Powerful Beyond Measure | MKE Year 3 Week 22

I know I can have whatever I want. In order to set aside my past habits and thought patterns – which have only proven to produce only what I do not want – I must first learn to visualize what I DO want.

If nothing changes, nothing changes.

Sadly, many people stop doing great work (either consciously or unconsciously) because they know they’re powerful beyond measure – and that’s a truth which often scares even the bravest among us. Marianne Williamson was right…it is out light, not our darkness which scares us the most.

It's who you think you're not that holds you back

before I can bring about change in my physical life, first, I need to learn how to count on myself. I’ll do the thing when push comes to shove…but I need to learn how to do it before I’m backed into a corner, or up against a deadline. I’ve proven my abilities…to earn income, keep a house in a nice, safe neighbourhood. Have kids who want for nothing. Be the best hockey-mom. etc. Even for myself, my ability to create is solid. Follow-up ability is haphazard. Doing something for myself…still struggling, big time. I’ll do it for anyone else,..just not used to making ‘me’ a priority.

Looking for the answers ‘outside’ your true self is nothing more than running from your own greatness. As I write this, I am overcome with guilt as I have been doing just that – running from my own greatness, keeping both my Good, and my Great, under wraps. Liken it to a wick-less firecracker – lying dormant until suddenly it is exposed to one tiny flame…except I’m stubborn so I needed a full-on cataclysmic event to ignite the firecracker inside me. Because honestly, Marianne Williamson had it right – it does scare me.

It’s all too easy to fall into the trap of mindlessly regurgitated language. When speakers gravitate toward any one of these AWESOME (or similar) adjectives to describe the world around them, it’s time to visit the thesaurus for a few peppery alternatives. Selecting unique adjectives demonstrates more original thinking. The same holds true for my ‘fan club’…those who cheer me on towards my own greatness. I do not simply want a mindless claque (defined as: a band of people hired to applaud an act or persons), I want to inspire people; to move them at the core of who they truly are, to help steer their return to innocence.

With the help and encouragement through MKE, I’ve realized I cannot possibly serve other people unless I serve myself first. In order to realize my true purpose and live my calling, I first need to treat myself as my first project…I must love myself enough to put as much focus on me as I would on anyone else.

In my MKE18 LOVE blog, I repeated the known fact that with love all things are possible. If LOVE is all we need to do, then LOVE is also all we need to know. Therefore, by focusing on LOVE by helping others get what they want, it’s a Universal law that by default, we will also get everything we ever wanted. We don’t have to believe in Gravity to know its a thing…LOVE is the same way. All we have to do is trust in LOVE as much as we trust in gravity.

Be your own gravity.

Trust. It’s already inside you.

Love, Jen

The Incandescent Lightbulb Experiment | MKE Year 3 Week 20

Thomas Edison found 10,000 different ways to successfully fail at creating the incandescent lightbulb before one day he discovered the only right way. I wish Humanity still had that kind of resolve.

Think about this…

…what if Thomas Edison stopped after only 15 tries??

[Who knows, Humanity may have reverted back to knuckle dragging and grunting.]

Now imagine…

…what if you are to the world what Edison was to the lightbulb?!?

A good rule of thumb is this: whatever you default to when you’re procrastinating is a giant clue as to where your interests and passions lie. When you honour your true calling you’ll love what you do, and as a reward for your intelligence and resolve, you too will never work another day in your life!

[Interestingly enough, if I’m avoiding doing erroneous chores or things I dread such as filing my taxes or cleaning toilets, I turn to writing.]

If you knew you were making a difference and touching lives would you continue to sell yourself short and admit defeat so easily?

I’ve been consciously observing people for nearly two decades and realized that possessing the fortitude to sink our teeth into a project and stick with it until completion is a dying art. Resolve as a virtue has dwindled down to a barely discernible remnant of Edison’s commendable stick-to-it-attitude. More often than not, peoples’ default setting these days is to err on the side of caution. Many seek – and sadly find – acceptance within a depressing yet overly common tie…at one point or another they’ve all given up their hopes and dreams, currently settling for (or will soon settle for) a life of mediocrity.

Being realistic is the most commonly travelled road to mediocrity.

We tell ourselves stories that we wouldn’t have been good at it anyways, loser. It typically goes down something like this (strewn with self-loathing and cynicism):

  • With a fits-and-starts approach, we ‘trysomething a few times putting in minimal efforts, not willing to commit the time to mastering our craft – yet are flabbergasted when these mystical half-assed efforts don’t bring us overnight success. Must be the industries fault.
  • Our belief and desire in the project – and in ourself – dissipates at an alarming rate, and in the wake of the proverbial ‘throwing in of the towel’ our friends and family write us off as a failure – hurling ‘I-told-you-so’ insults behind our backs and to our face (is one really worse than the other??).
  • This one-two punch is quickly and surely followed by a looming loss of confidence in ourselves; leading to a deep-rooted belief that we are indeed a failure. Who am I to have a better life. I don’t deserve it. 
  • Blinded by our own neurosis, we begin feverishly shifting our energies from betterment into self-loathing; beating ourselves up both emotionally and subconsciously. Perhaps even physically. What a stupid idea. Certainly won’t be trying that ever again. 
  • The torment deepens as we avoid working on ourselves, focusing instead on imaginary grandeur to substantiate how ‘busy’ we are. Ignoring our misplaced priorities in order to poke fun at the ridiculousness of ever having thought stepping out of our box was a viable option in the first place. Honestly, I should be more realistic. This is as good as it gets for me.
  • Enter various forms of self-sabotage [This is not an action plan, nor an escape, it is a cry for help] such as (over eating, over thinking, over drinking, partying, staying up too late, negative self-talk etc.). All in a wayward attempt to camouflage the underlying issue – that we simply don’t LOVE ourselves enough to persevere.
    • Instead, we justify our failures by convincing ourselves that it’s okay to give up on our dreams. *Enter random excuse of how the actions (or inaction) of someone else has doomed your life for all eternity [eye roll]*.
  • Crawling into a pit of despair – your only goal in life is to hide out wearing your fat pants and binge watch Schitt’s Creek on Netflix with the necessities: a comfy blanket, a bag of coke bottle candies and a big bowl of yesterday’s popcorn. Nothing like diving in to whatever crisis the Media has fabricated for us to drown our own sorrows. Anything to take the spotlight off our own misery and despair.
    • Netflix binging is a sure-fire gateway – always ending in an awkward and uncomfortable sofa-snooze-fest [complete with drool, most probably].
    • Following this Euphoria, you are rudely awakened by a sharp, unpleasant and equally predictable jolt as you are once again reunited with the fact that you have a body. Dazed and confused, you question if it’s even humanly possible to unfold yourself from the bizarre position and begin to gain certainty that you’ll likely have to accept that you shall indeed remain in this pretzel-like form for the rest of all time.
    • These nonsensical thoughts are derailed by more nonsense as you question *like, legit* if your head is still attached to our body because you can’t tell given the bizarre angle of your neck. That’s great. Just great.
  • The next day hits you like a tonne of bricks! Yet you remain ignorant to the factors that continue to land you in this same.exact.situation.
    • An unending orchestra of random, snarky remarks rattle around among the brain fog…Somewhere in all that chaos and drama you manage to justify actual jealousy of sharks with laser beams attached to their heads, and ponder your exempt status as it relates to the sign in the fridge that reads ‘Don’t eat this – it is not your food’ – surely it can’t apply to you – after all, you didn’t have time to pack a lunch.
  • You spend the rest of the day a slave to the unruly headache plaguing your existence.
    • You’re basically a Zombie by the time you *finally* get home. Instead of having a nice family dinner and helping kids with their homework, you grab drive thru and float in and out of consciousness while the kids eat in front of the TV and stuff sandwiches into the VCR.  You muster every ounce of strength you’ve got left and crawl into bed at 7:42pm with your clothes still on because you’ve lost your will to give a shit.

We make excuses and play the blame game to avoid the necessary self-work that must inherently be present prior to changing our circumstance.

Don’t let the giants of fear and failure stare down at you and cause paralysis. Crush your fear. Don’t let your fear crush you.

Subconsciously these excuses begin (or continue) to berate our self-worth – feelings of inadequacy consume us, and our internal self-dialogue convinces us we simply didn’t deserve happiness.

Here are a few examples – some of which may seem (all too?) familiar:

…if we applied for a new position – we justify how it wouldn’t have been a good fit because of *enter random employee’s name and identify their annoying habit*…

…if we applied with a new company – we sell ourselves some nonsense about it being a farther drive and then all of a sudden we’re super relieved about all the extra time we won’t have to spend in traffic…

…if we had ventured into Network Marketing – we chalk it up to the industry being no good; and because those things don’t work anyways…

 

At the end of the day, we cannot escape the harsh reality that we didn’t really ‘try’ that hard at all. We kicked a can around a few times – taking a few steps forward – usually followed by a uncomfortable and immediate retreat back into our comfort zone.

It’s as if our ambition has been squelched…taking our creative intelligence and work ethic along with it.

Comfort zones aren’t usually very comfortable. Comfort now ensures long-term discomfort. Whereas discomfort now yields long-term comfort. Ironically.

Armed with these powerful reminders, we can now shift our focus to a handful of delightful truths that are naturally weighted in our favor when we honour the Laws of the Universe:

1. You can’t develop balance while you’re already balanced… balance is actually developed while you’re falling. Therefore, failure makes us stronger – it teaches us how to develop balance.

Try standing like a Flamingo … you can’t get into that pose until you’re balanced, and you can’t hold that pose unless you’re balanced. One of those strange but true Universal Laws.

2. Cheer everyone on. All the time. Regardless.

Have you ever noticed how many times a baby falls down while attempting to walk? They fall down all the time, but they always get back up again. Falling makes them stronger too!

P&G nailed it with this Olympics video – watch these babies learning to walk

We don’t deem toddlers a failure when they fall ten thousand times while learning to walk. We don’t demean them for how many falls it took before they got it. We don’t laugh at them for trying again. No, that would make us savages.

Since we can muster joy and support for a child, why can’t we find within us the compassion and empathy to do exactly the same thing for a friend or co-worker, or better still, for ourselves?

