Broadcasts Of Our Soul | MKE Year 3 Week 21

Our greatest barriers are the conflict within our own minds. Peace and abundance is first found in the heart of the individual, and the Law of Attraction brings back to us what we put out to the Universe.

I am very blessed and highly favoured – thinking good thoughts, finding the silver linking, having a HAPPY day, always. To master self-control and self-governance I will myself forward with positivity.

during Week 5 of the Master Key System, we were reminded that power is contingent upon the proper use of the power within us; therefore I cannot grow bigger until I embrace what I have already created and share with the world my personal credo along with the cornerstones upon which it is built. Applying my ‘happy’ filter to every experience allows me to respond, rather than react to situations.

While I cannot control what happens around me I can control how I respond to it.

Calming my breath.

Calming my heart rate.

Calming my mind.

I am smart enough to know my own mind. I know I can control it and I KNOW I can create a different reality. My thinking has and will continue to catapult me towards my own greatness.

I am Brave. Selfless. Intelligent. Empathetic. Honest. Kind. Divergent. This is my frequency – my souls’ broadcast.

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What frequency do you resonate at? If you feel like you’re always getting the short end of the stick, it’s time for some serious introspection! Adjust your frequency. The stuff that’s been holding you back – let it go! Your life is worth more than your excuses. Be stronger than your circumstance. Be brave.

Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we deal with it.

True story…we create our realities – the good, the bad, and the ugly. Reality, therefore is literally an illusion. If we can create our own realities…why don’t we? For most of us, the root of the problem lies in that we don’t believe in ourselves.

You believed in Santa for like eight years, yet you find it hard to believe in yourself for five minutes?

Somewhere along the way we accepted and applied some form of unconscious self-sabotage…we absorbed ‘lack consciousness’ and limiting beliefs.

…feelings of unworthiness or inadequacy silently consume our soul…

…the lack of self-confidence to pursue our dreams cripples us…

…congested mental bandwidth prohibits dreaming because our frequency is so clogged with relics from the past…

Unknowingly holding them as truths, these subconscious shackles lock us to events, circumstance or people, and because we repeatedly and incorrectly attribute these external factors as though they are the same as ‘who we are’ – and soon we begin to buy what we’re selling regarding lack consciousness – eventually and without fail bringing into our reality that which we don’t want – our reality becomes one of lack instead of the light that is our birthright. Somewhere along the way we become convinced that we’ll ‘get what’s coming to us’ and it seems to be human nature to automatically associate a negative connotation to that sentence. Why do we do that? What if we believe we deserve greatness and expect it to descend upon us in all we do…the world would be such a different place.

lobsters of spreading our wings, we allow society to clip them – we tighten ourselves up emotionally and physically… which drastically constricts the Universal flow of peace we so eagerly want and need.

Deliberate use of the current of manifestation ignites sweet restoration of self, and in turn it consequently and successfully activates peace, prosperity and abundance within the family, home and ultimately, the planet.

Reversing the polarity of limiting belief thought-forms can help free your mind and your soul. Imagine with me for a few moments if you will…

Imagine you have a lot more money than you do right now. How would that transform your own life and the lives of those closest to you?

Imagine you could attract increased wealth – simply by removing the internal blockade thats been keeping you from your Abundance. How would this change your world?

Imagine you could immediately pinpoint your sense of Purpose, and in doing so, begin living your most empowered life. Would this re-awakening of your Spirit invigorate you? Would you live your life differently? What does ‘living on purpose’ look like for you?

The truth is, these are not fantasies for you to imagine, rather realities waiting to happen. YOUR realities. All you have to do is learn to control your own frequency! Exciting stuff, isn’t it!! When you control your frequency, your actions, belief and overall persona will guide your life.

Controlling your frequency – your vibration – is key.

If you send out crazy vibes, crazy vibes is what you’ll get back.

If you send out abundance vibes, abundance vibes are what you’ll get.

Well done is better than well said

The Law of Life

Whatever you give away today or think or say or do, will multiply about tenfold and then return to you.

It may not come immediately, nor from the obvious source, but the LAW applies unfailingly through some invisible force.

Whatever you feel about another, be it love or hate or passion, will surely bounce right back to you in some clear or secret fashion.

If you speak about some person a word of praise or two, soon tens of other people will speak kind words to you.

Our thoughts are broadcasts of our soul, not secrets of the brain, kind ones of happiness, pretty ones; untold pain.

Given works as surely as reflections in the mirror, if hate you send, hate you’ll get back, but loving bring love nearer.

Remember, as you start this day, and duty crowds your mind, that kindness comes so quickly back, to those who first are kind!

Le that thought and this one direct you through each day…The only things we ever keep are the things we give away!

-Jerry Buchanan

However, once you begin to shift your Mindset, your entire experience of this existence begins to change…you become Unstoppable. You start to feel freer in every way. As physical and emotional barriers dissolve new avenues of income and opportunity appear as if by divine intervention without any effort on your part…the natural process of you reconnecting with the Universal State of Flow. Improving your mindset will improve your life by bringing awareness to the Mind / Body / Spirit / Universal Flow connection.

 

Go ahead – uncover and transform self-imposed limits and redefine and reinvent yourself. Eliminate fear and lack and replace them with self-acceptance and love. Focus on your transformation, surrender to the challenge and let it guide you.

Learn to forgive and heal the past.

Expand your capacity to give and receive.

Embrace gratitude. For everything. All the time.

Starting right now let this be the year that changes everything! Let today be your New Year…there’s still 365 days regardless of how you slice the cake…decide that today instead of ‘one day’ decide that today will be your new ‘day one’.

Be COURAGEOUS…You’ve got this!!

Let me know what you’re going to let go of and what you’re going to focus on so I can cheer you on as well. YES YOU CAN!!

Love, Jen

The Incandescent Lightbulb Experiment | MKE Year 3 Week 20

Thomas Edison found 10,000 different ways to successfully fail at creating the incandescent lightbulb before one day he discovered the only right way. I wish Humanity still had that kind of resolve.

Think about this…

…what if Thomas Edison stopped after only 15 tries??

[Who knows, Humanity may have reverted back to knuckle dragging and grunting.]

Now imagine…

…what if you are to the world what Edison was to the lightbulb?!?

A good rule of thumb is this: whatever you default to when you’re procrastinating is a giant clue as to where your interests and passions lie. When you honour your true calling you’ll love what you do, and as a reward for your intelligence and resolve, you too will never work another day in your life!

[Interestingly enough, if I’m avoiding doing erroneous chores or things I dread such as filing my taxes or cleaning toilets, I turn to writing.]

If you knew you were making a difference and touching lives would you continue to sell yourself short and admit defeat so easily?

I’ve been consciously observing people for nearly two decades and realized that possessing the fortitude to sink our teeth into a project and stick with it until completion is a dying art. Resolve as a virtue has dwindled down to a barely discernible remnant of Edison’s commendable stick-to-it-attitude. More often than not, peoples’ default setting these days is to err on the side of caution. Many seek – and sadly find – acceptance within a depressing yet overly common tie…at one point or another they’ve all given up their hopes and dreams, currently settling for (or will soon settle for) a life of mediocrity.

Being realistic is the most commonly travelled road to mediocrity.

