A Capsule of Time | MKE Year 3 Week 7


Advice is often though to be didactic in nature; wisdom passing from elder to youth, teacher to student, parent to child…in most cases, the veteran guides the novice. But when the coin flips and we offer advice to our future-self…an older, more worn version of ourself – does this advice, offered from the perspective of our present-day selves, then become foreshadowing?

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Hey there, Future Awesomeness, you’re entirely incredible and this journey is going to be so much fun. 

This is a collection of our best thoughts…you and me…us…because we are one. The Today-me is writing this to the Future-me – because, historically I’ve been stuck in the ‘think about what you want’ category, so I thought I’d share some reminders to serve as a compass if I ever find myself in limbo-land again.

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Believe it or not, the kind of questions you ask determine the kind of life you lead. That’s because your questions trigger its own set of answers, which lead to certain emotions, which then lead to certain actions (or inactions), followed by results. If you ask yourself limiting questions, you’ll get limited results. If you ask yourself mind-opening, forwarding questions, you’ll gain a lot more out of them.

Below is a compilation of the best and most mind-widening questions I could dig up from Google, and dig out from the seat of my soul.

Here they are…happy soul-searching:

    • Who are you?
    • What are you passionate about?
    • What are the achievements you are most proud of?
    • Do I embarrass you? (I’m not 100 percent sure yet if this is a serious or joking question.)
    • What are you most grateful for in life?
    • What are the most important things to you in life?
    • How would you describe yourself?
  • What are your values? What do you represent? What do you want to embody?

Values

    • Do you love yourself?
      • Why or Why not?
    • How can you love yourself more today?
    • What is your ideal self? What does it mean to be your highest self?
    • What’s your biggest accomplishment/experience in the last year?
      • Your worst experience?
      • What did you learn from those events?
    • Look at your life now. Are you living the life of your dreams?
    • Is life truly about the journey?
    • If you have one year left to live, what would you do (bucket list)?
    • If you have one month left to live, what would you do?
    • If you have one week left to live, what would you do?
    • If you have one day left to live, what would you do?
    • If you have an hour left to live, what would you do?
  • If you have one minute left to live, what would you do?

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    • What would you do today if there was no more tomorrow?
    • What are the biggest things you’ve learned in life to date?
    • Are you happy? Explain.
  • What advice would you give yourself 3 years ago?

Journaling

    • If you are yourself 1 year from the future, how would you advise the you now?
      • Is there something you’re still holding on to? Is it time to let it go?
  • What are you busy with today? Will this matter 1 year from now? 3 years? 5 years?
  • Do you have any regrets or mistakes you wish you could undo? Do you have anything you wish you’d done but didn’t? Advice?
    • What was the first thing you did after you turned 40? Please don’t let it be something lame like going to the library or getting frozen yogurt by yourself.
    • What opportunities are you looking for?
      • How can you create these opportunities?
    • What are your biggest goals and dreams?
      • What’s stopping you from pursuing them? …Why? How can you overcome them?
    • If you are to do something for free for the rest of your life, what would you want to do?
    • How have your priorities changed in the last year?
      • The last 5-years?
      • The last 10-years?

What would you do if you cannot fail; if there are no limitations in money, resources, time or networks?

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        • … 5 years?
        • … 3 years?What do you want to achieve 1 year from now?
        • 10 years?
    • How important are these goals to you?
    • What if these goals are doubled? Tripled? Magnified by 10? How would you feel? Would you prefer to achieve these or your previous goals?
    • Who are the people who have achieved similar goals? … What can you learn from them?
    • Are you putting any parts of your life on hold? … Why?
    • What’s the top priority in your life right now?
      • What are you doing about it?
    • If you were to die tomorrow, what would be your biggest regret? What can you do now to make sure that doesn’t happen?
    • What are you grateful for today?
    • For every experience you get: What are the biggest things you have learned?
      • How can you do this better the next time?
  • If you have 1 million dollars, what will you do with it?