Heck, we practically throw them a parade – cheering happy thoughts of love and support from the sidelines. Showering them with praise and accolades – assuring them they can do it because we believe they can! And when they finally reach our outstretched arms we love all over them with lots and lots of kisses, naturally!

It is completely normal to applaud the walkers for their resolve and ambition. Yet we are cynical and unsupportive of any adult who exhibits those same traits? Where does that excitement go? How do our cheers turn so quickly into daggers? We are like crabs in a bucket. Shame on us as a civilization. Don’t be that ‘friend’. Rise above it and be the light in someone’s life.

3. Proceed with caution when telling yourself stories. We must think happy thoughts.

This applies to the stories you tell other people about yourself, as well as what you say silently to yourself.

4. It is acceptable necessary to quit feeling bad, silly or guilty for pouring yourself into two, or five (or even 30) different ideas with the intention of moving your life forward.

You probably don’t beat yourself up about having multiple pairs of shoes, right?? Of course not, that would be ridiculous! So why do we think less of ourselves if we try out a bunch of different interests; pursue various hobbies; and/or bust it at a day job while building a #sidehustle in our down time??

4.1. Keep trying until you find the right fit. Like shoes:

In general, us ladies have at least a few pairs of flats (casual/work/on the town versions – in a variety of colors), flip flops (…c’mon they take up like zero space in the closet so three pairs really only counts as 1 actual pair of shoes!), high heels and pumps, ankle boots – flat and high heeled versions, slippers, winter boots (not to be confused with the walking-the-dogs-in-the-winter’ boots) and at least one slightly bedazzled pair – maybe even with a kitten heel.  You’re almost weird if you don’t.

For the guys out there, you’ve probably got brown work shoes and black ones too, a comfy pair of flips, the comfy slip-ons that you’re not allowed to wear in public (reserved for cutting the grass and late-night milk runs), converse – in a few colors because they’re cool, at least one pair of presentable running shoes, maybe even some cowboy boots shit kickers, maybe even a pair of shower shoes – if you’re into that kind of thing.

5. We know from Malcolm Gladwell’s ‘Outliers’ that it takes approximately 10,000 hours to become a master at anything.

In regards to personal development and becoming your best and brightest self, you don’t need to invest all the hours in one place. Similarly, you don’t need to work at the same task, in the same chair, for the same company for 20 consecutive years to develop work experience.

You only need to put in the time and keep learning. Keep practicing. Keep failing forward. Focus on activity, not results.

Whether your current endeavour is your first, fifth or seventeenth attempt to secure your own legacy, I applaud you for pursuing your own greatness and getting your Edison on!

You are enough. The world needs YOU to shine!

Watch one of my favourite movie clips: Facing The Giants | Death Crawl Scene

Let’s go do good things. Together.

Love, Jen

Big Dreams Have More Magic | MKE Year 3 Week 19

Dream big.

We are the Architect of our own lives. So go ahead and dream big dreams my friends. Don’t let circumstance be the handmaiden of your future. If a 5-year old can become an Astronaut or Fire Fighter, then you can certainly become anything you want as well.

If you’re unhappy in your job…find a new one. If you hate your job and live a life of misery…and you openly (or silently) complain about how miserable you are…that’s the vibration you’re sending out into the world…which means that is the exact thing you end up attracting more of. Ironic, isn’t it.

A job is not your identity – it is what you’re currently doing. A salary is simply the bribe they’re paying you to keep you from pursuing your dreams.

You don’t need a job, you need an income – so do what makes you happy and you’ll be amazed how much money you end up attracting – it’s a Universal Law!

If you can’t quite yet picture your dream, or feel like you don’t deserve the best and the happiest there is to be had…perhaps a small shift in your perception will help:

Emotions are the physical manifestations of our thoughts, so when you feel a negative thought or emotion coming on, find something else to focus on. Something seemingly meaningless…for instance, during this MKE course we are teaching our subconscious to associate shapes and colours with our most sacred desires and the thinking habits – and resulting mindset shifts necessary to become self-directed thinkers helps us reclaim the throne in our own lives.

My shape quickly became a circle. So I did a little experiment at home…in a large vase in the kitchen, I started collecting every circular thing smaller than the palm of my hand that would have otherwise been destined for the recycling bin. The sheer amount of circular objects that pass through my kitchen on a daily/weekly/monthly basis was astonishing…beer or pop cans, salsa jar lids, K-cups, salad dressing flip caps…now each time I toss one in the vase (or see one in the fridge or pantry for that matter), I remind myself of one thing I’m grateful for.

It’s to the point now that I see circles everywhere…and so am constantly reminded of gratitude and the concept of Give More Get More has become part of my DNA.

Circles, circles everywhere – and so is my Gratitude!

Driving…tail lights are nice red circles. Steering wheel and tires are too! Showering…all those bottles have round lids. Lying in bed…smoke alarms on the ceiling. Door knobs. Key rings. Feeding the dogs (their bowls and their kibble). Coins in my purse…

Training your brain is fun (hello, evolution!) and as you get more skilled at it, it becomes hard to see a vehicle as I walk up to it because all I see is my gratitude. Im not driving myself to work, rather I’m immersed in the Universal law of giving and receiving.

There’s no time to be negative and feel sorry for myself…I’m too busy showing gratitude and appreciation for all the good things in my life, and in turn, as promised, and without fail, the Universe is showering me with all kinds of favor!

In MKE week 16 we collectively focused on kindness – amazing how true it is that what we focus on expands! As Earl Nightingale said in The Strangest Secret, we become what we think about!!

It all begins and ends in your own mind. Guard it like a fortress.

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I believe we are put on this planet to accomplish our life’s purpose, and I happen to think that LOVE is a critical component to us finding that destined path. Love is the illuminator. Give up the struggle and the pain will cease. When you clear your head from the negativity you make room to breathe again, to think…to dream!

Remember this…you’ll never get what you want – you’ll only ever get what you can picture.

Put yourself first!

Think happy thoughts.

Stop thinking. Start feeling.

YES YOU CAN!

Jen 🙂

What’s Love Got To Do With It? | MKE Year 3 Week 18

My kids and I love watching good movies and listening to good music – so by natural extension, randomly dropping one-liners is kind of our thing. For instance, instead of simply announcing ‘Dinner’s ready…’, I’ll say ‘Oh, oh, oh, sweet child o’ mine…dinner’s ready’.

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Mega Mind is one of our favourites, and the line ‘…and I love you, random citizen’ speaks to so much more than just a giggle from movie night…it epitomizes my mindset and is a major contributing factor to my ‘sunshine and rainbows’ world.

While my kids were growing up, my parenting style was based largely upon my understanding of unconditional love. And truthfully, having this core belief as the lodestone of my parental compass is a huge part of why they survived teenage hood 😉

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I learned very early on that it was necessary to have a strong moral compass to keep me on the straight and narrow, in life, but also in parenting.

As a leader – which as parents we are – I strived to do my best to lead by example. Mostly because it’s the right thing to do, but also because everybody knows people won’t do what you say, they’ll do what you do.

Beginning with the end in mind I knew that unconditional love was the key. Having a long-term vision to foster independence and empathy in my kids helped me see past whatever the current struggle was. Keeping things in perspective allowed me to ‘pick my battles’ as they say…

By no means have I been awarded a medal as the Worlds’ Best Mom [though I am pretty sure it’s in the mail], however, I’ve learned a thing or two along the way that helped keep me focused.

Well rounded, magnetic humans was the end-goal, so it was equally important that they become self-directed thinkers. Deep down I knew it would click for them. Eventually.

Some of the lessons included:

Show them how to always give their best and highest effort by always giving my best and highest effort.

Redirect your best self into a positive experience-based teacher –  you’ll be setting a contagious example at the same time.

Rather than lecture about priorities and responsibilities, instil within them morals and values.

Find the good in everything.

We all live in the house, therefore, it’s everyone’s privilege to pitch in around the house.

You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

Avoid drama by not expending negative energy into being all pissed off about this, that, or the other thing. *”Life is too shorts.” RIP Jaydon Summerfeldt*

Get done what needs to be done, calmly, and from a place of love. This will energize you, rather than drain you while having so many things on your to-do list.

Don’t cut them slack only to hold it over their heads or use it as leverage.

Don’t keep tabs or tally who owes who what because you did some thing on their behalf.

Stick to it – it’s 100% worth it!!

Acceptable: I would like, or may I please have. Not Acceptable: I want.

Above all else, Love unconditionally. Even when you don’t want to or think you can’t.

It is good to be me, and I am very blessed and highly favoured because I have decided to make the best of everything and because I choose to feel the best in everyone.

Well done is better than well said

During a recent performance review at work, my boss was explaining a 5-point self-assessment and made it very clear that he NEVER awards feedback in the Always column. As we approached the part about my attitude, he lifted his head said:

‘I know I literally just said I don’t hand out ‘Always’ ratings…however upon reviewing the attitude and presence you consistently bring to the office, anything less would have been an injustice to you. Well done.

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Sara said to me the other day that her understanding of unconditional love meant doing something for somebody even if she didn’t want to, and doing it before she would do something else for herself in its place.

I explained to her that the true meaning of unconditional love, in fact, is loving someone regardless of what they do; without an agenda or caveat, and for no other reason than because they are who they are and you are who you are.

I’ve often referenced The Eisenhower Matrix when discussing being a good friend, brother, sister, daughter, son etc. to illustrate the difference between Urgent and Important, and how it will often vary depending on who you’re talking to, based on their life experiences.

In this particular instance, Sara was faced with a challenge that was urgent to her friend and while it was important, it wasn’t urgent in her eyes, yet she allowed their-urgency to become her-urgency. As she described the situation in retrospect, the resentment was evident in her voice yet she dismissed her feelings with a shoulder shrug by saying “It’s a good thing I love him unconditionally”.

She wasn’t acting from a place of love, she was acting from a place of guilt. Unconditional love has nothing to do with making yourself available on a whim, or sacrificing your own priorities because someone else can’t get their own ducks in a row.

 

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In my profession, we hear one saying all the time, so imagine my delight when Sara quoted it back to me at the end of our conversation…asking how it related to her challenge.

