Red Pencil Epidemic | MKE Year 3 Week 8

Humans are born with two fears – the fear of falling, and the fear of loud noises – the rest, we learn (or rather, we learn to accept). 

For some reason, our school system seems to get off by telling us how bad we’ve done, rather than celebrating our victories [however small or insignificant they may seem]. Take any spelling test any kid has ever taken…on a list of 10 words let’s say you get 8 right and 2 wrong — we never see 8 green checkmarks, but rather 2 red X’s that stand out on the page like a punch in the face.

image-23 Don’t get me wrong, I hold teachers in the highest regard, but I can’t wrap my head around the constant negativity focus. Can you imagine how different the world would be if we were praised with 8 green check marks instead of 2 red X’s?!!!

Fear does not promote learning. Our mental habit patterns are permeated with it. We exist in a dull ache of consciousness (according to Marianne Williamson). We’re just so programmed to live in fear that it becomes our default.

Our emotions flow from our thoughts, not the other way around. The depth of our wounds keeps us mired in them, keeps us stuck in a river of mediocrity. When we emotionalize situations in our mind, we intensify the pain. The longer we do this, the more comfortable we become with the pain, and then without warning or apology we become so comfortable with the pain that we subconsciously seek out new ways to create it. *Quite the gut punch, right!*

Fear lives in the past and the past has nothing to do with the present. 

The situation is not the enemy – the feelings we’ve attached to the situation are the enemy. Our perception of the past keeps us stuck in it…hidden emotional knives puncture us as we replay the feelings over and over again – in order to heal we must let go of the fear. Change only occurs when you make the decision to heal. It’s like reprogramming your emotional computer. You must consider the possibility of another possibility. What if what we perceive as fear is actually excitement or inspiration?! Did you know that the neuro pathways produced by fear versus the neuro pathways produced by excitement are only one or two neurons apart?? 

Healing occurs in the present, not the past. 

True Story: There is no such thing as a grey sky – the sky is always blue, sometimes it’s just covered in grey clouds. 

If you want to live a life unlike the past…what you do, or don’t do, determines your growth. The world changes when we change. We must take on a more gentle perception of how we experience our experiences. We cannot fight fear – we must replace it with LOVE. We must embrace an enlightened love if you want to live a life unlike the past. 

What you do, or don’t do, determines your growth.

There is no need to live in fear. 

The key to happiness is the decision to be happy. 

When you release fear, a whole world of opportunity will unfold at your feet. When you’re ready to forgive anyone or anything that has hurt you, an affirmation I’ve used to help accomplish this is

‘I forgive you _______________ , and I release you to the Holy Spirit.’

Be your own green pencil! 

Think HAPPY thoughts. 

Lead with LOVE.

YES YOU CAN!!

Love,

Jen

Here’s what moved me this time last year…MKE8 | Directing my Valkyrie

 

Beautiful Silence | MKE Year 3 Week 5

The SIT. Powerful stuff. Taking time to internalize the big questions in your life can have a profound effect. Just sit still and listen. If you don’t know why you’re here…try approaching it from a different angle – why are you here and not somewhere else? Ask different questions. Adopt a fresh perspective.

Listen to your heart. Follow your procrastination. People tell you to ignore it – society tries to beat it out of you…but what if what you do when you avoid doing what you should be doing is the key to your purpose?!!?

I’m not saying that procrastination should become your new compass, however, it is a strong indicator of your preferences…take stock of what activities you default to when you’re avoiding ‘adulting’ [read: what you should be doing as an adult] – for instance, I tend to organize things. Before I learned how to train my mind, I would organize my pantry or under the bathroom sink anytime I needed to make follow-up calls for work. So while I’m still making follow-up calls for my vocation, I’ve put into motion a way to incorporate organizing things into my career.

If you can monetize your preferences and make that your career – then you will understand what it means when people say ‘love what you do and you’ll never work another day in your life’.

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Think outside the box will give you a perspective to see things differently when you do that, you can find solutions to common problems. You’ll notice what your default is as long as you remain alert and vigilant and listen attentively. Believe in yourself. Don’t overthink every aspect. Trust the process.

  • Focus on yourself and your truth – following your instinct will guide you back inside.
  • Keep a positive mental state at all times – as much as possible. I tell my kids’ to ‘think happy thoughts’.
  • Personal development. Living on purpose didn’t happen because of what I learned, it’s who I became. Invest in yourself.
  • Turn the radio off – instead, listen to audios in the car…Marianne Williamson…A return to love is one I highly recommend.
  • Follow the leader…emulate those who’ve had success that you want to replicate.

I am so grateful for the life I am living by growing into my best self.

