everything I had. When I had no reason to be happy, I chose to share the love. When circumstance had won that round and I retreated to the corner to lick my wounds, I was grate-ful for having a corner to retreat to.

Gratitude is a choice. Finding pleasure in the simple things – take time to smell the roses kind of stuff – is an easy way to embrace gratitude. When you embrace the GIVE MORE GET MORE mentality, Happy can become your default setting. Trust me, it’s blissful!

Take time to notice the sunrise. Watch as the clouds shift above you. Notice when someone smiles at you – and smile back! Greet the clerk by name, and watch their eyes light up.

When was the last time you were grateful for your ability to see? For having fingers and toes, and opposable thumbs for that matter?

My Gratitude Stack

I carry my Gratitude Stack around with me, connected with a jump ring…rests under my pillow at night, on my desk while I work, in the console of my car while I drive. I’ve read these cards so many times that their very presence calms me!

Want more HAPPY? Try This:

  • 20 things you loved as a kid
  • 20 things you love about yourself
  • 20 things you love about the people around you (especially if relationships are challenging)
  • 20 things you want to do before the end of your tomorrows’
  • 20 things you might like to learn how to do, or want to teach to your loved ones

DON’T WORRY

True story…when you Google ‘HAPPY Images’ an overwhelming majority is versions of Bob Marley’s song lyrics…every little thing, is gonna be alright.

I want to be known as an Ambassador of Happiness as well. I will persist until I succeed. I will whisper my legacy until the entire world can hear it, and I will know it has been heard when the wonder of it all echoes through the actions of others – seen as their increased confidence, fortified in their self belief, and our individual successes will be the collective voice that shouts these wins from the roof tops!

IT’S ALL, ALL GOOD

Relax already. Stop chasing the next best outfit, or hair style, or boat, house or even the perfect Christmas gift. Society as a whole could greatly benefit from becoming less concerned about having the best ‘stuff’, and more concerned about ‘being’ the best self. My shift in focus to chasing the next best positive thoughts in order to attract an elevated Top 5 group, in order to live a life only imagined, in order to learn new things and make new mistakes, has been all, all good!

LOVE THYSELF

I greet this day with love in my heart.

Today and every day I am growing stronger and more magnetic. With love in my heart I can conquer my fear. With love in my heart I am proud of myself. I love myself and I know me as my own person. Before I meet anyone, with powerful, subconscious announcement ‘I LOVE YOU’ which is personified with a sincere SMILE as my eyes meet theirs.

I am not defined by just ‘one thing’, rather I am everything, all at once.

Completely in tune with the Universe. I exist with grace and ease because I CHOOSE embrace everything with love in my heart. I am perfect, whole, harmonious, loving and complete. And above all else, I am HAPPY!

I LOVE YOU JHC

IMAGINATION is the Master Key

I see things that other people don’t see. Creative thought fuels my Happiness.

The other day my daughter and I were in the Tim Horton’s parking lot and she was commenting how, while inside, she had seen one of the boys who she went to elementary school with. She had a few snappy remarks about how he had tormented her, followed her around a little too close, ran her foot over with the door in grade 3…and she was working herself into a flap about having come within 10-feet of this boy who she associated all this angst with…

Then, as if on cue, an young, tall, skinny employee came out to empty the garbages that sat only a few car-lengths away…now, to paint this picture for you – it’s cold where we live, so he had a winter jacket on, and, because safety-first, he was also wearing a reflective vest, and had a garbage bag tucked into each pocket, on top of that, he seemed pretty happy…which was commendable since he was on garbage duty in sub-zero weather, in the dark [which doesn’t necessarily mean it was late, because up here we basically neighbour the Arctic so WinterTime is pretty much pitch black by dinner]…

…so picture this: I piped up to distract her from her rant by saying…

“Sessa, check it! He’s a Garbage Bag Man – can’t you just see him skipping down the sidewalk, flailing his arms like those inflatable Gumbi-looking blow-ups that car dealerships hoist onto their roofs during a big sale…” And all of a sudden, she let go of her negative feelings, her face un-crumpled, her eyes began to shine as she broke into her adorable giggle. Mission accomplished! How can I be mad or sad or grouchy when stuff like that rolls through my mind all day long?!? Perfectly Impossible. Exactly the way I like it.

HAPPY is my default setting. ‘Think HAPPY thoughts’ has been repeatedly drilled into my kids since they were born – it’s my motus-operandi.

Hard wiring happiness begins in the mind.

Which is great, because the Mind is ruled by these 7 Laws. Master these Laws and you will become the HAPPY Master of your own Universe.

…(total flashback to my childhood here – Saturday morning cartoons…remember the Master’s of the Universe…)… anyways, I digress…the 7 Laws of the Mind are:

Law of Practice

The 5P’s: Perfect Practice Prevents Poor Performance. With practice of the correct things, we improve on all 6 of the other Laws of the Mind.

Practice makes perfect PERMANENT.  If you’re practicing the wrong things, you’re perfecting the wrong habits/behaviours/outcomes. Do you really want to make those permanent?? Likely not. Practice what you want, not what you don’t want.

Law of Forgiveness

There can be no connection to the Divine mind where anger or resentment against a brother or sister, justified or not, exists. To access the Diving and connect the subconscious to the Omnipotent, Omniscient and Omnipresent Creator we must forgive everyone and anyone to clear the channel.

Law of Substitution

We cannot think about two things at the same time. One thought will always dominate. With a heart filled with gratitude, the mind cannot possibly be in fear, lack, or judgement.

Compliment someone on their hair, or their clothes, or car…or eyes, or whatever. Don’t wish you had that ‘thing’ and begrudge them for possessing it. Be happy for them that they have it! Share the love people. When you do, more love will come your way.

Law of Dual Thought

Thought is a combination of ideation and feeling. We can attach any feeling we want to a thought. Happiness, therefore, is a choice.

When Sara and I got run over by that pick-up truck, I didn’t wallow in self pity for being in a wheelchair or for seeing her tied to a hospital bed for 6-weeks, instead, I was great-ful I still had a daughter to love, and watch grow. I was great-ful for the doctors who were helping her heal, rather than focusing on surgery after surgery because she had no structural integrity in her pelvis. Circumstantial trauma will not traumatize my life…I simply won’t allow it.

Law of Relaxation

Mental effort defeats itself – exactly the opposite of physical effort! A relaxed, calm state of mind is the only doorway to progress mentally. Relaxation ion thought is the only access to Infinite Intelligence!

SIT30 has become a daily reminder to take time for myself and focus inside. Until I did this I didn’t fully grasp that I had been searching for my answers from the outside…expecting the world to fulfill me. When I shifted my focus inward, my HAPPINESS exploded, I embraced the magnetic wonder of my childhood self, and the world laid all opportunity at my doorstep.

At the end of the day, when all is said and done and I look the gal in the glass in the eye – she is, indeed, my HAPPY friend!!

Have a HAPPY day!

Jen

Thank you for reading! I’m so great-ful [because I am great and my heart if full of gratitude] you’ve joined me on this journey. Please leave your comments and observations below…they fuel my fire and I’m so appreciative for your time and interaction.

Have a HAPPY Day.Jen