MKE10 | Super Hero Complex

Automatic strength. The kind I don’t have to negotiate with my body – or my mind -for…I simply will it, on demand. Endless reservoirs of back up power, available at the blink of an eye.

This is the strong me. The kind of ‘lift-a-car-off-your-kid’ in an emergency kind of innate strength. Not a front, rather truly a part of who I am. While this strength has proven to be available, yet completely exhausting. Calling upon this strength comes with a huge cost – it requires at least 4x the energy expended in order to recover.

In times like this, I find it helpful to remember that This Too Shall Pass.

ENTER: SURVIVAL MODE

For as long as I can remember, I’ve had to do it all. My independence streak runs deep. For better, or for worse. Won’t bore you with the details – and I certainly don’t want pity…

Rough childhood would be putting it mildly. Raised my sisters since elementary school. Moved out at 13. Raised my son since I myself, was a child. Working to pay bills. Paying bills instead of being alive. Its become a really bad habit – putting myself second to everything.

Keeping busy being busy. Jumping around wearing so many hats – and I’m not sure exactly why anymore.

So now, I’ve got myself strung so tight…I’ve got this big house that no one can be bothered to help me with. Trying to complete a University degree [failing, quite miserably]. While working way too much because one income simply isn’t enough to maintain a lifestyle – not an overly grandiose or pretentious one either – simply a roof, some food and a vehicle.

There's no way I was born to just pay bills and die

During a temporary lapse in sanity this Spring, I adopted two adorable puppy-brothers (super glad I did though) because they provide enduring Happiness as I deal with the burdens of everyday life.

While slogging through year eight of an exhausting civil-legal following an MVA, which, now forces me to endure chronic, daily, lower body pain – for which, I take extensive pain killers [prescribed, of course]. When those don’t cut it, I get to choose between quarterly cortisone injections, or perhaps medical marijuana in order to be able to walk, to sit, to drive, to sleep…to function without numb fingers or a stabbing pain from my left buttock down to the bottom of my toes. So many exciting options.

As an added bonus, I also have Acne. And Grey hair. Neither are fun, but seeing Sara giggle because she thinks it’s hilarious lifts my spirits. But let’s get serious…teenagers – either awesome or horrible. Not much middle ground there. Somewhere in there…all the house stuff (groceries, banking, Christmas cards, etc.). So, unfortunately, it goes without saying that I don’t often ask for help. Even when people offer help, I’m apt to thank them profusely, then politely decline. Insistently. To a fault.

Stubborn pride…

This is my weakness – which I’ve been [not-so-cleverly] parading around as strength.

I’m learning [the hard way] that what I have perceived as strength for a really long time, is actually my kryptonite.

ENTER: RECLUSION [also known as AVOIDANCE]

Thought I’d share that in an effort to spare a you the trouble…

Avoidance is not a strategy, FYI.

When my ‘f^*k-it-bucket’ quota breaches the brim, I shut everything down…finding solace in the darkness and reprieve in the quiet. If I’ve shut you out at some point, been a bad friend and not called, not responded or reached out – I apologize…it’s a glitch in my auto-response, and I’m – finally – aware of it. Thankfully. But perhaps more importantly, I see a way to change it.

ENTER: FORGETFULNESS [usually hangs out with STRESS]

I can go days and totally forget things. We’re talking urgent things. The more I stack on my plate, the worse it gets. Forgetful. Then stressed. Or stressed. Then forgetful. As if the sequence of events matters – they come as a package deal – and collectively, they’re a ticking time bomb.

Money is – unfortunately – the King of my castle; holding my sanity and dreams prisoner.

If the Prince represents the KEY to achieving the life I KNOW I was born to live…unfolding all the answers and solutions to what’s been holding me back…

And the Damsel in Distress represents my oh-so-coveted Autonomy and Legacy…

… then …

The busy things I’ve been filling my life with represent the Vigilant Dragon, guarding who the Castle Keep. Sadly, I am the Dragon.

ENTER: OVERCOMING OVERWHELM

Sometimes I find life extremely overwhelming – but when I stop and really observe what’s going on…take a mental inventory of all the moving parts.

My next breakthrough is only slightly out of reach, sitting precariously perched atop the pivot-point of the Teeter-Totter of life…the irony of it all…

…is that my weight is on both sides.

What I have done in the past weighs on the low end, versus what I need to do to move forward and bring about new results on the other.

I realize that at the exact moment when I recognize the overwhelm – when I’m about to admit defeat…that very moment is in fact the fulcrum…

…whether I choose to concede and continue hammering out rock solid, gold metal worthy projects for someone else…or…persist until I succeed…and work as hard for myself as I do for other people.

 

ENTER: VULNERABILITY

This one I need to negotiate with myself in order draw it out. This is for sure not in my DNA – but I promise you I am trying to write it into my code because I recognize the tremendous power of it all.

When my Greatness begins to shine is exactly when Resistance – the Universal Dream Stealer – throws more obstacles into my path. Relentlessly. Fortunately, I am both knowledgeable and wise when it comes to these old tricks – because I analyze when things seem insurmountable, I can easily recognize patterns.

Over the years, the lessons have proven – again and again – that it truly is darkest before dawn, yet when it seems all light has been extinguished, a flicker still remains – found within the innate strength we talked about earlier.