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This doesn’t only mean grandiose gestures such as donating a kidney or building homes on a Tsunami-devastated island…helping other people get what they want can even mean helping them achieve 5-extra-minutes-of-sleep or saving the day by bringing a roll of TP to the helpless, stranded person at the end of the hall.

The implementation of unconditional love comes in many forms…including, for instance…doing the dishes.

Have you ever assigned ‘dish duty’ to someone…

yet the sink magically remains full of dirty dishes?

Frustrating, right!?

Doesn’t have to be.

When you do the dishes for somebody else because they didn’t do it, you’re not doing it from a place of love, rather from a place of anger – begrudgingly sacrificing your time [and sanity] because some ass-hat didn’t do the dishes – again. There’s a difference between doing something for someone else in a selfless manner, and being a sucker.

This forces you into second place as far as your own priorities are concerned, and the inconvenience you feel is usually preceded with – or followed very quickly by – feelings of resentment, frustration and/or disappointment.

The toxicity resulting from negative emotions consumes your heart and your mind, torturing you as it resonates throughout your entire being, eventually becoming part of the energy around you, and therefore by extension, the energy or vibe of your home.

Speaking from personal experience, it’s highly unlikely that the dish-ditcher (*cough, cough, Michael*) will leap off the couch when they hear the commotion in the kitchen and race in to take over, apologies in tow. Unconditional love means loving the dish-ditchers even when they don’t do the dishes. They might not appreciate it, but the Universe does if you do it with love.

It’s not about doing the dishes for somebody because they didn’t; it’s about doing the dishes so you they can do something else.

Fundamentally, these two things are the same, at the end of the day, choosing to act with love rather than anger can sometimes mean that

– – you’re the one doing the dishes – –

…yet the feelings, thoughts and emotions you choose to associate with that particular action can’t help but manifest themselves into their physical equivalent in the form of energy, which will – without fail -reverberate throughout your life.

For better or worse.

Therefore, it’s really about doing the dishes so you can do something other than bitch about the dishes not being done.

When you act from a place of love, you set yourself free and everything becomes easier. Subconsciously, we inflict so much unnecessary pain and suffering onto ourselves and those around us. Day after day, these seemingly inconsequential decisions shape our world – stories we tell ourselves about how much we have to do, or why the kids are ungrateful, or how life has stacked the odds against us. By telling ourselves these stories – we concede to a tough life, allowing these tiny battles chip away at our souls – slowly but surely turning what is and should be a dream life, into a real-life horror story.

Simple changes to how you perceive situations…the stories you tell yourself regarding how you feel about your experiences, can and will have a dramatic impact on your life for the better.

It’s not about what did or didn’t happen.

It’s about the feeling you associated to what did or didn’t happen.

Your kids are watching. If you throw a fit about doing the dishes, what sane person would expect them not to throw a fit as well? You know that they say about Monkey’s…

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Acting from a place of servant leadership does not mean you are an actual servant in the Cinderella sense of the word, but rather, it means doing what you do, and doing it with love, regardless. Doing the dishes with love doesn’t mean you love doing the dishes.

When putting love first – even if it means doing the dishes yourself – you act from a place of love; you create the time and space in your schedule so that they can do other things, and your payback is 100-fold…this act of selfless love actually makes time and space in your heart, also!!

Giving without the expectation of reciprocity is very freeing. It’s rare that the Universe will return your efforts to you in the same form.

Instead, maybe the person ahead of you in the drive-thru will pay for your coffee.

Or smile from the next car as you wait at the light.

Or someone will hold the door open for you.

Or shovel your snow.

Or simply say Hi.

Now don’t get me wrong, you may be doing a lot of dishes in the 18+ years that they live at home, but I promise you it’s all worth it when you overhear them talking to someone about acting from a place of love, or when they act selflessly by helping someone else, or that glorious day when you come home and the dishes are actually done, and they even have a glass of wine ready for you because they recognize and appreciate that you had a long day!!

Helping other people with seemingly inconsequential tasks so they can do other things means you are opening your heart to love and by extension, it opens their heart to love as well.

Love is all that is real.

And with love all things are possible.

My wish for you my friends, is that you keep your sinks clear of dirty dishes and your hearts open to the possibility of love in all that you do. I promise you this – you’ll be glad you did!!

Love,

Jen

 

Optimists Rule The World | MKE Year 3 Week 17

Kindness, unlike Unicorns should not exist merely in our imaginations.

As an empath, thinking of others first isn’t a difficult or challenging task for me. Because my world is always Sunshine and Rainbows, it’s not hard for me to find things to be grateful for, or ways to show my appreciation to the Universe. What I’m learning, however, as I track the evolution of my thoughts – essentially, the evolution of my actual DNA – is that being kind to myself is equally, if not more important.

Be kind, for everyone is fighting a difficult battle.

-Plato

Faith vs. Belief

I’m stuck in this back-and-forth…an endless tennis match of my thoughts, torn between heart and mind – trying to decide if Faith is exclusive to Religion, or not. I don’t believe Faith has anything to do with Religion at all. Or anything not to do with it, for that matter.

Gravity. We don’t need to ‘believe’ in it Perez, for it to play a fairly significant role in our day-to-day lives…right?!!

The difficulty however, is that belief precedes the action…deciding where to place my Faith therefore, is a critical juncture to all success; to my past, present and future successes.

So, where do I want to place my Faith?

We all have equal capacity for Faith, it’s all about what you believe, and where you choose to place that belief.

When I talk about Faith, I’m not referencing Religion…while I haven’t related to Religion in a long time (…been on the short end when ‘Christians’ hide their judgement of others behind the guise of ‘Religion’), however I do relate to God…so now, I am simply…

Spiritually Optimistic…I choose to do good and be good to people, with full Faith that they will do good things – not back – but forward.

I give, wholeheartedly, without the expectation of reciprocity.

The creator doesn’t judge people until they’re at the Pearly Gates…so what makes us think we have the right to do so?

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Why do we need to judge people at all? Perhaps judgement is nothing more than a fear of the loss of power? Why can’t we all just get along?

The bottom line is nobody really knows – yet it has been proven that we project our insecurities onto other people by judging them (quietly to ourselves, or verbally to others) in order to deflect our lack of self confidence.

In order to remain on the straight and narrow, I often ask myself?

Am I seeking approval? Perhaps…

…more than that though…am I seeking to avoid disapproval…

My belief is intact. Belief in my strengths, and belief that I can overcome my weaknesses. Belief in my abilities to better the world for myself and for others. My unending, optimistic belief that kindness cures all.

Be kind. Be Gentle.

Constant thoughts of gratitude are a great form of prayer.

The Hedgehog Concept | MKE Year 3 Week 15

The Hedgehog Concept

When you take care of the most important activity first, it’s amazing how easy it is to find time to do all the other stuff…the little things that are such time-gobblers.

“The fox knows many things, but the hedgehog knows one big thing.” Isaiah Berlin explored the fundamental distinction that exists between those who are fascinated by the infinite variety of things (foxes) and those who relate everything to a central, all-embracing system (hedgehogs).”

We must ask ourselves two questions…

Q1 | What am I pretending not to know?

and

Q2 | What would the person that I intend to become do next?

You know those videos that illustrate the importance of scheduling the big things in your life first, trying to visually prove that when you schedule the big stuff first, magically it all fits in?  So for this BLOG, I’m jumping past the cleverly illustrated examples of how so many people start backwards…

…and fast-forwarding instead, to illustrating the importance of scheduling – and doing – the big things first, such as making family, faith and income producing activities the priority *imagine tennis balls being put into a tennis ball sleeve*…

Secondly, a visual explanation of how it makes so much more sense to follow the most important activity with the supporting or background details *now imagine pouring rice into the sleeve and watch it fill in the space between the tennis balls*…

Next, and time permitting, allow time for the ‘other’ stuff – the minutia – such as cleaning the house, scrolling your social media feed, updating your phone, organizing cupboards etc. *imagine sand being poured into the sleeve, wiggling its way in between the tennis balls and the rice*…

As a reward for working smarter, not harder, we can then add the ‘fruits of life’ as my friend Mark J. puts it…the fun stuff, the ‘us-time’ or ‘me-time’ that we crave *finally, imagine pouring water into the sleeve…over top of the tennis balls, the rice and the sand.*

Now, stand back and marvel at how beautifully it all fits in…So why then, do we all tend to fill our days with the sand first…???

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On too many occasions, I’ve looked at my business as a reflection of myself – only to become frustrated at the fact that I’m not making the income I’d like to make, or more accurately…need to make. I get down on myself for not doing the simple tasks…the most important tasks, rather than filling my days with ‘busy work’…all the useless, time consuming, non income-producing activities, and for what? …for nothing except the ability to have an excuse to fall back on for my lack of progress in business.

It’s far easier to trick ourselves into believing we’re actually working…when in fact we are just pushing piles of stuff around on our desks, rarely accomplishing anything of value or importance.

Justifying the avoidance factor in business…and to an extent, in every day life as well, introspection has taught me that if I fear doing the activity that will bring me success – let’s say it’s telling people about my product/service despite KNOWING that I understand my product/service – upon analyzing said avoidance on a deeper level, I’ve realized that I don’t actually have a fear of sharing my business, but rather a fear of being rejected…a fear of people not taking my advice, a fear of putting myself out there and being shot down.

So this is what happens when we concentrate – the truth reveals itself. And it does truly set you free. If you’ll allow it – embrace it rather than reject it.

The avoidance on my part is not whether they do or don’t elect to become a customer, rather for some silly and strange reason, I place extreme personal success or failure based on if they deem my advice worthy or not. I’ve equated them not buying my product/service with them not valuing my opinion – instantly, I become reclusive and my desire to be recognized for creative expression gets all bent out of shape and so I simply stop asking because then I can’t possibly be rejected. Ridiculous, I know.  This is nothing but fear, and everybody knows that nothing more than F.E.A.R. is simply False Evidence Appearing Real.  

I was re-reading How to Win Friends and Influence Others yesterday and read a quote by Benjamin Franklin…

“I will speak ill of no man, and speak all the good I know of everybody.”