We tell ourselves stories that we wouldn’t have been good at it anyways, loser. It typically goes down something like this (strewn with self-loathing and cynicism):

  • With a fits-and-starts approach, we ‘trysomething a few times putting in minimal efforts, not willing to commit the time to mastering our craft – yet are flabbergasted when these mystical half-assed efforts don’t bring us overnight success. Must be the industries fault.
  • Our belief and desire in the project – and in ourself – dissipates at an alarming rate, and in the wake of the proverbial ‘throwing in of the towel’ our friends and family write us off as a failure – hurling ‘I-told-you-so’ insults behind our backs and to our face (is one really worse than the other??).
  • This one-two punch is quickly and surely followed by a looming loss of confidence in ourselves; leading to a deep-rooted belief that we are indeed a failure. Who am I to have a better life. I don’t deserve it. 
  • Blinded by our own neurosis, we begin feverishly shifting our energies from betterment into self-loathing; beating ourselves up both emotionally and subconsciously. Perhaps even physically. What a stupid idea. Certainly won’t be trying that ever again. 
  • The torment deepens as we avoid working on ourselves, focusing instead on imaginary grandeur to substantiate how ‘busy’ we are. Ignoring our misplaced priorities in order to poke fun at the ridiculousness of ever having thought stepping out of our box was a viable option in the first place. Honestly, I should be more realistic. This is as good as it gets for me.
  • Enter various forms of self-sabotage [This is not an action plan, nor an escape, it is a cry for help] such as (over eating, over thinking, over drinking, partying, staying up too late, negative self-talk etc.). All in a wayward attempt to camouflage the underlying issue – that we simply don’t LOVE ourselves enough to persevere.
    • Instead, we justify our failures by convincing ourselves that it’s okay to give up on our dreams. *Enter random excuse of how the actions (or inaction) of someone else has doomed your life for all eternity [eye roll]*.
  • Crawling into a pit of despair – your only goal in life is to hide out wearing your fat pants and binge watch Schitt’s Creek on Netflix with the necessities: a comfy blanket, a bag of coke bottle candies and a big bowl of yesterday’s popcorn. Nothing like diving in to whatever crisis the Media has fabricated for us to drown our own sorrows. Anything to take the spotlight off our own misery and despair.
    • Netflix binging is a sure-fire gateway – always ending in an awkward and uncomfortable sofa-snooze-fest [complete with drool, most probably].
    • Following this Euphoria, you are rudely awakened by a sharp, unpleasant and equally predictable jolt as you are once again reunited with the fact that you have a body. Dazed and confused, you question if it’s even humanly possible to unfold yourself from the bizarre position and begin to gain certainty that you’ll likely have to accept that you shall indeed remain in this pretzel-like form for the rest of all time.
    • These nonsensical thoughts are derailed by more nonsense as you question *like, legit* if your head is still attached to our body because you can’t tell given the bizarre angle of your neck. That’s great. Just great.
  • The next day hits you like a tonne of bricks! Yet you remain ignorant to the factors that continue to land you in this same.exact.situation.
    • An unending orchestra of random, snarky remarks rattle around among the brain fog…Somewhere in all that chaos and drama you manage to justify actual jealousy of sharks with laser beams attached to their heads, and ponder your exempt status as it relates to the sign in the fridge that reads ‘Don’t eat this – it is not your food’ – surely it can’t apply to you – after all, you didn’t have time to pack a lunch.
  • You spend the rest of the day a slave to the unruly headache plaguing your existence.
    • You’re basically a Zombie by the time you *finally* get home. Instead of having a nice family dinner and helping kids with their homework, you grab drive thru and float in and out of consciousness while the kids eat in front of the TV and stuff sandwiches into the VCR.  You muster every ounce of strength you’ve got left and crawl into bed at 7:42pm with your clothes still on because you’ve lost your will to give a shit.

We make excuses and play the blame game to avoid the necessary self-work that must inherently be present prior to changing our circumstance.

Don’t let the giants of fear and failure stare down at you and cause paralysis. Crush your fear. Don’t let your fear crush you.

Subconsciously these excuses begin (or continue) to berate our self-worth – feelings of inadequacy consume us, and our internal self-dialogue convinces us we simply didn’t deserve happiness.

Here are a few examples – some of which may seem (all too?) familiar:

…if we applied for a new position – we justify how it wouldn’t have been a good fit because of *enter random employee’s name and identify their annoying habit*…

…if we applied with a new company – we sell ourselves some nonsense about it being a farther drive and then all of a sudden we’re super relieved about all the extra time we won’t have to spend in traffic…

…if we had ventured into Network Marketing – we chalk it up to the industry being no good; and because those things don’t work anyways…

 

At the end of the day, we cannot escape the harsh reality that we didn’t really ‘try’ that hard at all. We kicked a can around a few times – taking a few steps forward – usually followed by a uncomfortable and immediate retreat back into our comfort zone.

It’s as if our ambition has been squelched…taking our creative intelligence and work ethic along with it.

Comfort zones aren’t usually very comfortable. Comfort now ensures long-term discomfort. Whereas discomfort now yields long-term comfort. Ironically.

Armed with these powerful reminders, we can now shift our focus to a handful of delightful truths that are naturally weighted in our favor when we honour the Laws of the Universe:

1. You can’t develop balance while you’re already balanced… balance is actually developed while you’re falling. Therefore, failure makes us stronger – it teaches us how to develop balance.

Try standing like a Flamingo … you can’t get into that pose until you’re balanced, and you can’t hold that pose unless you’re balanced. One of those strange but true Universal Laws.

2. Cheer everyone on. All the time. Regardless.

Have you ever noticed how many times a baby falls down while attempting to walk? They fall down all the time, but they always get back up again. Falling makes them stronger too!

P&G nailed it with this Olympics video – watch these babies learning to walk

We don’t deem toddlers a failure when they fall ten thousand times while learning to walk. We don’t demean them for how many falls it took before they got it. We don’t laugh at them for trying again. No, that would make us savages.

Since we can muster joy and support for a child, why can’t we find within us the compassion and empathy to do exactly the same thing for a friend or co-worker, or better still, for ourselves?

Heck, we practically throw them a parade – cheering happy thoughts of love and support from the sidelines. Showering them with praise and accolades – assuring them they can do it because we believe they can! And when they finally reach our outstretched arms we love all over them with lots and lots of kisses, naturally!

It is completely normal to applaud the walkers for their resolve and ambition. Yet we are cynical and unsupportive of any adult who exhibits those same traits? Where does that excitement go? How do our cheers turn so quickly into daggers? We are like crabs in a bucket. Shame on us as a civilization. Don’t be that ‘friend’. Rise above it and be the light in someone’s life.

3. Proceed with caution when telling yourself stories. We must think happy thoughts.

This applies to the stories you tell other people about yourself, as well as what you say silently to yourself.

4. It is acceptable necessary to quit feeling bad, silly or guilty for pouring yourself into two, or five (or even 30) different ideas with the intention of moving your life forward.

You probably don’t beat yourself up about having multiple pairs of shoes, right?? Of course not, that would be ridiculous! So why do we think less of ourselves if we try out a bunch of different interests; pursue various hobbies; and/or bust it at a day job while building a #sidehustle in our down time??

4.1. Keep trying until you find the right fit. Like shoes:

In general, us ladies have at least a few pairs of flats (casual/work/on the town versions – in a variety of colors), flip flops (…c’mon they take up like zero space in the closet so three pairs really only counts as 1 actual pair of shoes!), high heels and pumps, ankle boots – flat and high heeled versions, slippers, winter boots (not to be confused with the walking-the-dogs-in-the-winter’ boots) and at least one slightly bedazzled pair – maybe even with a kitten heel.  You’re almost weird if you don’t.

For the guys out there, you’ve probably got brown work shoes and black ones too, a comfy pair of flips, the comfy slip-ons that you’re not allowed to wear in public (reserved for cutting the grass and late-night milk runs), converse – in a few colors because they’re cool, at least one pair of presentable running shoes, maybe even some cowboy boots shit kickers, maybe even a pair of shower shoes – if you’re into that kind of thing.