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    • Do you love your job?
    • What is your ideal career?
    • How can you start creating your ideal career starting today?
    • What is your ideal diet?
    • What do you need to do to achieve your ideal diet?
    • What is your ideal home like?
    • What do you need to do to achieve your ideal home?
    • What is your ideal physical look?
    • What do you need to do to achieve your ideal physical look?
    • What is your ideal life?
    • What can you do to start living your ideal life?
    • What would you want to say to yourself 1 year in the future?
    • … 3 years?
    • … 5 years?
      • … 10 years?Birthday
    • What do you fear most in life?
    • Is there anything you are running away from?
    • Are you settling for less than what you are worth? … Why?
    • What is your inner dialogue like?
        • Are they helping you achieve your goals?What limiting beliefs are you holding on to?
      • If not, is it time to let them go?
    • What empowering beliefs can you take on to help you achieve your goals?
    • What bad habits do you want to break?
    • What good habits do you want to cultivate?
    • What are the biggest actions you can take now to create the biggest results in your life?
    • Where are you living right now – the past, future or present?
    • Are you living your life to the fullest on a daily basis?
    • What is the meaning of life?
  • What is your purpose in life? Why do you exist? What is your mission?

Mission

    • How can you make your life more meaningful, starting today?
    • What drives you?
    • What are the times you are most inspired, most motivated, most charged up?
      • What did you do during those times? How can you do more of that starting today?
    • How can you change someone’s life for the better today?
  • Who are the 5 people you spend the most time with?
    • Are these people enabling you or holding you back?

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    • What qualities do you want to embody?
      • Where can you meet people who embody these qualities?What are your values? What do you represent? What do you want to embody?
      • Ideal Self: What is your ideal self? What does it mean to be your highest self?
    • Who inspire you the most?
      • How can you be like them?
        • Where can you find him/her?What is your ideal life partner like?
      • How can you get to know him/her?
  • Are you afraid of letting others get close to you?
    • … Why or Why not?

Fear

  • Who is/are the most important person(s) to you in the world? Are you giving them the attention you want to give?
      • How can you spend more time with them starting today?
    • What kind of person do you enjoy spending time with?
      • How can you be this person to others?
      • Who do you want to be like in 1 year?

… 3 years?

        • … 5 years?
      • … 10 years?
    • Who are your mentors in life? (formal or informal)
    • How have you been of service to others today?
  • What is one thing you’re going to do differently after reading this?

Questions aside, I also have a few wishes for you. I know you’ll probably go through heartbreak along the way…but I sincerely wish your ultimate path will be one that you love and one that will never make you feel like you’re settling for less. I hope that between now and then, you’ll have learned a lot more and grown into an amazing human being with a bright future, surrounded by love and friendship and true bliss.

p.s.

It is likely that you are reading this on some sort of graphene screen strapped around your wrist or glued to your face. Cool! Fancy! High-tech!

Thanks for following!

Love,

Jen

See what moved me this time last year…MKE7 | Love Letter From My Future Self

Pockets of Time | MKE Year 3 Week 1

Hey…got a minute??

I’d like to talk about the seemingly inconsequential ‘Pockets of Time’ that make up our day. These bite-sized morsels of time can have an enormous impact on how we make our conscious decisions, which of course, then forms our habits. And everybody knows that ultimately, it is our habits that pave the way for the life we live. For better or for worse.

Let’s start by digging into what a ‘Pocket of Time’ actually is: any amount of time which makes up the in-between times…the time that fills the gaps. For instance:

  • Waiting for the bus, or in line, or for the photocopier…
  • After school before the kids come out
  • While your food spins in the microwave
  • When you’re put on hold during a phone call
  • During commercials
  • Listening to the radio in your vehicle
  • Or waiting for the traffic light to change, etc.

These small 20-180 second intervals allow us plenty of time to think ourselves into the life we want to live, or not – just as easily, we could do nothing at all…or worse…complain about all the things we don’t want, or we could log into the black hole that is our social accounts and get depressed about all the things we don’t have.

Whether it’s staring at the microwave; mindlessly channel surfing; or listening to gossip on the radio show…none of those things are going to move you closer to your greatness.

However, can you imagine what you could do with that time if you choose to apply yourself, beginning by putting these pockets to use?! Instead of watching cat videos, you could choose to do a physical chore, such as:

  • Clean out the leftovers in the fridge
  • Wipe the front of the appliances
  • Refresh the dogs’ water bowls
  • Take out the garbage
  • Write a quick love note for someone
  • Straighten the shoes at the front door
  • Organize throw pillows on the sofa
  • Purge receipts from your wallet
  • Unload the dishwasher
  • Sort the mail
  • Start writing a BLOG
  • Or simply … think a happy thought…

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Once you can master the art of putting your physical body to better use, you might be ready to develop your emotional and mental self – this is the world within. Inside each of us is the unlimited potential to harness an unbelievable amount of thought power…yet, out of habit – or perhaps out of sheer laziness – we usually, and subconsciously dismiss the opportunity to do something productive or beneficial – simply by electing to do nothing.