It takes self-control to be understanding and forgiving. Along this #LifeChanging journey of self-discovery, I began implementing the 7-day Mental Diet, making a habit of not judging others – which has helped me realize that when I was previously jumping to conclusions about people or situations, I was merely avoiding doing that very same work on myself.

When you can face your fears – which is often [sadly] ourselves – and overcome them, it is then that we discover our greatness on the other side!

I’ve begun recognizing my own self-sabotaging behaviours, and was recently introduced to a powerful resource, a book called Get off your But! by Sean Stephenson.

From the Inside Flap (via Amazon.ca):

“This book will show you how to move beyond your limitations and begin to experience and share your gifts at the highest level.. . . Read this book in its entirety, follow the lessons closely, and watch as your life transforms into a masterpiece filled with an abundance of bliss, passion, and gratitude.” —From the Foreword by Anthony Robbins

In addition to presenting Sean Stephenson’s unbelievable life story, Get Off Your “But,” offers anyone who needs to conquer fears and insecurities a hands-on guide for overcoming the forces of negativity and self-sabotage. Sean—a successful psychotherapist—shows what it takes to overcome the big bumps in the road, eliminate excuses, end insecurities, and ultimately stand up for happiness and success in life. As Sean explains, anyone can fall victim to the “Buts”:

  • “But” Fears (But what if I fail . . .)
  • “But” Insecurities (But I’m not good enough . . .)
  • “But” Excuses (But there’s no time . . .)

Get Off Your “But” offers a practical guide for putting fear behind you and building the inner resources to become self-confident at work and at home. It’s time to get off your “but” and start leading the life you dream.

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Book reviews, as per Amazon.ca:

  • “Sean is an amazing person with an important message.”
    —President Bill Clinton
  • “Sean Stephenson is the Yoda of personal development, with less pointy ears.”
    —Jimmy Kimmel, host of ABC’s Jimmy Kimmel Live
  • “As we struggle with inertia to become the best that we can be, Sean Stephenson’s book informs and inspires us to stand up and keep moving forward. Thank you, Sean, for your life, your work, and your abundant sharing.”
    —Ken Blanchard, coauthor, The One Minute Manager
  • “Sean Stephenson is a hero to me. When you read his book, he will be a hero to you as well. His moving stories about himself and others who have found the gifts in their pain will teach you so much about courage and, just as important, you will learn how to build your own sense of confidence when it comes to health, career, relationships, and more. Do yourself a favor read this book! ”
    —Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and Embracing Uncertainty
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My JENNERGY | MKE Year 3 Week 11

I realize now that it’s really more how I am IN the Universe, rather than what I am TO the Universe that matters most.

My destiny is a lot more about the Universe’s plan for me, for my life, rather than my plan for the Universe…

The brilliance of the Master Key System, especially this week [WEEK5], confirms that the more I read, the more evidence I discover to support living by a code rather than a direct course of action.

My entire life…I’ve heard, read, and really felt for that matter, that ‘the Universe has a plan for me’. I’ve received encouragement to ‘live my greatness’, yet I’ve drawn a blank when trying to articulate what that ‘greatness’ actually is.

The link that I realized this past week is that I was understanding what I was hearing incorrectly – I was trying to do the Universe’s work…I was trying to be the message and the messenger. I should have been acting as a channel for the message.

Same old thinking...same old results

As Haanel states in 5-11:

“But if we have stored away nothing but courageous thought, if we have been optimistic, positive, and have immediately thrown any kind of negative thought on the scrap heap, have refused to have anything to do with it, have refused to associate with it or become identified with it in any way, what then is the result?

Our mental material is now of the best kind; we can weave any kind of material we want; we can use any colour we wish; we know that the texture is firm, that the material is solid, that it will not fade, and we have no fear, no anxiety concerning the future; there is nothing to cover, there are no patches to hide.”

Truth be told, the only thing I’ve ever really known as a sure and real thing, is that I wanted to be HAPPY. Aside from that I couldn’t have articulated from the seat of my soul – my Solar Plexus – what I wanted out of life, who I am, or what I can bring to the world. For as long as I can remember, I’ve kind of been beating myself up because I haven’t truly been able to answer the questions, among others:

What do you want to do?

Who are you?

What do you want to become?

Who are you, and what do you really want?

Really annoying…because I’m really smart and I should be able to reverse-engineer this kind of stuff. How on earth I could pigeon-hole all of my wonderment into only one thing has never made any sense to me. And I’m smart…like just shy of MENSA smart but this one embarrassingly simple questions have evaded me for decades. Seriously?!?

Haanel goes on in 5-12 to connect this though, namely:

“These are psychological facts; there is no theory or guess work about these thinking processes; there is nothing secret about them; in fact, they are so plain that every one can understand them. The thing to do is to have a mental house-cleaning, and to have this house-cleaning every day, and keep the house clean. Mental, moral and physical cleanliness are absolutely indispensable if we are to make progress of any kind.”

Seems I’ve always had a hard time choosing just one thing, or narrowing down to only one path. Historically, I’ve had difficulty answering those questions, perhaps because I’m so multi-passionate?

I’ve mistakenly associated ‘living my greatness’ with ‘being some specific thing’…

… a writer, a mom, a servant leader, an employee, an entrepreneur…or with specific traits like bravery, tenacity, strength, honour, resilience, persistence…insanity. I haven’t had a messy house, it’s simply not been kept clean everyday. I haven’t taken my gifts and put them forth with purpose.

I’ve enjoyed everything, everything that I’ve done in my life, which is a long list; varied from accounting to marketing, to driving, to travel planning…there hasn’t been any one thing that defines me…I’m just one of those people that’s blessed with a varied skill set. I’m talking permanent Sunshine and Rainbows kind of stuff. I’m a mom and can throw a kick-ass party, I’m a baker, I’m funny and well spoken, I like to proofread and I’m pretty good at finances, I love to travel, and I don’t have a green thumb but have learned to be ok with it, I’ve got above-average communication skills and I make a mean banana bread, and I love my kids, hard!

I’m all about being HAPPY. Spreading Happiness. Sharing HOPE.

My best friend is a paramedic, and she has known she wanted to be a paramedic since she was young, I admire that dedication and rooted knowledge. She’s been a paramedic forever – that’s her identity, that’s what she does, that’s her thing, and that’s her brightness the world. I love that – I love it so much.

Yet when I talk to her, she loves that I don’t have just one thing, so she says I can do everything, and is in awe that everything I touch turns to gold. She thinks it’s amazing that I know how to do so many things, because [as she puts it], she only knows how to one thing – paramedic. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. [Isn’t she beautiful!!]

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Our life story isn’t defined by the things that happen to us, instead how we handle it. The good and the bad.

And it’s high-time that I harness the full breadth of my uniqueness. Rather than holding myself back as I have been [by giving into my ghosts, allowing resistance to be the governor of my destiny] – I’m allowing myself to celebrate it, embrace it.

My gift to the world is HOW I think.

How I react.

How I share my brightness.

Blissfully ignorant.

Full of empathy. True joy.

Edifying everyone…building up their greatness, helping them embrace it.

How I am is part of my DNA.

I am so unique. So special. Insightful, pure, honest, empathetic, compassionate, funny and kind.

I can be what I will to be.

My Jennergy is the essence, the heartbeat, of all that I am

All I need do is reach out and claim it. Claim my greatness. The world is counting on it!

Infinite life flows through me, because I earnestly desire happiness for everyone.

I hereby assert my claim over my unique trifecta of Brains | Beauty | Bravery and the more I put it into practice, the deeper I feel my connection to the Universe, urging me to continue the cycle and share it more and more.

I promise to manifest Liberty+Recognition for Creative Expression and living the Law of Compensation; giving more without the expectation of reciprocity.

…BTDubs, this question mark has been hanging around my home for about 7-years – sometimes stuffed in a closet, sometimes hung in a prominent place…depending where I am in life and whether or not I can answer the question. When I feel I can’t answer it, I stuff it away – or is it the other way around?… I promise you all right here and now, never again am I going to take it away from my daily sight lines, if I do, I give permission for one of my top 5 favourite humans – AA – to take it from me and hang it in his own home!

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Thank you for joining me on my journey through the Master Key Experience…your comments fire me up and encourage me to continue Blogging. Thank you for that! I am very Great-Ful!

Jen

Hard Wired Happiness | MKE Year 3 Week 10

Magnetic Happiness | The Happiness Project

Think HAPPY thoughts. That’s really all there is to it.

Time and time again, against all odds and seemingly incomprehensible, relentless challenges, I remain blissfully ignorant to the negativity and destruction trying to breach my psyche and pull me down. I refuse to engage in drama (actually, am allergic to it), instead, I elect to see the best in everyone – find the good in every situation – identify the silver lining. This is how I remain diligent to answering my call to GREATNESS! By remaining faithful to being HAPPY, always.

Telling my story, and helping other people tell theirs’, is an extremely impactful and very powerful experience for me. Through storytelling, and empowering others to tell their stories as well, my greatness is sired – HAPPINESS fulfills me, and frees my imagination.

Blogging provides an outlet to think out loud – hearing/reading the impact it has on other people really fuels me, encourages me, and lifts up my spirits when I’m feeling stuck. Or frustrated. Or scared. Or any other number of treacherous thoughts – that, if I give into them for even a moment, can send me down a path of destruction.

So instead of giving in, I let go – I choose let it all out. I am whole, and I am free, and I am HAPPY!!

I am whole, because I am HAPPY. I am HAPPY, because I am free. I am free, because I am whole, because I am HAPPY. I can be what I will to be, and I will to be HAPPY. I am HAPPY.

Thinking outside the confines of structure…allowing the words to flow, seeing where they organically end up has magic to it. Learning the process of expressing myself. Enjoying the discovery. Giving myself permission to be vulnerable. You’ve Gotta feel it. If you feel it, your subconscious will work it out, effortlessly, and EVERY time!

Dictated or typed, sentences and an endless mash-ups of notes jotted on paper (or my hand), then edit, edit, edit…massaging my thoughts into a story. Developing a relentless, underlying tone – a pattern, a habit – of persistence and grace, sarcasm and hard truths, but most of all, empathy, compassion and understanding.