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My commitment to the SIT led me to realize the following:

  • My vibration determines my mindset and my mindset determines my vibration.
  • Before entering my office to write real estate contracts, attend meetings or meet a new prospect, I listen to the song Hallelujah, Christmas edition by the Pentatonix.
  • Wearing clothes that I feel comfortable in – I’ve got a power dress…I wear it for every contract. Simple. Black. Professional.
  • An app called Synctuition has helped me block the noise so I could find my inner voice.

Thanks for following my journey?

Love,

Jen

Curious to see what moved me this time last year? MKE5 | My JENNERGY

STONEWALL | MKE Year 3 Week 4

Today I begin a new life.

I am building a stone wall as my protection.

I’ve accomplished so much and can see it and am so proud of myself.

My mental, moral and physical harmony is valuable and precious.

I can be what I will to be.

As a daily reminder to hold onto my greatness, I named my corporation The CRATOS Group – Cratos meaning ‘The Personification of Strength and Power’.

You know how you’re instructed before each flight to affix your oxygen mask before helping others on an airplane. The same holds true in life…in order to give your best and highest effort you have to fortify your mind to cancel out the noise; cancel out the opinions of others; cancel out the negative self talk; cancel out anything that isn’t serving you and your higher purpose.

What YOU do is all that matters.

My friend Jesse tells me all the time – always beating himself up – hard – about a bad decision he made in front of his young son…he continues ripping himself to shreds over 3-minutes from nearly a decade ago. He has been holding himself hostage by one bad decision, rather than forgiving himself and learning how to be come a better father, a stronger role-model and a better person overall. He didn’t learn from his mistakes – he fell victim to them.

We must fortify the stonewall in front of our own castle. In our own minds. First.

We need to build up our self belief, and that begins from within. We need to monitor what we are watching and what we listen to; we need to make a top 10 list of what we like about ourselves and read it out loud morning, noon and night; we need to surround ourselves with positive, supportive people. This will help us lay each brick the best it can possibly be laid.

We need not think about building an entire wall, rather fortifying only the portion in front of our own homes…which all begins in our own mind. Once we have mastered this, we can then join hands with our neighbours and build stronger friendships, stronger communities…and a stronger world.

Just like Marvel’s Nova Corps Fleet in the movie The Guardians of the Galaxy – how they unify and together, they become stronger.

I can be what I will to be. 

This scene from the movie Facing The Giants is one of my favourites…it reminds me that I am capable of more.

I know my calling is to help connect people to their inner love again. Help them reconnect with their innate greatness – infusing positive self talk strategies to gain self-belief and confidence to live on purpose. In order to help others I must first help myself do exactly the same.

I trust the universe to supply me with all necessary financial resources.

I trust myself to be open to every opportunity and to embrace change in order to put myself out there, in order to both attract, and be ready for, the next steps into my best self, and towards my best life.

I appreciate you joining me on this journey and would love to hear your feedback.

All my best,

Jen

See what moved me during last years’ course: Year 2 Week 4 | [audible gasp] 

Pockets of Time | MKE Year 3 Week 1

Hey…got a minute??

I’d like to talk about the seemingly inconsequential ‘Pockets of Time’ that make up our day. These bite-sized morsels of time can have an enormous impact on how we make our conscious decisions, which of course, then forms our habits. And everybody knows that ultimately, it is our habits that pave the way for the life we live. For better or for worse.

Let’s start by digging into what a ‘Pocket of Time’ actually is: any amount of time which makes up the in-between times…the time that fills the gaps. For instance:

  • Waiting for the bus, or in line, or for the photocopier…
  • After school before the kids come out
  • While your food spins in the microwave
  • When you’re put on hold during a phone call
  • During commercials
  • Listening to the radio in your vehicle
  • Or waiting for the traffic light to change, etc.

These small 20-180 second intervals allow us plenty of time to think ourselves into the life we want to live, or not – just as easily, we could do nothing at all…or worse…complain about all the things we don’t want, or we could log into the black hole that is our social accounts and get depressed about all the things we don’t have.

Whether it’s staring at the microwave; mindlessly channel surfing; or listening to gossip on the radio show…none of those things are going to move you closer to your greatness.

However, can you imagine what you could do with that time if you choose to apply yourself, beginning by putting these pockets to use?! Instead of watching cat videos, you could choose to do a physical chore, such as:

  • Clean out the leftovers in the fridge
  • Wipe the front of the appliances
  • Refresh the dogs’ water bowls
  • Take out the garbage
  • Write a quick love note for someone
  • Straighten the shoes at the front door
  • Organize throw pillows on the sofa
  • Purge receipts from your wallet
  • Unload the dishwasher
  • Sort the mail
  • Start writing a BLOG
  • Or simply … think a happy thought…

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Once you can master the art of putting your physical body to better use, you might be ready to develop your emotional and mental self – this is the world within. Inside each of us is the unlimited potential to harness an unbelievable amount of thought power…yet, out of habit – or perhaps out of sheer laziness – we usually, and subconsciously dismiss the opportunity to do something productive or beneficial – simply by electing to do nothing.