5. We know from Malcolm Gladwell’s ‘Outliers’ that it takes approximately 10,000 hours to become a master at anything.

In regards to personal development and becoming your best and brightest self, you don’t need to invest all the hours in one place. Similarly, you don’t need to work at the same task, in the same chair, for the same company for 20 consecutive years to develop work experience.

You only need to put in the time and keep learning. Keep practicing. Keep failing forward. Focus on activity, not results.

Whether your current endeavour is your first, fifth or seventeenth attempt to secure your own legacy, I applaud you for pursuing your own greatness and getting your Edison on!

You are enough. The world needs YOU to shine!

Watch one of my favourite movie clips: Facing The Giants | Death Crawl Scene

Let’s go do good things. Together.

Love, Jen

Big Dreams Have More Magic | MKE Year 3 Week 19

Dream big.

We are the Architect of our own lives. So go ahead and dream big dreams my friends. Don’t let circumstance be the handmaiden of your future. If a 5-year old can become an Astronaut or Fire Fighter, then you can certainly become anything you want as well.

If you’re unhappy in your job…find a new one. If you hate your job and live a life of misery…and you openly (or silently) complain about how miserable you are…that’s the vibration you’re sending out into the world…which means that is the exact thing you end up attracting more of. Ironic, isn’t it.

A job is not your identity – it is what you’re currently doing. A salary is simply the bribe they’re paying you to keep you from pursuing your dreams.

You don’t need a job, you need an income – so do what makes you happy and you’ll be amazed how much money you end up attracting – it’s a Universal Law!

If you can’t quite yet picture your dream, or feel like you don’t deserve the best and the happiest there is to be had…perhaps a small shift in your perception will help:

Emotions are the physical manifestations of our thoughts, so when you feel a negative thought or emotion coming on, find something else to focus on. Something seemingly meaningless…for instance, during this MKE course we are teaching our subconscious to associate shapes and colours with our most sacred desires and the thinking habits – and resulting mindset shifts necessary to become self-directed thinkers helps us reclaim the throne in our own lives.

My shape quickly became a circle. So I did a little experiment at home…in a large vase in the kitchen, I started collecting every circular thing smaller than the palm of my hand that would have otherwise been destined for the recycling bin. The sheer amount of circular objects that pass through my kitchen on a daily/weekly/monthly basis was astonishing…beer or pop cans, salsa jar lids, K-cups, salad dressing flip caps…now each time I toss one in the vase (or see one in the fridge or pantry for that matter), I remind myself of one thing I’m grateful for.

It’s to the point now that I see circles everywhere…and so am constantly reminded of gratitude and the concept of Give More Get More has become part of my DNA.

Circles, circles everywhere – and so is my Gratitude!

Driving…tail lights are nice red circles. Steering wheel and tires are too! Showering…all those bottles have round lids. Lying in bed…smoke alarms on the ceiling. Door knobs. Key rings. Feeding the dogs (their bowls and their kibble). Coins in my purse…

Training your brain is fun (hello, evolution!) and as you get more skilled at it, it becomes hard to see a vehicle as I walk up to it because all I see is my gratitude. Im not driving myself to work, rather I’m immersed in the Universal law of giving and receiving.

There’s no time to be negative and feel sorry for myself…I’m too busy showing gratitude and appreciation for all the good things in my life, and in turn, as promised, and without fail, the Universe is showering me with all kinds of favor!

In MKE week 16 we collectively focused on kindness – amazing how true it is that what we focus on expands! As Earl Nightingale said in The Strangest Secret, we become what we think about!!

It all begins and ends in your own mind. Guard it like a fortress.

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I believe we are put on this planet to accomplish our life’s purpose, and I happen to think that LOVE is a critical component to us finding that destined path. Love is the illuminator. Give up the struggle and the pain will cease. When you clear your head from the negativity you make room to breathe again, to think…to dream!

Remember this…you’ll never get what you want – you’ll only ever get what you can picture.

Put yourself first!

Think happy thoughts.

Stop thinking. Start feeling.

YES YOU CAN!

Jen 🙂

What’s Love Got To Do With It? | MKE Year 3 Week 18

My kids and I love watching good movies and listening to good music – so by natural extension, randomly dropping one-liners is kind of our thing. For instance, instead of simply announcing ‘Dinner’s ready…’, I’ll say ‘Oh, oh, oh, sweet child o’ mine…dinner’s ready’.

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Mega Mind is one of our favourites, and the line ‘…and I love you, random citizen’ speaks to so much more than just a giggle from movie night…it epitomizes my mindset and is a major contributing factor to my ‘sunshine and rainbows’ world.

While my kids were growing up, my parenting style was based largely upon my understanding of unconditional love. And truthfully, having this core belief as the lodestone of my parental compass is a huge part of why they survived teenage hood 😉

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I learned very early on that it was necessary to have a strong moral compass to keep me on the straight and narrow, in life, but also in parenting.

As a leader – which as parents we are – I strived to do my best to lead by example. Mostly because it’s the right thing to do, but also because everybody knows people won’t do what you say, they’ll do what you do.

Beginning with the end in mind I knew that unconditional love was the key. Having a long-term vision to foster independence and empathy in my kids helped me see past whatever the current struggle was. Keeping things in perspective allowed me to ‘pick my battles’ as they say…

By no means have I been awarded a medal as the Worlds’ Best Mom [though I am pretty sure it’s in the mail], however, I’ve learned a thing or two along the way that helped keep me focused.

Well rounded, magnetic humans was the end-goal, so it was equally important that they become self-directed thinkers. Deep down I knew it would click for them. Eventually.

Some of the lessons included:

Show them how to always give their best and highest effort by always giving my best and highest effort.

Redirect your best self into a positive experience-based teacher –  you’ll be setting a contagious example at the same time.

Rather than lecture about priorities and responsibilities, instil within them morals and values.

Find the good in everything.

We all live in the house, therefore, it’s everyone’s privilege to pitch in around the house.

You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

Avoid drama by not expending negative energy into being all pissed off about this, that, or the other thing. *”Life is too shorts.” RIP Jaydon Summerfeldt*

Get done what needs to be done, calmly, and from a place of love. This will energize you, rather than drain you while having so many things on your to-do list.

Don’t cut them slack only to hold it over their heads or use it as leverage.

Don’t keep tabs or tally who owes who what because you did some thing on their behalf.

Stick to it – it’s 100% worth it!!

Acceptable: I would like, or may I please have. Not Acceptable: I want.

Above all else, Love unconditionally. Even when you don’t want to or think you can’t.

It is good to be me, and I am very blessed and highly favoured because I have decided to make the best of everything and because I choose to feel the best in everyone.

Well done is better than well said

During a recent performance review at work, my boss was explaining a 5-point self-assessment and made it very clear that he NEVER awards feedback in the Always column. As we approached the part about my attitude, he lifted his head said:

‘I know I literally just said I don’t hand out ‘Always’ ratings…however upon reviewing the attitude and presence you consistently bring to the office, anything less would have been an injustice to you. Well done.

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Sara said to me the other day that her understanding of unconditional love meant doing something for somebody even if she didn’t want to, and doing it before she would do something else for herself in its place.

I explained to her that the true meaning of unconditional love, in fact, is loving someone regardless of what they do; without an agenda or caveat, and for no other reason than because they are who they are and you are who you are.

I’ve often referenced The Eisenhower Matrix when discussing being a good friend, brother, sister, daughter, son etc. to illustrate the difference between Urgent and Important, and how it will often vary depending on who you’re talking to, based on their life experiences.

In this particular instance, Sara was faced with a challenge that was urgent to her friend and while it was important, it wasn’t urgent in her eyes, yet she allowed their-urgency to become her-urgency. As she described the situation in retrospect, the resentment was evident in her voice yet she dismissed her feelings with a shoulder shrug by saying “It’s a good thing I love him unconditionally”.