At the end of the day, my precious cargo – my sacred thoughts, my intimate self – is set free to dance in curious wonder, despite, or perhaps in spite of all the trials and tribulations. I refuse to give any power to fear, jealousy, anger, resentment, hatred…instead I CHOOSE to focus on the sunshine and rainbows. Believe me, sometimes they are super hard to find, but the reward has been life-changing.

Magnetic Happiness. Contagious Enthusiasm…a blissful existence, where the sun always shines, because my HAPPY powers its’ generator, and anything less simply won’t do.

Think. Feel. Do. Be. Become. Evolve.  

GRATITUDE, Y’ALL

In my experience, it all begins and ends with Gratitude.

When I didn’t have anything to give, I surrendered everything I had. When I had no reason to be happy, I chose to share the love. When circumstance had won that round and I retreated to the corner to lick my wounds, I was grate-ful for having a corner to retreat to.

Gratitude is a choice. Finding pleasure in the simple things – take time to smell the roses kind of stuff – is an easy way to embrace gratitude. When you embrace the GIVE MORE GET MORE mentality, Happy can become your default setting. Trust me, it’s blissful!

Take time to notice the sunrise. Watch as the clouds shift above you. Notice when someone smiles at you – and smile back! Greet the clerk by name, and watch their eyes light up.

When was the last time you were grateful for your ability to see? For having fingers and toes, and opposable thumbs for that matter?

My Gratitude Stack

I carry my Gratitude Stack around with me, connected with a jump ring…rests under my pillow at night, on my desk while I work, in the console of my car while I drive. I’ve read these cards so many times that their very presence calms me!

Want more HAPPY? Try This:

  • 20 things you loved as a kid
  • 20 things you love about yourself
  • 20 things you love about the people around you (especially if relationships are challenging)
  • 20 things you want to do before the end of your tomorrows’
  • 20 things you might like to learn how to do, or want to teach to your loved ones

DON’T WORRY

True story…when you Google ‘HAPPY Images’ an overwhelming majority is versions of Bob Marley’s song lyrics…every little thing, is gonna be alright.

I want to be known as an Ambassador of Happiness as well. I will persist until I succeed. I will whisper my legacy until the entire world can hear it, and I will know it has been heard when the wonder of it all echoes through the actions of others – seen as their increased confidence, fortified in their self belief, and our individual successes will be the collective voice that shouts these wins from the roof tops!

IT’S ALL, ALL GOOD

Relax already. Stop chasing the next best outfit, or hair style, or boat, house or even the perfect Christmas gift. Society as a whole could greatly benefit from becoming less concerned about having the best ‘stuff’, and more concerned about ‘being’ the best self. My shift in focus to chasing the next best positive thoughts in order to attract an elevated Top 5 group, in order to live a life only imagined, in order to learn new things and make new mistakes, has been all, all good!

LOVE THYSELF

I greet this day with love in my heart.

Today and every day I am growing stronger and more magnetic. With love in my heart I can conquer my fear. With love in my heart I am proud of myself. I love myself and I know me as my own person. Before I meet anyone, with powerful, subconscious announcement ‘I LOVE YOU’ which is personified with a sincere SMILE as my eyes meet theirs.

I am not defined by just ‘one thing’, rather I am everything, all at once.

Completely in tune with the Universe. I exist with grace and ease because I CHOOSE embrace everything with love in my heart. I am perfect, whole, harmonious, loving and complete. And above all else, I am HAPPY!

I LOVE YOU JHC

IMAGINATION is the Master Key

I see things that other people don’t see. Creative thought fuels my Happiness.

The other day my daughter and I were in the Tim Horton’s parking lot and she was commenting how, while inside, she had seen one of the boys who she went to elementary school with. She had a few snappy remarks about how he had tormented her, followed her around a little too close, ran her foot over with the door in grade 3…and she was working herself into a flap about having come within 10-feet of this boy who she associated all this angst with…

Then, as if on cue, an young, tall, skinny employee came out to empty the garbages that sat only a few car-lengths away…now, to paint this picture for you – it’s cold where we live, so he had a winter jacket on, and, because safety-first, he was also wearing a reflective vest, and had a garbage bag tucked into each pocket, on top of that, he seemed pretty happy…which was commendable since he was on garbage duty in sub-zero weather, in the dark [which doesn’t necessarily mean it was late, because up here we basically neighbour the Arctic so WinterTime is pretty much pitch black by dinner]…

…so picture this: I piped up to distract her from her rant by saying…

“Sessa, check it! He’s a Garbage Bag Man – can’t you just see him skipping down the sidewalk, flailing his arms like those inflatable Gumbi-looking blow-ups that car dealerships hoist onto their roofs during a big sale…” And all of a sudden, she let go of her negative feelings, her face un-crumpled, her eyes began to shine as she broke into her adorable giggle. Mission accomplished! How can I be mad or sad or grouchy when stuff like that rolls through my mind all day long?!? Perfectly Impossible. Exactly the way I like it.

HAPPY is my default setting. ‘Think HAPPY thoughts’ has been repeatedly drilled into my kids since they were born – it’s my motus-operandi.

Hard wiring happiness begins in the mind.

Which is great, because the Mind is ruled by these 7 Laws. Master these Laws and you will become the HAPPY Master of your own Universe.

…(total flashback to my childhood here – Saturday morning cartoons…remember the Master’s of the Universe…)… anyways, I digress…the 7 Laws of the Mind are:

Law of Practice

The 5P’s: Perfect Practice Prevents Poor Performance. With practice of the correct things, we improve on all 6 of the other Laws of the Mind.

Practice makes perfect PERMANENT.  If you’re practicing the wrong things, you’re perfecting the wrong habits/behaviours/outcomes. Do you really want to make those permanent?? Likely not. Practice what you want, not what you don’t want.

Law of Forgiveness

There can be no connection to the Divine mind where anger or resentment against a brother or sister, justified or not, exists. To access the Diving and connect the subconscious to the Omnipotent, Omniscient and Omnipresent Creator we must forgive everyone and anyone to clear the channel.

Law of Substitution

We cannot think about two things at the same time. One thought will always dominate. With a heart filled with gratitude, the mind cannot possibly be in fear, lack, or judgement.

Compliment someone on their hair, or their clothes, or car…or eyes, or whatever. Don’t wish you had that ‘thing’ and begrudge them for possessing it. Be happy for them that they have it! Share the love people. When you do, more love will come your way.

Law of Dual Thought

Thought is a combination of ideation and feeling. We can attach any feeling we want to a thought. Happiness, therefore, is a choice.

When Sara and I got run over by that pick-up truck, I didn’t wallow in self pity for being in a wheelchair or for seeing her tied to a hospital bed for 6-weeks, instead, I was great-ful I still had a daughter to love, and watch grow. I was great-ful for the doctors who were helping her heal, rather than focusing on surgery after surgery because she had no structural integrity in her pelvis. Circumstantial trauma will not traumatize my life…I simply won’t allow it.

Law of Relaxation

Mental effort defeats itself – exactly the opposite of physical effort! A relaxed, calm state of mind is the only doorway to progress mentally. Relaxation ion thought is the only access to Infinite Intelligence!

SIT30 has become a daily reminder to take time for myself and focus inside. Until I did this I didn’t fully grasp that I had been searching for my answers from the outside…expecting the world to fulfill me. When I shifted my focus inward, my HAPPINESS exploded, I embraced the magnetic wonder of my childhood self, and the world laid all opportunity at my doorstep.

At the end of the day, when all is said and done and I look the gal in the glass in the eye – she is, indeed, my HAPPY friend!!

Have a HAPPY day!

Jen

Thank you for reading! I’m so great-ful [because I am great and my heart if full of gratitude] you’ve joined me on this journey. Please leave your comments and observations below…they fuel my fire and I’m so appreciative for your time and interaction.

Have a HAPPY Day.Jen

Red Pencil Epidemic | MKE Year 3 Week 8

Humans are born with two fears – the fear of falling, and the fear of loud noises – the rest, we learn (or rather, we learn to accept). 

For some reason, our school system seems to get off by telling us how bad we’ve done, rather than celebrating our victories [however small or insignificant they may seem]. Take any spelling test any kid has ever taken…on a list of 10 words let’s say you get 8 right and 2 wrong — we never see 8 green checkmarks, but rather 2 red X’s that stand out on the page like a punch in the face.

image-23 Don’t get me wrong, I hold teachers in the highest regard, but I can’t wrap my head around the constant negativity focus. Can you imagine how different the world would be if we were praised with 8 green check marks instead of 2 red X’s?!!!

Fear does not promote learning. Our mental habit patterns are permeated with it. We exist in a dull ache of consciousness (according to Marianne Williamson). We’re just so programmed to live in fear that it becomes our default.

Our emotions flow from our thoughts, not the other way around. The depth of our wounds keeps us mired in them, keeps us stuck in a river of mediocrity. When we emotionalize situations in our mind, we intensify the pain. The longer we do this, the more comfortable we become with the pain, and then without warning or apology we become so comfortable with the pain that we subconsciously seek out new ways to create it. *Quite the gut punch, right!*

Fear lives in the past and the past has nothing to do with the present. 

The situation is not the enemy – the feelings we’ve attached to the situation are the enemy. Our perception of the past keeps us stuck in it…hidden emotional knives puncture us as we replay the feelings over and over again – in order to heal we must let go of the fear. Change only occurs when you make the decision to heal. It’s like reprogramming your emotional computer. You must consider the possibility of another possibility. What if what we perceive as fear is actually excitement or inspiration?! Did you know that the neuro pathways produced by fear versus the neuro pathways produced by excitement are only one or two neurons apart?? 

Healing occurs in the present, not the past. 

True Story: There is no such thing as a grey sky – the sky is always blue, sometimes it’s just covered in grey clouds. 

If you want to live a life unlike the past…what you do, or don’t do, determines your growth. The world changes when we change. We must take on a more gentle perception of how we experience our experiences. We cannot fight fear – we must replace it with LOVE. We must embrace an enlightened love if you want to live a life unlike the past. 

What you do, or don’t do, determines your growth.

There is no need to live in fear. 

The key to happiness is the decision to be happy. 