In essence, we refuse to answer the call to our greatness.

It doesn’t take any extra effort to keep the house clean if you make a point to do so…instead of leaving your socks on the floor, just demand of yourself that you respect the house and your housemates and pick hem up when you get off the sofa, for instance. It seems inconsequential, yet truthfully, when you do tiny things to keep order in your life it saves you from having to find hours each week to clean the house. Same logic applies to your mental housekeeping since your exterior world is a direct reflection of your interior world.

Here’s what I know to be true…if you want to go on a vacation, holding a grudge over someone who went on one isn’t going to build you an airplane…you’ve got to get off your butt and start working! The same is true for your life. You’ve got to dream your dream into reality…become one with it…obsess about it [rather than about Candy Crush or Clash of Clans]. Put those pockets of time to better use. Your future depends on it.

I’m not saying you need to fill every second of every day – but if you take a personal inventory of how you behave during the pockets of time in your world, then you can begin to fill your pockets with intention and activities designed to propel you closer to your greatness!

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The good news and the bad news is it’s entirely up to you.

If you’re anything like me you spent a lot of time in your car…yeah, you could spend time listening to songs on the radio about the guy who lost his dog and/or broke his truck, but all the time I’ve been listening to the radio I’ve never heard any money come out of it!! Its never paid my mortgage or put food on my table…so instead, while I’m in the car I choose to listen to audio designed to help me become a self-directed thinker (sure, your kids might complain – but when they do, have them Google what Pitpulls’ Mom made him listen to):

  • Science of Personal Achievement by Napoleon Hill
  • The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale
  • A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
  • Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

The countless hours I’ve spent with these icons as my silent partners; my guides; my mastermind alliance have supported me to new heights that I am enjoying today, and beyond. I am so thankful I didn’t mindlessly fall in line with the other sheeple and listen to the radio!!

It isn’t what I learned – it’s who I became as a result that has changed me the most and had the most lasting impact.

In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill says:

Complaining about being poor won’t bring you riches. Wishing for it isn’t enough, you’ve got to act yourself into riches. Wishing for riches may very well bring you temporary riches, but acting with LOVE in your heart will surely bring you riches for generations.

Autonomy and Legacy are important to me – so I made a promise to myself, and a commitment to my family to be that person who creates ‘old money’ for my family – for generations to come. I chose to put my pockets of time to use to create a better life for myself and my family – a future that creates riches for generations.

Today I begin a new life is a great mantra – adds love to your mindset. Repeat this in your Pockets of Time and witness how your life changes.

To be clear here, riches isn’t about money – ‘riches’ is about anything you hold dear to your heart. I realized I didn’t need to have rich Grandparents, or an old Uncle to leave me a ton of money in his will, or the proper blood lines.

Rather, by tapping into my innate potential and reprogramming my brain;

making better decisions about what to do with my time,

I confirmed to myself that I can become anything I want;

I can accomplish anything I set my mind to!

And you can too!!

You are Nature’s Greatest Miracle.

You have it within you to Persist Until You Succeed.

Now, armed with the knowledge that we can think ourselves into any life we want…I encourage you to be brave.

Go ahead and love yourself into riches, by posting a few affirmation cards on your bathroom mirror or inside the kitchen cupboards and see how what you think about changes.

Malcolm Gladwell concludes that one becomes an ‘Outlier’ [a master of their craft] with 10,000 hours of practice. Essentially, anyone can master anything by practicing for about 90-minutes per day, for 20 years…he calls this the ‘Tipping-Point’ of greatness.

The way I see it – the ‘Pockets of Time’ are the answer; a first step towards the mastery of 10,000.

We may feel short on time to impact change in our lives overnight, or in a week, or in a month…but can you imagine how different your life would be in 2-years or 5-years or 10-years if you were to simply redirect your mindless time into mindful time? The possibilities are endless. Try new things. Make new mistakes.

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Today is your day – your ground zero!! Human beings have the ‘God-like’ power to control our thoughts; and since “we become what we think about” as Earl Nightingale reminds us in the Strangest Secret, then it stands to reason we can visualize into reality any life which we can imagine.

Here’s to your next new mistake. I’d love to hear all about it.

Love,

Jen

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Check out what moved me during this week of the course during Year 2: MKE 1 | Disengaging Auto-Pilot

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