She wasn’t acting from a place of love, she was acting from a place of guilt. Unconditional love has nothing to do with making yourself available on a whim, or sacrificing your own priorities because someone else can’t get their own ducks in a row.

 

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In my profession, we hear one saying all the time, so imagine my delight when Sara quoted it back to me at the end of our conversation…asking how it related to her challenge.

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This doesn’t only mean grandiose gestures such as donating a kidney or building homes on a Tsunami-devastated island…helping other people get what they want can even mean helping them achieve 5-extra-minutes-of-sleep or saving the day by bringing a roll of TP to the helpless, stranded person at the end of the hall.

The implementation of unconditional love comes in many forms…including, for instance…doing the dishes.

Have you ever assigned ‘dish duty’ to someone…

yet the sink magically remains full of dirty dishes?

Frustrating, right!?

Doesn’t have to be.

When you do the dishes for somebody else because they didn’t do it, you’re not doing it from a place of love, rather from a place of anger – begrudgingly sacrificing your time [and sanity] because some ass-hat didn’t do the dishes – again. There’s a difference between doing something for someone else in a selfless manner, and being a sucker.

This forces you into second place as far as your own priorities are concerned, and the inconvenience you feel is usually preceded with – or followed very quickly by – feelings of resentment, frustration and/or disappointment.

The toxicity resulting from negative emotions consumes your heart and your mind, torturing you as it resonates throughout your entire being, eventually becoming part of the energy around you, and therefore by extension, the energy or vibe of your home.

Speaking from personal experience, it’s highly unlikely that the dish-ditcher (*cough, cough, Michael*) will leap off the couch when they hear the commotion in the kitchen and race in to take over, apologies in tow. Unconditional love means loving the dish-ditchers even when they don’t do the dishes. They might not appreciate it, but the Universe does if you do it with love.

It’s not about doing the dishes for somebody because they didn’t; it’s about doing the dishes so you they can do something else.

Fundamentally, these two things are the same, at the end of the day, choosing to act with love rather than anger can sometimes mean that

– – you’re the one doing the dishes – –

…yet the feelings, thoughts and emotions you choose to associate with that particular action can’t help but manifest themselves into their physical equivalent in the form of energy, which will – without fail -reverberate throughout your life.

For better or worse.

Therefore, it’s really about doing the dishes so you can do something other than bitch about the dishes not being done.

When you act from a place of love, you set yourself free and everything becomes easier. Subconsciously, we inflict so much unnecessary pain and suffering onto ourselves and those around us. Day after day, these seemingly inconsequential decisions shape our world – stories we tell ourselves about how much we have to do, or why the kids are ungrateful, or how life has stacked the odds against us. By telling ourselves these stories – we concede to a tough life, allowing these tiny battles chip away at our souls – slowly but surely turning what is and should be a dream life, into a real-life horror story.

Simple changes to how you perceive situations…the stories you tell yourself regarding how you feel about your experiences, can and will have a dramatic impact on your life for the better.

It’s not about what did or didn’t happen.

It’s about the feeling you associated to what did or didn’t happen.

Your kids are watching. If you throw a fit about doing the dishes, what sane person would expect them not to throw a fit as well? You know that they say about Monkey’s…

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Acting from a place of servant leadership does not mean you are an actual servant in the Cinderella sense of the word, but rather, it means doing what you do, and doing it with love, regardless. Doing the dishes with love doesn’t mean you love doing the dishes.

When putting love first – even if it means doing the dishes yourself – you act from a place of love; you create the time and space in your schedule so that they can do other things, and your payback is 100-fold…this act of selfless love actually makes time and space in your heart, also!!

Giving without the expectation of reciprocity is very freeing. It’s rare that the Universe will return your efforts to you in the same form.

Instead, maybe the person ahead of you in the drive-thru will pay for your coffee.

Or smile from the next car as you wait at the light.

Or someone will hold the door open for you.

Or shovel your snow.

Or simply say Hi.

Now don’t get me wrong, you may be doing a lot of dishes in the 18+ years that they live at home, but I promise you it’s all worth it when you overhear them talking to someone about acting from a place of love, or when they act selflessly by helping someone else, or that glorious day when you come home and the dishes are actually done, and they even have a glass of wine ready for you because they recognize and appreciate that you had a long day!!

Helping other people with seemingly inconsequential tasks so they can do other things means you are opening your heart to love and by extension, it opens their heart to love as well.

Love is all that is real.

And with love all things are possible.

My wish for you my friends, is that you keep your sinks clear of dirty dishes and your hearts open to the possibility of love in all that you do. I promise you this – you’ll be glad you did!!

Love,

Jen

 

The Hedgehog Concept | MKE Year 3 Week 15

The Hedgehog Concept

When you take care of the most important activity first, it’s amazing how easy it is to find time to do all the other stuff…the little things that are such time-gobblers.

“The fox knows many things, but the hedgehog knows one big thing.” Isaiah Berlin explored the fundamental distinction that exists between those who are fascinated by the infinite variety of things (foxes) and those who relate everything to a central, all-embracing system (hedgehogs).”

We must ask ourselves two questions…

Q1 | What am I pretending not to know?

and

Q2 | What would the person that I intend to become do next?

You know those videos that illustrate the importance of scheduling the big things in your life first, trying to visually prove that when you schedule the big stuff first, magically it all fits in?  So for this BLOG, I’m jumping past the cleverly illustrated examples of how so many people start backwards…

…and fast-forwarding instead, to illustrating the importance of scheduling – and doing – the big things first, such as making family, faith and income producing activities the priority *imagine tennis balls being put into a tennis ball sleeve*…

Secondly, a visual explanation of how it makes so much more sense to follow the most important activity with the supporting or background details *now imagine pouring rice into the sleeve and watch it fill in the space between the tennis balls*…

Next, and time permitting, allow time for the ‘other’ stuff – the minutia – such as cleaning the house, scrolling your social media feed, updating your phone, organizing cupboards etc. *imagine sand being poured into the sleeve, wiggling its way in between the tennis balls and the rice*…

As a reward for working smarter, not harder, we can then add the ‘fruits of life’ as my friend Mark J. puts it…the fun stuff, the ‘us-time’ or ‘me-time’ that we crave *finally, imagine pouring water into the sleeve…over top of the tennis balls, the rice and the sand.*

Now, stand back and marvel at how beautifully it all fits in…So why then, do we all tend to fill our days with the sand first…???

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On too many occasions, I’ve looked at my business as a reflection of myself – only to become frustrated at the fact that I’m not making the income I’d like to make, or more accurately…need to make. I get down on myself for not doing the simple tasks…the most important tasks, rather than filling my days with ‘busy work’…all the useless, time consuming, non income-producing activities, and for what? …for nothing except the ability to have an excuse to fall back on for my lack of progress in business.

It’s far easier to trick ourselves into believing we’re actually working…when in fact we are just pushing piles of stuff around on our desks, rarely accomplishing anything of value or importance.

Justifying the avoidance factor in business…and to an extent, in every day life as well, introspection has taught me that if I fear doing the activity that will bring me success – let’s say it’s telling people about my product/service despite KNOWING that I understand my product/service – upon analyzing said avoidance on a deeper level, I’ve realized that I don’t actually have a fear of sharing my business, but rather a fear of being rejected…a fear of people not taking my advice, a fear of putting myself out there and being shot down.

So this is what happens when we concentrate – the truth reveals itself. And it does truly set you free. If you’ll allow it – embrace it rather than reject it.

The avoidance on my part is not whether they do or don’t elect to become a customer, rather for some silly and strange reason, I place extreme personal success or failure based on if they deem my advice worthy or not. I’ve equated them not buying my product/service with them not valuing my opinion – instantly, I become reclusive and my desire to be recognized for creative expression gets all bent out of shape and so I simply stop asking because then I can’t possibly be rejected. Ridiculous, I know.  This is nothing but fear, and everybody knows that nothing more than F.E.A.R. is simply False Evidence Appearing Real.  