This is confirmation from the Universe that I’m doing the right things to attract Autonomy and Legacy, verifying I’m on the right path. Because as we determined earlier, it’s always darkest before dawn, and I can say with confidence that the Sun is always shining in my world, so it’s this magical decision between old and new, between stuck and free, between my past and my future – this simple decision is where the magic happens!!

The warrior within takes the lead and carries on. Paying no heed to the crippling circumstance, blissfully ignorant to the seemingly insurmountable odds, instead – like a champion – ploughing through the obstacle course of life…reliable…relentless…victorious. This is one facet of my Valkyrie.

ENTER: RECLAIMING CONTROL

Running around doing all the stuff that isn’t moving me closer to my goals and all I want to be doing is building a secret business watching Tracey suffer a yes or no true residual income meanwhile I’m going to work showing condos my daughters at home contemplating suicide and I’m driving all around and doing all the work and completely neglecting my house and my myself my daughter I’m not there I’m not present as a parent and making somebody else rich doing it.

Enough. This is how I feel about my ability to push through – *Facing the Giants | Death Crawl Scene*

It’s my turn now. I’m going to affix my own mask – or I will be unable to help others achieve their own greatness…not on my back, rather by my side.

Theory that people need identity outside of parent only or kids move out and they go crazy. So what kind of super hero have you been facading as? I REALIZED I don’t need to choose just one response – I simply need to control the extenuating circumstances in my life so that all of my strong suits can operate harmoniously.

I am whole, harmonious, peaceful, happy, humble, caring and kind.

Ass-hats don’t make the list.

BTDubs, it’s a massive honor to make someones’ list in Network or Relationship Marketing. You don’t get there by being boring, ordinary, under performers.

You made someones’ list. Celebrate that! Rather than rejecting our request with coldness and disdain, take a few minutes to hear us out. It’s basic manners really, simply be polite and acknowledge the compliment – we’re calling because we hold you in high regard.

Here’s the science behind ‘the call’.

For most relationship builders, it isn’t about what’s in it for us, instead, the mindset behind creating a list is how can I add value to others! We’re excited to reach out and connect with YOU, and we’d be proud to be on your list.

Someone allocated time away from their family or other responsibilities to brainstorm about the people they know…carefully selecting the people whom, in their eyes, encompass the best of the best. We’re talking about the favorites, the most fun, the most outgoing, most likely to succeed; voted by your peers as the best in anything can’t entirely suck, so why do you treat it like a life sentence when we call you?

#containthecrazies

Some of us recognize the injustice done both to our networks, and the industry in its entirety through the ‘machine gun approach’ and ‘throwing up on our networks’.

Forgive us. Many of us didn’t realize there was a better way, until now. We’re learning this profession. You probably didn’t start your job and become an instant expert either.

SQUAD282 was formed to act as a beacon within this industry. I’ve been committed to this profession for 15 years, and a constant over time is the lack of training for a brand new rep around how to approach people. I designed a system based on what has worked, founded upon how I would like to be approached, while being careful to steer completely clear of the hype and bad habits that are rampant in this industry.

The Science outlines the thought processes fueling our burning desire to unlearn bad habits that aren’t serving us, to get out of our own way in order to realize success in the profession of relationship marketing. Empowering self-directed thinkers with business and industry insight, we strive to outline the fundamentals in any relationship marketing business…WHAT to say (and what not to say), HOW to build both relationships and a market, and HOW to earn significant income.

SQUAD282 | Agent Base Camp has implemented a buddy-system to #containthecrazies.

Next time we call, we’ll try to refrain from being weird about it. Would be awesome if you could help us along by taking a few minutes and hear us out, help us learn the ropes and get over the butterflies. You could #dousasolid by

Listen to what is being shared and consider, hey, who do I know who might find this useful? That introduction call is the same thing as recommending a movie – you’ve got to watch the trailer before you know what the movie is about!

You know who doesn’t make the list: miserable cranky-pants, that’s who.

No one ever asks:

  • Who’s do you know who is miserable and wants to stay that way? or
  • Who doesn’t want better for their family? or
  • Who super loves constantly saying NO to their children – watching the wonder drain from their eyes?

Whether you’re just normal people like us, or ‘King S**t on turd island’, or, perhaps you have magical superpowers that make your sh**, for actual, not stink…next time you’re feeling super down on life, consider this:

Take inventory of the last time you made someone’s list.

Understand we have hand selected you,

and it’s entirely likely that we smiled when your face popped into our mind.

Chances are if it’s recent or frequent,

people see more in you than you might currently see in yourself.

We think you’re a pretty big deal.

Please, be delicate next time you get ‘the call’.

You’re a pretty big deal in someones’ eyes, not just a dollar figure. When was the last time your boss called you up, out of the blue, to give you a compliment and tell you they were thinking of you with fondness and care? Seriously, lighten up and learn to take a compliment.

While it’s just a ‘No’ to you, it might be the umpteenth one we’ve heard that day, and the only people immune from associating discouragement with hearing No all day long, are the McDonald’s drive thru workers who ask ‘Would you like fries with that’. They get paid whether you take fries or not, we don’t.

While those of us willing to think outside-the-cubicle are brave enough to try to better our families’ future, we also have feelings and this is profession is hard work. We are a volunteer army simply trying to create a better life.  You response helps us get there.

Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart. Winnie the Pooh

Your ‘NO’ could be the one that urges someone forward, propelling them into greatness. But, it could also be the one that shoves them over the edge. That one last straw which seems to always be breaking the camels back.