When you release fear, a whole world of opportunity will unfold at your feet. When you’re ready to forgive anyone or anything that has hurt you, an affirmation I’ve used to help accomplish this is

‘I forgive you _______________ , and I release you to the Holy Spirit.’

Be your own green pencil! 

Think HAPPY thoughts. 

Lead with LOVE.

YES YOU CAN!!

Love,

Jen

Here’s what moved me this time last year…MKE8 | Directing my Valkyrie

 

A [True] LOVE Story | MKE Year 3 Week 6

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Would it be alright with you if I share a personal story?

It takes place on an enchanted island and as with all great LOVE stories, there are dragons, and best friends who giggle until it hurts … but most of all, it’s about falling in LOVE! And everybody knows that LOVE lets us see ordinary things in an extraordinary way.

But first, a little back of the story…

Cute dragonLooking back on my life before MKE, it was as though I had spent my previous 11,111 days on this planet on auto-pilot. I hadn’t yet clued in that I had been trapped in survival-mode; a prison of my own making. The Dragons keeping close watch to ensure my subconscious shackles were secure [sadly, I am the Dragon].

You see, back then, me and my life-goals…we weren’t that tight. I’d done a pretty good job of repeatedly proving that the life I was living wasn’t getting me anywhere other than exactly where I already was. My current trajectory wasn’t going to help me reach my hopes and dreams, mostly because I didn’t even have a clear understanding of what those hopes and dreams were in the first place.

Where’s the disconnect?

As kids, we embrace valiant dreams and celebrate the grandeur of dreaming big…of becoming Astronauts, or Presidents, or Rocket Scientists – living our own truths with adventurous delight from inside Macaroni Spaceships that we’re certain will transport us to the Moon every day after school. Yet somewhere along the way, we abandon our innocence and lose sight of our innate greatness. We grow older, but we forget to actually live. We take on the weight of societal expectations; abandoning our backyard dreams for some version of ‘Keeping up with Joneses’…

Life was blah. Work was blah. Friendships were hard because life was blah. You get it. Sad. Perhaps even pathetic. Boring for sure.

Without warning or apology, the unremarkable days

morphed into unremarkable nights,

which morphed back into more unremarkable days.

And slowly…

…the days became weeks

…the weeks became months

… and the months became years

until the years themselves faded into a

c o m p l a c e n t   b l u r   o f   m  e  d  i  o  c  r  i  t  y.

What had I been doing with my life??

When did I become comfortable with stagnation?

Why did I stop believing I deserved more?

Did I have any confidence left…or was I drained out of my through the ever-losing battle that exists when raising teenagers?

Until this one time, in 2015 – it hit me: If I could believe in Santa for like 10-years, why couldn’t I believe in myself for 5-minutes? And so began my journey back towards myself…

Introspection led me to a friend who aimed me towards becoming a self-directed thinker, and in late Spring 2015, we embarked on a 13-day adventure-of-a-lifetime together to Kaua’i, Hawaii.

Arriving a few days before the start of the business conference, I kicked off my flip flops, grabbed my Maui Jim’s and a good book, and headed for the beach…my only agenda: to spend time taking in the wonderment and beauty of Hawaii [it had been an unusually cold and long winter in Calgary, Canada…by the way, when people in Calgary use the term ‘pearly whites’ we aren’t referring to our teeth – but rather our legs … nearly transparent and pale as a ghost from being hidden beneath layers of clothing -24/7 while trying to prevent hypothermia]…but forgive me, I digress…

Turns out, the Master Key Experience Live Event was wrapping up, and as luck would have it, some of the residual ‘awe’ – in my opinion: the essence of the event – rubbed off on me and that’s when everything changed. True story!!

As the conference began, I consciously set aside my past experiences, my bias, and what I thought I already knew, and committed to participating with an open heart and an open mind, and to simply let the event do its thing. Trusting and believing that some of the magic and energy I felt radiating from people who had attended the Master Key Master Mind Alliance Live Event, would also extend into the course I was taking, seeing as the same hosts were facilitating both events…and man, was I ever in for a treat!!

Attending conference by day, and exploring the island by night changed my life. For the first time in a very long time I remembered who I was. A clarity descended upon me as I observed – silently, and with complete childlike wonder, as the true Jen lurched herself to the foreground from deep down inside me where I had been, quite accidentally, keeping her captive. I discovered more about myself in 2-weeks than I had during my previous 34 trips around the sun.

I was able to understand more clearly, and to my astonishment, effortlessly. Up until that very moment, everything had been a struggle. This re-introduction to my true and purest self annihilated the introverted, reserved, hesitant versions of self that I cloaked myself in while trying to ‘fit in’ with society. The clarity simultaneously silenced my fears of the unknown, yet was successful at reassuring me that everything was going to be alright. Better than alright actually. I was finally free.

I fell in love with the person I’m meant to be…

Calm, yet bursting with excitement

Surrendered, yet in complete control

Responsible, yet free-spirited

Daring and brave, yet grounded and realistic

Humble, yet confident

Sweet, yet strong

And as I shed my many false cloaks and embraced the true me…I noticed that I became one with the wonder of Hawaii with this group of spectacular human beings; and for this I feel very blessed and highly favoured.

The sensation of being alive suddenly became completely intoxicating. It was as if I was experiencing everything for the very first time…

The kiss of the ocean breeze felt warmer as it sailed against my skin

The food tasted richer – I could sense the nourishment delivered throughout my body

Hugs from strangers reached right down into the forgotten depths of my being

Emotions resonated directly into my essence; into my soul

My brain was forging new neuro pathways – I could literally feel myself evolving

I could hear and feel the gears spinning as I turned my back to years of cement and revered in the delight of chipping away at it. It was as if a lifetime worth of passion, intense desires and enlightenment descended upon me in an instant, like a ray of sunshine bursting through the clouds on a rainy day. I grasped concepts as I never had before, as if the veil of confusion had been lifted and tossed aside.

Every cell in my body felt like it was on fire! As though I had been selected and blessed directly by the Gods, and was being escorted to my bliss on the wings of angels.

I felt so alive – wildly excited to learn and to grow and to evolve..I was not only willing to, but eager to let down my guards and allow my sun to shine brightly. Finally, I was able to just, be me.

LOVE lets us see ordinary things in an extraordinary way

The course that began the following September – the Master Key Experience – taught me that to find these answers I need do nothing more than SIT – to cut through the clutter, disperse the noise, and truly listen to the Beautiful Silence. It was better than having all the answers…I had connected with who I am and why I’m here, and I knew that I AM the answers…I didn’t need to ‘find’ them because they were already inside me.

And it was this life changing adventure that truly taught me about LOVE. Surrounded by like minded people, eager and willing to support me along my journey as they too progressed along their own. These were my people. Here, I felt was at home.

I discovered a few valuable life lessons that have literally changed my DNA; changing how I think, erasing old blueprints, opening my mind to the possibility of new possibilities:

  • That the LOVE for myself is the foundation for all other LOVE
  • That how I see the world changes when looking thru the lens of LOVE [empathy, compassion, understanding, tolerance, patience]
  • In order to be loved how I urned to be loved, I needed to first learn how to LOVE myself

Thank you so much for joining me on this adventure. I’d love to hear about your LOVE too!

Love,

Jen

Curious what moved me this time last year?

MKE6 | Because Science, that’s why!

Beautiful Silence | MKE Year 3 Week 5

The SIT. Powerful stuff. Taking time to internalize the big questions in your life can have a profound effect. Just sit still and listen. If you don’t know why you’re here…try approaching it from a different angle – why are you here and not somewhere else? Ask different questions. Adopt a fresh perspective.

Listen to your heart. Follow your procrastination. People tell you to ignore it – society tries to beat it out of you…but what if what you do when you avoid doing what you should be doing is the key to your purpose?!!?

I’m not saying that procrastination should become your new compass, however, it is a strong indicator of your preferences…take stock of what activities you default to when you’re avoiding ‘adulting’ [read: what you should be doing as an adult] – for instance, I tend to organize things. Before I learned how to train my mind, I would organize my pantry or under the bathroom sink anytime I needed to make follow-up calls for work. So while I’m still making follow-up calls for my vocation, I’ve put into motion a way to incorporate organizing things into my career.

If you can monetize your preferences and make that your career – then you will understand what it means when people say ‘love what you do and you’ll never work another day in your life’.

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Think outside the box will give you a perspective to see things differently when you do that, you can find solutions to common problems. You’ll notice what your default is as long as you remain alert and vigilant and listen attentively. Believe in yourself. Don’t overthink every aspect. Trust the process.

  • Focus on yourself and your truth – following your instinct will guide you back inside.
  • Keep a positive mental state at all times – as much as possible. I tell my kids’ to ‘think happy thoughts’.
  • Personal development. Living on purpose didn’t happen because of what I learned, it’s who I became. Invest in yourself.
  • Turn the radio off – instead, listen to audios in the car…Marianne Williamson…A return to love is one I highly recommend.
  • Follow the leader…emulate those who’ve had success that you want to replicate.

I am so grateful for the life I am living by growing into my best self.

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My commitment to the SIT led me to realize the following:

  • My vibration determines my mindset and my mindset determines my vibration.
  • Before entering my office to write real estate contracts, attend meetings or meet a new prospect, I listen to the song Hallelujah, Christmas edition by the Pentatonix.
  • Wearing clothes that I feel comfortable in – I’ve got a power dress…I wear it for every contract. Simple. Black. Professional.
  • An app called Synctuition has helped me block the noise so I could find my inner voice.

Thanks for following my journey?

Love,

Jen

Curious to see what moved me this time last year? MKE5 | My JENNERGY

STONEWALL | MKE Year 3 Week 4

Today I begin a new life.

I am building a stone wall as my protection.

I’ve accomplished so much and can see it and am so proud of myself.

My mental, moral and physical harmony is valuable and precious.

I can be what I will to be.

As a daily reminder to hold onto my greatness, I named my corporation The CRATOS Group – Cratos meaning ‘The Personification of Strength and Power’.

You know how you’re instructed before each flight to affix your oxygen mask before helping others on an airplane. The same holds true in life…in order to give your best and highest effort you have to fortify your mind to cancel out the noise; cancel out the opinions of others; cancel out the negative self talk; cancel out anything that isn’t serving you and your higher purpose.