I was re-reading How to Win Friends and Influence Others yesterday and read a quote by Benjamin Franklin…

“I will speak ill of no man, and speak all the good I know of everybody.”

It takes self-control to be understanding and forgiving. Along this #LifeChanging journey of self-discovery, I began implementing the 7-day Mental Diet, making a habit of not judging others – which has helped me realize that when I was previously jumping to conclusions about people or situations, I was merely avoiding doing that very same work on myself.

When you can face your fears – which is often [sadly] ourselves – and overcome them, it is then that we discover our greatness on the other side!

I’ve begun recognizing my own self-sabotaging behaviours, and was recently introduced to a powerful resource, a book called Get off your But! by Sean Stephenson.

From the Inside Flap (via Amazon.ca):

“This book will show you how to move beyond your limitations and begin to experience and share your gifts at the highest level.. . . Read this book in its entirety, follow the lessons closely, and watch as your life transforms into a masterpiece filled with an abundance of bliss, passion, and gratitude.” —From the Foreword by Anthony Robbins

In addition to presenting Sean Stephenson’s unbelievable life story, Get Off Your “But,” offers anyone who needs to conquer fears and insecurities a hands-on guide for overcoming the forces of negativity and self-sabotage. Sean—a successful psychotherapist—shows what it takes to overcome the big bumps in the road, eliminate excuses, end insecurities, and ultimately stand up for happiness and success in life. As Sean explains, anyone can fall victim to the “Buts”:

  • “But” Fears (But what if I fail . . .)
  • “But” Insecurities (But I’m not good enough . . .)
  • “But” Excuses (But there’s no time . . .)

Get Off Your “But” offers a practical guide for putting fear behind you and building the inner resources to become self-confident at work and at home. It’s time to get off your “but” and start leading the life you dream.

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Book reviews, as per Amazon.ca:

  • “Sean is an amazing person with an important message.”
    —President Bill Clinton
  • “Sean Stephenson is the Yoda of personal development, with less pointy ears.”
    —Jimmy Kimmel, host of ABC’s Jimmy Kimmel Live
  • “As we struggle with inertia to become the best that we can be, Sean Stephenson’s book informs and inspires us to stand up and keep moving forward. Thank you, Sean, for your life, your work, and your abundant sharing.”
    —Ken Blanchard, coauthor, The One Minute Manager
  • “Sean Stephenson is a hero to me. When you read his book, he will be a hero to you as well. His moving stories about himself and others who have found the gifts in their pain will teach you so much about courage and, just as important, you will learn how to build your own sense of confidence when it comes to health, career, relationships, and more. Do yourself a favor read this book! ”
    —Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and Embracing Uncertainty
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Directing my Valkyrie | MKE Year 3 Week 9

As I learn more about who I was born to be…I realize that the things from my childhood which I thought were too jeuvenile or silly were swept aside; those character traits (emotional and physical), which I have consciously eliminated from my daily repertoire…these are in fact the foundation of the true Me…they are the bumpers to my bowling lane! At the risk of sounding like a cheese ball…they complete me.

Things like saying “Have a HAPPY day!” rather than “Have a good day” [the boring, confirmative yet still pleasant and more grown-up version].

The Valkyrie inside me has always been there..now that it’s awake, I can barely contain the majestic-ness of it all. Realigning with the 6 year-old Me has been magical, in every sense of the word. I choose to believe in Magic. And I’m happy about it!

I’m putting the real me on display for the world … to love or not to love…

All of my wild love. All my captivating, intoxicating goodness…designed to fulfill my destiny and act as a beacon towards my life’s truest calling….baring my soul, my secrets, and my strengths to the world with pride and humility and I have gratitude and love in my heart so the Universe will bring back to me more of that which I give.

While I feel more free, I also feel more capable, impactful, and yes…even Happier!!

   

This is me, and I love me. Flaws and imperfections are my signature, not my deficit, and I’ve embraced being different – actually, I wouldn’t want it any other way!! I’m going to be the best…my best…that way I can really change things.

The Universal Test

From time to time, the Universe has been known to throw pain and suffering at me, often at the most inopportune times. Likely geared towards muting my light…to distract me from realizing my full potential…and sadly, I have been an unconscious pawn in this game far too long. By allowing this to continue, I am essentially accepting defeat and everything I’ve ever wanted had seemed just beyond my reach.

Well no more. Now I am adorned with goodness and light and more affluence and favor than many will ever know. I know I am very blessed and highly favored.

They [exactly who are ‘they’, anyways?] and why do we voluntarily give ‘them’ is much power?? Anyways…they comment that it’s always darkest before dawn…and I am proud to say that this has never dissuaded me. I promise myself I will overcome the previous addiction to remaining stuck in this realm of torment and drama.

   

Some people believe the Universe is out to get them…well, what I believe is that the Universe IS out to get you – to get you to learn a new lesson, to get you to make different decisions, to make new mistakes, to evolve.

Pain is no longer my fuel, nor is it my vice. When I’ve got a full plate and my resolve threatens to buckle under the pressure…it is at that very moment – while I contemplate certain defeat…that I will not give in, rather I will harness this energy into my greatness…because is where all the magic lies.

The fork in the road, the Fulcrum point…most would [and usually do] concede – justifying their own excuses, allowing Resistance to flail its treacherous sword; hacking apart the ridge built by the conscious minds.

A select few who have adopted the Master Key principles are able to line the trials and tribulations with an overwhelming sense of the warm and fuzzies, vigilantly ploughing through, taking baby steps and sometimes giant leaps and bounds towards overcoming obstacles and turning adversities into advantages.

Think of it like ‘levelling up’…the game platform represents the Universe, the game represents your life/future/desire…and the arsenal of weapons available to you represents your mental stronghold of positive mental thoughts and attitudes.

Will you answer the call??

When my kids were young, and in reality, quite recently as well, I’d always encourage them to ‘make new mistakes’. Instead of throwing in the towel, I took the addition of another simultaneous ‘super important, stress-enduring, time-sucking emergency and instead became laser-focused on funnelling that negative energy into the never-dying battery pack, without any trace of question or exception, powers my Resolve.

More burden…Bring It!

Another Stressor…I’ve got this.

…the needle in the Haystack…I see you and I’m coming for you. Your time is over because I’m coming for you!

I can be what I will to be. And I empower my Vigilant Guardsman as my Valkyrie.

When I feel an insurmountable amount of pressure, I remind myself of my promise to NEVER, EVER QUIT because I’ve embraced the darkness – for the pattern that holds true despite and inspire of the sands of time is this:

Without fail, it is during my darkest and most challenging times that I have come face-to-face with my Demons; and the Vigilant Watchman ensures that it there they shall lie…strewn upon piles of fear and broken dreams, for all eternity these distractions will no longer direct my course. In the darkness I conquer what no longer serves me, and as the dark recess, the new me emerges, armed with new knowledge and habit, with renewed belief and restored confidence.

According to Norse legend, the Valkyrie were beautiful women who watched over Odin’s army and transported their souls to a safe haven, where they were to await the epic, final battle. Those who were weak or unworthy did not get a second chance, they died and were forgotten.

This analogy resonated with me [as all good analogies do!] because my MKE-infused brain is, in essence, watching over my thoughts and filtering which ones are saved, and which ones are discarded and forgotten about. My brain is my Valkyrie. My Vigilant Guardsman at the Gate.

I refuse to conform. I am free of its control because I now realize – and accept – my power to control this destruction and recognize my competent ability to make different choices, which will affect more positive results.