In essence, we refuse to answer the call to our greatness.

It doesn’t take any extra effort to keep the house clean if you make a point to do so…instead of leaving your socks on the floor, just demand of yourself that you respect the house and your housemates and pick hem up when you get off the sofa, for instance. It seems inconsequential, yet truthfully, when you do tiny things to keep order in your life it saves you from having to find hours each week to clean the house. Same logic applies to your mental housekeeping since your exterior world is a direct reflection of your interior world.

Here’s what I know to be true…if you want to go on a vacation, holding a grudge over someone who went on one isn’t going to build you an airplane…you’ve got to get off your butt and start working! The same is true for your life. You’ve got to dream your dream into reality…become one with it…obsess about it [rather than about Candy Crush or Clash of Clans]. Put those pockets of time to better use. Your future depends on it.

I’m not saying you need to fill every second of every day – but if you take a personal inventory of how you behave during the pockets of time in your world, then you can begin to fill your pockets with intention and activities designed to propel you closer to your greatness!

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The good news and the bad news is it’s entirely up to you.

If you’re anything like me you spent a lot of time in your car…yeah, you could spend time listening to songs on the radio about the guy who lost his dog and/or broke his truck, but all the time I’ve been listening to the radio I’ve never heard any money come out of it!! Its never paid my mortgage or put food on my table…so instead, while I’m in the car I choose to listen to audio designed to help me become a self-directed thinker (sure, your kids might complain – but when they do, have them Google what Pitpulls’ Mom made him listen to):

  • Science of Personal Achievement by Napoleon Hill
  • The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale
  • A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
  • Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

The countless hours I’ve spent with these icons as my silent partners; my guides; my mastermind alliance have supported me to new heights that I am enjoying today, and beyond. I am so thankful I didn’t mindlessly fall in line with the other sheeple and listen to the radio!!

It isn’t what I learned – it’s who I became as a result that has changed me the most and had the most lasting impact.

In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill says:

Complaining about being poor won’t bring you riches. Wishing for it isn’t enough, you’ve got to act yourself into riches. Wishing for riches may very well bring you temporary riches, but acting with LOVE in your heart will surely bring you riches for generations.

Autonomy and Legacy are important to me – so I made a promise to myself, and a commitment to my family to be that person who creates ‘old money’ for my family – for generations to come. I chose to put my pockets of time to use to create a better life for myself and my family – a future that creates riches for generations.

Today I begin a new life is a great mantra – adds love to your mindset. Repeat this in your Pockets of Time and witness how your life changes.

To be clear here, riches isn’t about money – ‘riches’ is about anything you hold dear to your heart. I realized I didn’t need to have rich Grandparents, or an old Uncle to leave me a ton of money in his will, or the proper blood lines.

Rather, by tapping into my innate potential and reprogramming my brain;

making better decisions about what to do with my time,

I confirmed to myself that I can become anything I want;

I can accomplish anything I set my mind to!

And you can too!!

You are Nature’s Greatest Miracle.

You have it within you to Persist Until You Succeed.

Now, armed with the knowledge that we can think ourselves into any life we want…I encourage you to be brave.

Go ahead and love yourself into riches, by posting a few affirmation cards on your bathroom mirror or inside the kitchen cupboards and see how what you think about changes.

Malcolm Gladwell concludes that one becomes an ‘Outlier’ [a master of their craft] with 10,000 hours of practice. Essentially, anyone can master anything by practicing for about 90-minutes per day, for 20 years…he calls this the ‘Tipping-Point’ of greatness.

The way I see it – the ‘Pockets of Time’ are the answer; a first step towards the mastery of 10,000.

We may feel short on time to impact change in our lives overnight, or in a week, or in a month…but can you imagine how different your life would be in 2-years or 5-years or 10-years if you were to simply redirect your mindless time into mindful time? The possibilities are endless. Try new things. Make new mistakes.

10,000 hours - how much have you put in?

Today is your day – your ground zero!! Human beings have the ‘God-like’ power to control our thoughts; and since “we become what we think about” as Earl Nightingale reminds us in the Strangest Secret, then it stands to reason we can visualize into reality any life which we can imagine.

Here’s to your next new mistake. I’d love to hear all about it.

Love,

Jen

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Check out what moved me during this week of the course during Year 2: MKE 1 | Disengaging Auto-Pilot

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