What YOU do is all that matters.

My friend Jesse tells me all the time – always beating himself up – hard – about a bad decision he made in front of his young son…he continues ripping himself to shreds over 3-minutes from nearly a decade ago. He has been holding himself hostage by one bad decision, rather than forgiving himself and learning how to be come a better father, a stronger role-model and a better person overall. He didn’t learn from his mistakes – he fell victim to them.

We must fortify the stonewall in front of our own castle. In our own minds. First.

We need to build up our self belief, and that begins from within. We need to monitor what we are watching and what we listen to; we need to make a top 10 list of what we like about ourselves and read it out loud morning, noon and night; we need to surround ourselves with positive, supportive people. This will help us lay each brick the best it can possibly be laid.

We need not think about building an entire wall, rather fortifying only the portion in front of our own homes…which all begins in our own mind. Once we have mastered this, we can then join hands with our neighbours and build stronger friendships, stronger communities…and a stronger world.

Just like Marvel’s Nova Corps Fleet in the movie The Guardians of the Galaxy – how they unify and together, they become stronger.

I can be what I will to be. 

This scene from the movie Facing The Giants is one of my favourites…it reminds me that I am capable of more.

I know my calling is to help connect people to their inner love again. Help them reconnect with their innate greatness – infusing positive self talk strategies to gain self-belief and confidence to live on purpose. In order to help others I must first help myself do exactly the same.

I trust the universe to supply me with all necessary financial resources.

I trust myself to be open to every opportunity and to embrace change in order to put myself out there, in order to both attract, and be ready for, the next steps into my best self, and towards my best life.

I appreciate you joining me on this journey and would love to hear your feedback.

All my best,

Jen

See what moved me during last years’ course: Year 2 Week 4 | [audible gasp] 

The Watched Pot | MKE Year 3 Week 3

Heightened awareness is my ultimate outcome of participating in this MKE course.

We are masterminding to become self-directed thinkers.

I am so honoured to be a part of their journey, and along for my own in the process.

Our observation has a direct effect on our world … how we see things is filtered through our experiences, our bias, our intellect. No two people experience this life in the same way. We have the opportunity to frame every experience to our benefit; however depending on what we’re made of, many people mindlessly fall victim to their circumstance, while others persevere as the victor – as if in spite of it.

Everybody knows the old saying ‘a watched pot never boils’…but here’s the thing – despite knowing that it actually does boil, we still repeat the saying…blindly just throwing it out there with no real purpose.

11e400f3-2189-4c5a-90e4-1e083ed8dc9bTrue Story…a watched pot does in fact boil! The problem is that humans lack the required stick-to-it-iveness to watch it for long enough – it’s the 6-second attention span curse.

 

We need to develop one habit: practicing the skill of intense observation.

We must delete un-truths imposed upon us by other people.

We have to let go of the fallacies fed to us by sheeple.

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This wasn’t the image I wanted – but it’s funny and cute.

How can it be that the same water that softens the noodle, hardens the egg? It’s the same pot of water…yet two completely different outcomes. Let’s say the egg represents someone full of negativity who is unwilling to change, and the noodle represents someone full of negativity but chooses to accept the possibility of a different possibility – and they begin deleting un-truths. 

Same old thinking...same old results

 

The same is true for humans…are you going to be the egg and become (or remain) hard and crass, or are you the noodle – flexible and forgiving?

Perspective Shift

Fact: There are 86,400 seconds in a day. The average persons’ attention span is 6-10 seconds – which means the brain is required to re-focus – or re-un-focus 8,640-14,400 times per day.

Once we’ve decided to become open to building a better life, and committed to the hard mental labor required to achieve it, we can fit the necessary effort into the seconds in our day…the ones we’ve been wasting, mindlessly. Everybody is busy. I get it. Changing our mentality does not take a tonne of time – we simply have to make it a priority.

All change begins in the mind. By re-designating our pockets of time – we can literally reprogram our existence. The Greatest Salesman, by Og Mandino and The Master Keys, by Charles F. Haanel are books packed with valuable insight and knowledge – since knowledge does not apply itself, these are the thoughts I am choosing to focus on as I reprogram my brain so I can experience life differently:

  • Consciously creating my day – reminding myself: Today I begin a new life.
  • Committing to the process of creating a new life! I am worthy. 
  • Do It Now. DO IT NOW. DO IT NOW!! How could anything be more important?!!
  • Become a vigilant watchman of what I allow into my subconscious…
    • The Master Keys 2-14: it is often true that conditions of fear, worry, poverty, disease, in harmony and evils of all kinds dominate us by reason of false suggestions accepted by the unguarded subconscious mind. All this the trained conscious mind can entirely prevent by its vigilante protective action. It may properly be called “the watchman at the gate” of the great subconscious domain.”
  • I promise to question other peoples’ truths before allowing them to take residence in my brain…
    • 2-16: …”The subconscious mind does not engage in the process of proving. It relies upon the conscious mind, “the watchman at the gate”, to guard from mistaken impressions.
  • The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what we physically experience versus what we mentally experience…therefore, creating a new life begins in our mind.
    • 2-23: The subconscious mind cannot argue controversially. Hence, if it has accepted wrong suggestions, the sure method of overcoming them is by the use of a stronger counter-suggestion, frequently repeated, which the mind must accept, thus eventually forming new and healthy habits of thought and life, for the subconscious mind is the seat of Habit.
  • I promise to remember that everything is going to work out in the end…if it isn’t working out yet, it isn’t the end.

Thank you for joining me on this journey – I’d love to hear your feedback.

All my best,

Jen

See what moved me this time last year – MKE3 | Relinquishing Control

 

Self-Confidence [a how-to guide] | MKE Year 3 Week 2

Self-confidence is not found in the perfect pair of jeans … it’s not having the sickest vehicle … or being amazing at school sports … It’s not about the perfect job … or spouse … or dog … or pencil crayon collection, etc. etc. etc.

Self-confidence is a mindset. Good news about that is: it doesn’t cost any money … doesn’t require any talent … and you don’t need any special equipment.

Keep in mind that developing yourself is a process – much like flat abs, it’s not going to show up without some serious effort on your part. Here are a couple things, in no particular order, that I’ve found useful along my own journey. None are more important than the others, so I’ve listed them all as #1.

I wrote them with an open heart – I hope you’ll receive them with an open mind.

#1: Smile

Screen Shot 2017-12-01 at 11.20.09 AMLearning to like the person in the mirror difficult because most people have spent but instead of trying to get diapers or avoiding the barrel together try something as simple as a smile. Bill Tabing to a complement hate you look nice cute dress good job on your make up can’t find anything nice to say to yourself perhaps you can complement good job we did growing up eye balls or how nice your hair is growing or something…anything positive will do.

Not so sure yet?

Eventually, liking the person in the mirror I promise will need to loving the person in the mirror. You’ve just spent a lot of time disliking the person staring back at you…so it’s only logical that you’re not going to fall back in love with yourself overnight.

It will come, I promise. Give it time.

#1: Be Gentle With Yourself

Go easy on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up, and stop trying to be perfect.

Will it really affect your future if you miss a deadline, or or if the kids had to get take-out for lunch because you didn’t remember to pack lunches?

Understand that you’re just one person, and people have limits. It’s okay to have limits. Actually, limits are healthy.

When you can control your internal dialogue, the rest seems to fall into place. It’s got something to do with vibration – which I’ll write about in a few weeks – basically, we all attract things into our lives based on what we think about and what we feel…and it is Universal law that our vibration can only attract similar vibrations. If we think of our vibration like the keys on a piano – pressing a D-minor key but expecting an A-sharp sound to be produced would be ridiculous, right?!

Quit comparing yourself to others – and just do you.

You are Natures Greatest Miracle.

You’ve got this. 

#1: Say Nice Things

The world is not out to get you. If something goes wrong in your day, don’t beat yourself up about it. For example if the dog food delivery doesn’t get there on time, or you wake up and it’s cloudy, or traffic is unusually heavy during your commute.

The default story you tell yourself might be something like:

“Go figure, bad stuff always happens to me”.

I call this a grumble grumble grumble mindset and one that will only bring you more of the same.

Words have power. Especially the ones you say to yourself.

I suggest making a list of the Top 10 things you like about yourself…ready it three times daily. If you’re not sure what to write – ask a child what they like best about you…they’re honest and haven’t yet learned how to lie so you’ll get a clear answer.

As a kid, my grandma always used to tell me

“If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all.”

She also told me that eating mushrooms would make my boobs grow. Clearly, she knew what she was talking about.

Rather than remaining mired in negativity, try saying – or thinking – something positive. Immediately. Saying nice things will help re-train your brain by reprogramming the neuro pathways so that next time the same or similar experiences happen, your default memory will be positive. In my opinion and from experience, when the memory is positive, it allows you to absorb whatever lesson is being taught so you can move on and learn new lessons [and make new mistakes].

Evolution doesn’t happen over night, so don’t dismiss it after one or two tries. 

#1: Vulnerability is a Virtue

Be kind to everyone for you never know what that other people are facing. It’s a basic life principal: Give More Get More. The Universal Law of unending returns tells us that your good deeds will come back to you. What you give to people – that’s what you’re going to get back. What you give is up to you…if you seem to be grumbling a lot…refer to #1: Say Nice Things, above.

#1: That Song You’re Listening To Keeping You Broke

Now you might be asking, how on earth could this be relevant to self-confidence?? And it may sound like passing blame and/or not taking responsibility…but stick with me here.

I assure you, the impact of what you allow into your subconscious. has a profound and notable impact on your behaviour and your actions.

On the week 2 webinar we learned that there are 4 Billion subconscious connections firing in our brain – as compared to only 2000 conscious connections. True story!

Remember any jingles from your childhood? Perhaps you haven’t heard it for 15-25-35 years, yet when played, you recall it word for word, and can still put the correct emphasis on words as though you consciously recalled it yourself? Our brain retains information that we don’t even register as important. So I assure you, the gossip and mindless chatter sneaks in there too!

#1: Negativity is a Lousy Roommate.