I greet this day with love in my heart.

Today and every day I am growing stronger and more magnetic.

I am not defined as just ‘one thing’, rather I am everything, all at once. Completely in tune with the Universe. I am perfect, whole, harmonious and complete. And above all else, I am Happy!

I do everything with grace and ease because I embrace it all with love in my heart.

I’m so great-ful that you’ve joined me on this journey…please leave your comments and observations below…they fuel my fire and I’m so appreciative for your time and interaction.

Have a HAPPY day!

Jen

Red Pencil Epidemic | MKE Year 3 Week 8

Humans are born with two fears – the fear of falling, and the fear of loud noises – the rest, we learn (or rather, we learn to accept). 

For some reason, our school system seems to get off by telling us how bad we’ve done, rather than celebrating our victories [however small or insignificant they may seem]. Take any spelling test any kid has ever taken…on a list of 10 words let’s say you get 8 right and 2 wrong — we never see 8 green checkmarks, but rather 2 red X’s that stand out on the page like a punch in the face.

image-23 Don’t get me wrong, I hold teachers in the highest regard, but I can’t wrap my head around the constant negativity focus. Can you imagine how different the world would be if we were praised with 8 green check marks instead of 2 red X’s?!!!

Fear does not promote learning. Our mental habit patterns are permeated with it. We exist in a dull ache of consciousness (according to Marianne Williamson). We’re just so programmed to live in fear that it becomes our default.

Our emotions flow from our thoughts, not the other way around. The depth of our wounds keeps us mired in them, keeps us stuck in a river of mediocrity. When we emotionalize situations in our mind, we intensify the pain. The longer we do this, the more comfortable we become with the pain, and then without warning or apology we become so comfortable with the pain that we subconsciously seek out new ways to create it. *Quite the gut punch, right!*

Fear lives in the past and the past has nothing to do with the present. 

The situation is not the enemy – the feelings we’ve attached to the situation are the enemy. Our perception of the past keeps us stuck in it…hidden emotional knives puncture us as we replay the feelings over and over again – in order to heal we must let go of the fear. Change only occurs when you make the decision to heal. It’s like reprogramming your emotional computer. You must consider the possibility of another possibility. What if what we perceive as fear is actually excitement or inspiration?! Did you know that the neuro pathways produced by fear versus the neuro pathways produced by excitement are only one or two neurons apart?? 

Healing occurs in the present, not the past. 

True Story: There is no such thing as a grey sky – the sky is always blue, sometimes it’s just covered in grey clouds. 

If you want to live a life unlike the past…what you do, or don’t do, determines your growth. The world changes when we change. We must take on a more gentle perception of how we experience our experiences. We cannot fight fear – we must replace it with LOVE. We must embrace an enlightened love if you want to live a life unlike the past. 

What you do, or don’t do, determines your growth.

There is no need to live in fear. 

The key to happiness is the decision to be happy. 

When you release fear, a whole world of opportunity will unfold at your feet. When you’re ready to forgive anyone or anything that has hurt you, an affirmation I’ve used to help accomplish this is

‘I forgive you _______________ , and I release you to the Holy Spirit.’

Be your own green pencil! 

Think HAPPY thoughts. 

Lead with LOVE.

YES YOU CAN!!

Love,

Jen

Here’s what moved me this time last year…MKE8 | Directing my Valkyrie

 

A [True] LOVE Story | MKE Year 3 Week 6

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Would it be alright with you if I share a personal story?

It takes place on an enchanted island and as with all great LOVE stories, there are dragons, and best friends who giggle until it hurts … but most of all, it’s about falling in LOVE! And everybody knows that LOVE lets us see ordinary things in an extraordinary way.

But first, a little back of the story…

Cute dragonLooking back on my life before MKE, it was as though I had spent my previous 11,111 days on this planet on auto-pilot. I hadn’t yet clued in that I had been trapped in survival-mode; a prison of my own making. The Dragons keeping close watch to ensure my subconscious shackles were secure [sadly, I am the Dragon].

You see, back then, me and my life-goals…we weren’t that tight. I’d done a pretty good job of repeatedly proving that the life I was living wasn’t getting me anywhere other than exactly where I already was. My current trajectory wasn’t going to help me reach my hopes and dreams, mostly because I didn’t even have a clear understanding of what those hopes and dreams were in the first place.

Where’s the disconnect?

As kids, we embrace valiant dreams and celebrate the grandeur of dreaming big…of becoming Astronauts, or Presidents, or Rocket Scientists – living our own truths with adventurous delight from inside Macaroni Spaceships that we’re certain will transport us to the Moon every day after school. Yet somewhere along the way, we abandon our innocence and lose sight of our innate greatness. We grow older, but we forget to actually live. We take on the weight of societal expectations; abandoning our backyard dreams for some version of ‘Keeping up with Joneses’…

Life was blah. Work was blah. Friendships were hard because life was blah. You get it. Sad. Perhaps even pathetic. Boring for sure.

Without warning or apology, the unremarkable days

morphed into unremarkable nights,

which morphed back into more unremarkable days.

And slowly…

…the days became weeks

…the weeks became months

… and the months became years

until the years themselves faded into a

c o m p l a c e n t   b l u r   o f   m  e  d  i  o  c  r  i  t  y.

What had I been doing with my life??

When did I become comfortable with stagnation?

Why did I stop believing I deserved more?

Did I have any confidence left…or was I drained out of my through the ever-losing battle that exists when raising teenagers?

Until this one time, in 2015 – it hit me: If I could believe in Santa for like 10-years, why couldn’t I believe in myself for 5-minutes? And so began my journey back towards myself…

Introspection led me to a friend who aimed me towards becoming a self-directed thinker, and in late Spring 2015, we embarked on a 13-day adventure-of-a-lifetime together to Kaua’i, Hawaii.

Arriving a few days before the start of the business conference, I kicked off my flip flops, grabbed my Maui Jim’s and a good book, and headed for the beach…my only agenda: to spend time taking in the wonderment and beauty of Hawaii [it had been an unusually cold and long winter in Calgary, Canada…by the way, when people in Calgary use the term ‘pearly whites’ we aren’t referring to our teeth – but rather our legs … nearly transparent and pale as a ghost from being hidden beneath layers of clothing -24/7 while trying to prevent hypothermia]…but forgive me, I digress…

Turns out, the Master Key Experience Live Event was wrapping up, and as luck would have it, some of the residual ‘awe’ – in my opinion: the essence of the event – rubbed off on me and that’s when everything changed. True story!!

As the conference began, I consciously set aside my past experiences, my bias, and what I thought I already knew, and committed to participating with an open heart and an open mind, and to simply let the event do its thing. Trusting and believing that some of the magic and energy I felt radiating from people who had attended the Master Key Master Mind Alliance Live Event, would also extend into the course I was taking, seeing as the same hosts were facilitating both events…and man, was I ever in for a treat!!

Attending conference by day, and exploring the island by night changed my life. For the first time in a very long time I remembered who I was. A clarity descended upon me as I observed – silently, and with complete childlike wonder, as the true Jen lurched herself to the foreground from deep down inside me where I had been, quite accidentally, keeping her captive. I discovered more about myself in 2-weeks than I had during my previous 34 trips around the sun.

I was able to understand more clearly, and to my astonishment, effortlessly. Up until that very moment, everything had been a struggle. This re-introduction to my true and purest self annihilated the introverted, reserved, hesitant versions of self that I cloaked myself in while trying to ‘fit in’ with society. The clarity simultaneously silenced my fears of the unknown, yet was successful at reassuring me that everything was going to be alright. Better than alright actually. I was finally free.