The news was basically fear mongering and I didn’t ever have time for all the associated drama, so I stopped listening to the radio, and eliminated watching the news. When I did tune in, I never heard any money come out of it – the radio, nor the news have ever paid my mortgage, and has never put food on my table – so instead, while in the car I listen to audio self-improvement audio some ones that really helped get my mindset in the right place. It’s not what I learned, it’s who I became as a result of being surrounded by these great people that has had the biggest impact on my life. With so much negativity all around, it is important to disrupt your brain. Don’t let negativity live rent-free in your mind.

Mind your mind. Keep it positive. Find the good.

Napoleon Hill wrote THINK-and-grow-rich. Not DO-and-grow-rich.

So I listen to the signs a person with cheap meant by Napoleon Hill I listen to the strangest secret by Earl Nightingale I listen to return to love by Marianne Williamson I listen to think and grow Rich by Napoleon Hill and the countless hours that I’ve spent with them as my silent partners with them is my mastermind group have got me to where I am today and I am so thankful that I didn’t just listen to the radio!!

#1: Judge Not Lest Ye Be Judged

My daughter does not want to be judged EVER. In fact, the thought of being judged paralyzes her. Yet ironically, she’s probably the most judgemental person I’ve ever met. The psychology behind her logic is this: If she judges somebody before they can judge her – then their words have no power. She has it half right.

If you ever went to junior high then it’s likely that you understand what it feels like to be judged. And most likely, what it’s like to judge other people as well.

Ultimately it’s just easier to point the finger at somebody else make them feel bad so that we feel good.  Remember, when we point the finger, there’s 1 pointing at them, but 3 pointing back at ourself.

#1: Introspection – Get Used To It

Most often other people based on the here maybe give me something to somebody else forget to try and bring them down to your level if you can’t feel better about yourself. Where’s the logic – make somebody feel shitty about their flaws because you’re insecure about your own flaws? When did it become easier to attack others – even if it is  subconsciously. Is it really so hard to look yourself in the mirror and say nice things; to be gentle with yourself and focus on your strengths rather than your perceived deficiencies.

To be fair, I know at first this is hard – but keep tabs on how you feel, and how you respond to situations and when you feel that ‘pang’ in the seat of your soul – that’s when you need to pay attention and do whatever it is you’re running away from.

#1: Live In The Truth

Have you ever met someone who lies about everything? Little white lies… exaggerations… some people seem more comfortable lying than telling the truth. Sadly, they lie so much that they begin believing their own lies, and then the truth is impossible to discern, even for them.

You rob people of the joys in life when you lie. So don’t do it. It’s a shitty thing. It takes so much from you and your family from the people you love it ruins surprises  and drains excitement when you lie – just don’t do it.

#1: Embrace 100% Responsibility

You have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you do…and for everything you don’t do for that matter.

…for everything that you think

…for everything that you say

…for every action that you take

…and for every action that you don’t

It’s actually very freeing.

Don’t make excuses…

…not for being late

…not for missing a deadline

…not for not having enough time

…not for the car you drive

…not for the state of your relationships

…not for the state of your life.

Own your s**t.

The good and the bad.

Only then can you being see things objectively, and hopefully, welcome change.

#1: Be Courageous

The more often you choose courage, the more often you’ll succeed.

#1: Express Your Gratitude

You’ll never get what you want if you can’t be grateful for what you’ve already got.

My Gratitude Stack

#1: Love

Love let’s us see ordinary things in extraordinary ways. I LOVE YOU JHC

With love you can be courageous. You an take responsibility. You want to help others and you don’t feel the need to judge. It’s a very nice place to be.

All of this has become more clear during my 36-months with MKE – I’ve either learned it or had it become more clear.

I don’t simply comprehend these steps, I live them everyday. And it is all sunshine and rainbows in my life – even when it isn’t. I choose to find the silver lining – to see the glass as half full – to believe that I am very blessed and highly favoured.

Will you answer your call to greatness?

You’ve got this.

Jen

Curious what moved me this time last year: MKE2 | The Cliffs of Insanity

Pockets of Time | MKE Year 3 Week 1

Hey…got a minute??

I’d like to talk about the seemingly inconsequential ‘Pockets of Time’ that make up our day. These bite-sized morsels of time can have an enormous impact on how we make our conscious decisions, which of course, then forms our habits. And everybody knows that ultimately, it is our habits that pave the way for the life we live. For better or for worse.

Let’s start by digging into what a ‘Pocket of Time’ actually is: any amount of time which makes up the in-between times…the time that fills the gaps. For instance:

  • Waiting for the bus, or in line, or for the photocopier…
  • After school before the kids come out
  • While your food spins in the microwave
  • When you’re put on hold during a phone call
  • During commercials
  • Listening to the radio in your vehicle
  • Or waiting for the traffic light to change, etc.

These small 20-180 second intervals allow us plenty of time to think ourselves into the life we want to live, or not – just as easily, we could do nothing at all…or worse…complain about all the things we don’t want, or we could log into the black hole that is our social accounts and get depressed about all the things we don’t have.

Whether it’s staring at the microwave; mindlessly channel surfing; or listening to gossip on the radio show…none of those things are going to move you closer to your greatness.

However, can you imagine what you could do with that time if you choose to apply yourself, beginning by putting these pockets to use?! Instead of watching cat videos, you could choose to do a physical chore, such as:

  • Clean out the leftovers in the fridge
  • Wipe the front of the appliances
  • Refresh the dogs’ water bowls
  • Take out the garbage
  • Write a quick love note for someone
  • Straighten the shoes at the front door
  • Organize throw pillows on the sofa
  • Purge receipts from your wallet
  • Unload the dishwasher
  • Sort the mail
  • Start writing a BLOG
  • Or simply … think a happy thought…

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Once you can master the art of putting your physical body to better use, you might be ready to develop your emotional and mental self – this is the world within. Inside each of us is the unlimited potential to harness an unbelievable amount of thought power…yet, out of habit – or perhaps out of sheer laziness – we usually, and subconsciously dismiss the opportunity to do something productive or beneficial – simply by electing to do nothing.

In essence, we refuse to answer the call to our greatness.

It doesn’t take any extra effort to keep the house clean if you make a point to do so…instead of leaving your socks on the floor, just demand of yourself that you respect the house and your housemates and pick hem up when you get off the sofa, for instance. It seems inconsequential, yet truthfully, when you do tiny things to keep order in your life it saves you from having to find hours each week to clean the house. Same logic applies to your mental housekeeping since your exterior world is a direct reflection of your interior world.

Here’s what I know to be true…if you want to go on a vacation, holding a grudge over someone who went on one isn’t going to build you an airplane…you’ve got to get off your butt and start working! The same is true for your life. You’ve got to dream your dream into reality…become one with it…obsess about it [rather than about Candy Crush or Clash of Clans]. Put those pockets of time to better use. Your future depends on it.

I’m not saying you need to fill every second of every day – but if you take a personal inventory of how you behave during the pockets of time in your world, then you can begin to fill your pockets with intention and activities designed to propel you closer to your greatness!

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The good news and the bad news is it’s entirely up to you.

If you’re anything like me you spent a lot of time in your car…yeah, you could spend time listening to songs on the radio about the guy who lost his dog and/or broke his truck, but all the time I’ve been listening to the radio I’ve never heard any money come out of it!! Its never paid my mortgage or put food on my table…so instead, while I’m in the car I choose to listen to audio designed to help me become a self-directed thinker (sure, your kids might complain – but when they do, have them Google what Pitpulls’ Mom made him listen to):

  • Science of Personal Achievement by Napoleon Hill
  • The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale
  • A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
  • Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

The countless hours I’ve spent with these icons as my silent partners; my guides; my mastermind alliance have supported me to new heights that I am enjoying today, and beyond. I am so thankful I didn’t mindlessly fall in line with the other sheeple and listen to the radio!!

It isn’t what I learned – it’s who I became as a result that has changed me the most and had the most lasting impact.

In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill says:

Complaining about being poor won’t bring you riches. Wishing for it isn’t enough, you’ve got to act yourself into riches. Wishing for riches may very well bring you temporary riches, but acting with LOVE in your heart will surely bring you riches for generations.

Autonomy and Legacy are important to me – so I made a promise to myself, and a commitment to my family to be that person who creates ‘old money’ for my family – for generations to come. I chose to put my pockets of time to use to create a better life for myself and my family – a future that creates riches for generations.

Today I begin a new life is a great mantra – adds love to your mindset. Repeat this in your Pockets of Time and witness how your life changes.

To be clear here, riches isn’t about money – ‘riches’ is about anything you hold dear to your heart. I realized I didn’t need to have rich Grandparents, or an old Uncle to leave me a ton of money in his will, or the proper blood lines.

Rather, by tapping into my innate potential and reprogramming my brain;

making better decisions about what to do with my time,

I confirmed to myself that I can become anything I want;

I can accomplish anything I set my mind to!

And you can too!!

You are Nature’s Greatest Miracle.

You have it within you to Persist Until You Succeed.

Now, armed with the knowledge that we can think ourselves into any life we want…I encourage you to be brave.

Go ahead and love yourself into riches, by posting a few affirmation cards on your bathroom mirror or inside the kitchen cupboards and see how what you think about changes.

Malcolm Gladwell concludes that one becomes an ‘Outlier’ [a master of their craft] with 10,000 hours of practice. Essentially, anyone can master anything by practicing for about 90-minutes per day, for 20 years…he calls this the ‘Tipping-Point’ of greatness.

The way I see it – the ‘Pockets of Time’ are the answer; a first step towards the mastery of 10,000.

We may feel short on time to impact change in our lives overnight, or in a week, or in a month…but can you imagine how different your life would be in 2-years or 5-years or 10-years if you were to simply redirect your mindless time into mindful time? The possibilities are endless. Try new things. Make new mistakes.

10,000 hours - how much have you put in?

Today is your day – your ground zero!! Human beings have the ‘God-like’ power to control our thoughts; and since “we become what we think about” as Earl Nightingale reminds us in the Strangest Secret, then it stands to reason we can visualize into reality any life which we can imagine.

Here’s to your next new mistake. I’d love to hear all about it.

Love,

Jen

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Check out what moved me during this week of the course during Year 2: MKE 1 | Disengaging Auto-Pilot

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