I fell in love with the person I’m meant to be…

Calm, yet bursting with excitement

Surrendered, yet in complete control

Responsible, yet free-spirited

Daring and brave, yet grounded and realistic

Humble, yet confident

Sweet, yet strong

And as I shed my many false cloaks and embraced the true me…I noticed that I became one with the wonder of Hawaii with this group of spectacular human beings; and for this I feel very blessed and highly favoured.

The sensation of being alive suddenly became completely intoxicating. It was as if I was experiencing everything for the very first time…

The kiss of the ocean breeze felt warmer as it sailed against my skin

The food tasted richer – I could sense the nourishment delivered throughout my body

Hugs from strangers reached right down into the forgotten depths of my being

Emotions resonated directly into my essence; into my soul

My brain was forging new neuro pathways – I could literally feel myself evolving

I could hear and feel the gears spinning as I turned my back to years of cement and revered in the delight of chipping away at it. It was as if a lifetime worth of passion, intense desires and enlightenment descended upon me in an instant, like a ray of sunshine bursting through the clouds on a rainy day. I grasped concepts as I never had before, as if the veil of confusion had been lifted and tossed aside.

Every cell in my body felt like it was on fire! As though I had been selected and blessed directly by the Gods, and was being escorted to my bliss on the wings of angels.

I felt so alive – wildly excited to learn and to grow and to evolve..I was not only willing to, but eager to let down my guards and allow my sun to shine brightly. Finally, I was able to just, be me.

LOVE lets us see ordinary things in an extraordinary way

The course that began the following September – the Master Key Experience – taught me that to find these answers I need do nothing more than SIT – to cut through the clutter, disperse the noise, and truly listen to the Beautiful Silence. It was better than having all the answers…I had connected with who I am and why I’m here, and I knew that I AM the answers…I didn’t need to ‘find’ them because they were already inside me.

And it was this life changing adventure that truly taught me about LOVE. Surrounded by like minded people, eager and willing to support me along my journey as they too progressed along their own. These were my people. Here, I felt was at home.

I discovered a few valuable life lessons that have literally changed my DNA; changing how I think, erasing old blueprints, opening my mind to the possibility of new possibilities:

  • That the LOVE for myself is the foundation for all other LOVE
  • That how I see the world changes when looking thru the lens of LOVE [empathy, compassion, understanding, tolerance, patience]
  • In order to be loved how I urned to be loved, I needed to first learn how to LOVE myself

Thank you so much for joining me on this adventure. I’d love to hear about your LOVE too!

Love,

Jen

Curious what moved me this time last year?

MKE6 | Because Science, that’s why!

Beautiful Silence | MKE Year 3 Week 5

The SIT. Powerful stuff. Taking time to internalize the big questions in your life can have a profound effect. Just sit still and listen. If you don’t know why you’re here…try approaching it from a different angle – why are you here and not somewhere else? Ask different questions. Adopt a fresh perspective.

Listen to your heart. Follow your procrastination. People tell you to ignore it – society tries to beat it out of you…but what if what you do when you avoid doing what you should be doing is the key to your purpose?!!?

I’m not saying that procrastination should become your new compass, however, it is a strong indicator of your preferences…take stock of what activities you default to when you’re avoiding ‘adulting’ [read: what you should be doing as an adult] – for instance, I tend to organize things. Before I learned how to train my mind, I would organize my pantry or under the bathroom sink anytime I needed to make follow-up calls for work. So while I’m still making follow-up calls for my vocation, I’ve put into motion a way to incorporate organizing things into my career.

If you can monetize your preferences and make that your career – then you will understand what it means when people say ‘love what you do and you’ll never work another day in your life’.

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Think outside the box will give you a perspective to see things differently when you do that, you can find solutions to common problems. You’ll notice what your default is as long as you remain alert and vigilant and listen attentively. Believe in yourself. Don’t overthink every aspect. Trust the process.

  • Focus on yourself and your truth – following your instinct will guide you back inside.
  • Keep a positive mental state at all times – as much as possible. I tell my kids’ to ‘think happy thoughts’.
  • Personal development. Living on purpose didn’t happen because of what I learned, it’s who I became. Invest in yourself.
  • Turn the radio off – instead, listen to audios in the car…Marianne Williamson…A return to love is one I highly recommend.
  • Follow the leader…emulate those who’ve had success that you want to replicate.

I am so grateful for the life I am living by growing into my best self.

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My commitment to the SIT led me to realize the following:

  • My vibration determines my mindset and my mindset determines my vibration.
  • Before entering my office to write real estate contracts, attend meetings or meet a new prospect, I listen to the song Hallelujah, Christmas edition by the Pentatonix.
  • Wearing clothes that I feel comfortable in – I’ve got a power dress…I wear it for every contract. Simple. Black. Professional.
  • An app called Synctuition has helped me block the noise so I could find my inner voice.

Thanks for following my journey?

Love,

Jen

Curious to see what moved me this time last year? MKE5 | My JENNERGY

The Watched Pot | MKE Year 3 Week 3

Heightened awareness is my ultimate outcome of participating in this MKE course.

We are masterminding to become self-directed thinkers.

I am so honoured to be a part of their journey, and along for my own in the process.

Our observation has a direct effect on our world … how we see things is filtered through our experiences, our bias, our intellect. No two people experience this life in the same way. We have the opportunity to frame every experience to our benefit; however depending on what we’re made of, many people mindlessly fall victim to their circumstance, while others persevere as the victor – as if in spite of it.

Everybody knows the old saying ‘a watched pot never boils’…but here’s the thing – despite knowing that it actually does boil, we still repeat the saying…blindly just throwing it out there with no real purpose.

11e400f3-2189-4c5a-90e4-1e083ed8dc9bTrue Story…a watched pot does in fact boil! The problem is that humans lack the required stick-to-it-iveness to watch it for long enough – it’s the 6-second attention span curse.

 

We need to develop one habit: practicing the skill of intense observation.

We must delete un-truths imposed upon us by other people.

We have to let go of the fallacies fed to us by sheeple.

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This wasn’t the image I wanted – but it’s funny and cute.

How can it be that the same water that softens the noodle, hardens the egg? It’s the same pot of water…yet two completely different outcomes. Let’s say the egg represents someone full of negativity who is unwilling to change, and the noodle represents someone full of negativity but chooses to accept the possibility of a different possibility – and they begin deleting un-truths. 

Same old thinking...same old results

 

The same is true for humans…are you going to be the egg and become (or remain) hard and crass, or are you the noodle – flexible and forgiving?

Perspective Shift

Fact: There are 86,400 seconds in a day. The average persons’ attention span is 6-10 seconds – which means the brain is required to re-focus – or re-un-focus 8,640-14,400 times per day.

Once we’ve decided to become open to building a better life, and committed to the hard mental labor required to achieve it, we can fit the necessary effort into the seconds in our day…the ones we’ve been wasting, mindlessly. Everybody is busy. I get it. Changing our mentality does not take a tonne of time – we simply have to make it a priority.

All change begins in the mind. By re-designating our pockets of time – we can literally reprogram our existence. The Greatest Salesman, by Og Mandino and The Master Keys, by Charles F. Haanel are books packed with valuable insight and knowledge – since knowledge does not apply itself, these are the thoughts I am choosing to focus on as I reprogram my brain so I can experience life differently:

  • Consciously creating my day – reminding myself: Today I begin a new life.
  • Committing to the process of creating a new life! I am worthy. 
  • Do It Now. DO IT NOW. DO IT NOW!! How could anything be more important?!!
  • Become a vigilant watchman of what I allow into my subconscious…
    • The Master Keys 2-14: it is often true that conditions of fear, worry, poverty, disease, in harmony and evils of all kinds dominate us by reason of false suggestions accepted by the unguarded subconscious mind. All this the trained conscious mind can entirely prevent by its vigilante protective action. It may properly be called “the watchman at the gate” of the great subconscious domain.”
  • I promise to question other peoples’ truths before allowing them to take residence in my brain…
    • 2-16: …”The subconscious mind does not engage in the process of proving. It relies upon the conscious mind, “the watchman at the gate”, to guard from mistaken impressions.
  • The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what we physically experience versus what we mentally experience…therefore, creating a new life begins in our mind.
    • 2-23: The subconscious mind cannot argue controversially. Hence, if it has accepted wrong suggestions, the sure method of overcoming them is by the use of a stronger counter-suggestion, frequently repeated, which the mind must accept, thus eventually forming new and healthy habits of thought and life, for the subconscious mind is the seat of Habit.
  • I promise to remember that everything is going to work out in the end…if it isn’t working out yet, it isn’t the end.

Thank you for joining me on this journey – I’d love to hear your feedback.

All my best,

Jen

See what moved me this time last year – MKE3 | Relinquishing Control

 

Social Economy Revolution

Serious change is upon us…the world is experiencing the biggest shift any of us have seen in our lifetimes…a shift towards a performance economy. In the future, you will no longer be paid for your time; rather, you’ll be paid strictly for your performance.

Here’s how the world used to work:

The rise of the Corporation was the norm, and represented a safe place to exist in the world:

Step 1: go to school and learn how to be an employee

Step 2: find a company that will employ you

Step 3: work for that company for 40 years

Step 4: retire

When people realized the loyalty and hard work they were giving wasn’t being given in return, and a different process evolved…

Step 1: go to school and learn how to be an employee

Step 2: find a company that will employ you

Step 3: switch companies for various political an economic reasons every 3-5 years over the course of your career

Step 4: find that you can’t retire comfortably after 40 years so you keep working

This is what will become of virtually every job…in fact, it is already happening in some professions:

  • People in the food industry already live this reality; they earn a small hourly wage (required by law) and make their living through tips, based on their performance.
  • The person cleaning the hotel rooms will no longer be paid by the hour, instead, by the room.
  • Office workers will find a lower base salary and performance incentives if they hit certain performance benchmarks on a monthly basis. Now the pressure is on and the company is loving it…if you don’t hit your targets they’ll save even more money and if you do, guess what’s going to happen – they’ll raise the requirements.

If this hasn’t already happened to you, it will.           Count on it.

The evolution of the Performance Economy has begun.

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According to Eric Worre, here is the ULTIMATE BUSINESS and PERFECT CAREER LIST, summarized from people over 30 countries:

What people don’t want: No boss. No commute. No alarm clock. No employees. No politics. No compromises. No discrimination. No educational requirement.

Using their imagination in a more positive way, here are some more positive attributes: Great product or service. Unlimited income. Residual income. Enjoy the people you work with. Time freedom. Something meaningful. Personal growth. Lots of perks. International. Contribution to worthy causes. Low overhead. Low risk. Low start up cost. Economy proof. Tax benefits. Fun.

As the economy shifts, most people end up with more month than money and are faced to scale back, sell items, or take a second job.Here are some of the typical considerations:

Types of jobs (according to Wikipedia and Eric Worre):

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Blue Collar: A member of the working class who performs manual labor. Somebody who labors to fix something, make something, clean something, build something, or service something or someone.

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White Collar: A person who performs Professional, Managerial or Administrative work. A person who’s employed by someone else to do work other than manual labor or sales. (One of the most socially acceptable options available. Long viewed as the safe and secure option. The previous mentality of ‘if I’m loyal to the company, the company will be loyal to me’ is now long gone.)

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Sales: More adventurous than a typical white collar job because people are paid on their production, instead of by the hour. It is not unheard of for sales people to achieve wild success, when they do, they almost always set their lifestyle to that standard. When times get tough, they work more hours to make the same amount of money…so while they have the stuff, they don’t have the time to enjoy it.

Another challenge for the sales career is that no matter how a person does, they still start at zero the next day, and it can be tiring to live under that kind of pressure for a prolonged period of time.

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Traditional Business Ownership: The details vary a bit, but in general the process goes something like this:

  • Use life savings, take on additional debt via personal loans from family, friends or banks to get started.
  • Focus on everything other than what you’re good at – must be all things to all people. Time of and sleep are unlikely.
  • After everyone else is paid, you might have enough leftover to pay your own bills. Likely not enough to pay down your debt from Step 1 though.
  • Concede, give up your dream, and re-join the sales force with massive debt and a broken ego.

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Investor: Basically, unless you’re extremely specialized, it’s safe to consider this philanthropy rather than investing.

The New Economy Needs Fewer People

Exponential rise of technology has changed everything.

  • 100 years ago, 90% of population worked in agriculture…today, it’s less than 1%…
  • Remember call centres? You used to talk to an actual person, now you talk to a computer…
  • Companies used to have large sales forces, now people order online
  • What about Blockbuster and all of it’s employees…now people stream movies to their handheld or tablet devices…

…and those jobs are gone!

Robot economy pouring beer

Much like the children of farmers saw what was happening and left Farming for new vocations, the same thing is happening in Old Economy jobs. To survive, people need to open their eyes to this new reality and find something new.

Technology and efficiency are eliminating jobs everyday and there’s nothing we can do to stop it; in fact, it’s only going to accelerate.

Just because technology now reigns supreme, doesn’t trump the fact that…

  • …there are still products that need to be promoted…
  • …consumers still need to be educated…
  • …buyers are more discerning than ever to price and quality, because endless information is literally available at the touch of a button…

For the people who recognize this fact, it will be the best of times; for those who don’t, this change will be the worst of times.

Society is moving away from traditional forms of advertising and is rapidly embracing word-of-mouth because it continues to work better than any other form of promotion.

Aside from Super Bowl, when was the last time you volunteered to watch a commercial? PayPerView and OnDemand TV have eliminated the relevance of the commercial.

Hello, AMAZON Prime. In what reality do malls survive where people can quickly and efficiently order what they want and have it shipped directly to their front door with out the hassle and expense of going to the mall? Right…SEARS, ToysR’Us…

UBER rewards referrals with an account credit. Some banks pay hefty bonuses for . And restaurants. And retail stores (what’s left of them). Companies that offer products or services recognize this Social Economy Revolution and are rewarding loyalty with points programs and referral incentives.

Referral Marketing is the new – preferred – form of advertising. Companies aren’t utilizing large and expensive sales forces’, instead, more and more companies choose to provide Corporate support and pay distributors on a purely performance basis to promote their products, thereby utilizing Network Marketing to tell their stories.

More and more, companies will choose to use Network Marketing because it fits the new economy. The best way I know to not only survive, but thrive in the new economy is this Profession.

Network Marketing isn’t perfect…it’s just better.

You must accept [read: embrace] a temporary loss in social esteem from ignorant people.

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For a while, people living in and trying to function within the old system will think less of you. They won’t understand.

You are seeing the future before it becomes apparent to anyone else. You are the smart one. You are taking action to live a better life.

The allure of getting paid for someone else’ efforts is powerful, but often badly misunderstood.

More often than not, this is what goes through the Lind of virtually every person who decides to get involved:

Hmm, I can think of 5 or 6 people who might do this too. My sister would be great. My friend knows lots of people. I know this other person who loves this kind of thing and would be amazing. Okay, I’ll join.

In other words, they aren’t joining a Profession, they’re just hoping to get lucky. They’re hoping to sign up a few people to cover their own start up costs and sit back and wait for the money to roll in. They haven’t started a real business, they’ve just purchased a glorified lottery ticket.

Imagine a lottery ticket with 6 scratch off spots – those spots represent the people they think most certainly will join, they approach those people and try to get them to join, but because of their lack of skill, most of them end up with nothing, just like the lottery ticket. And since they’ve acted in unskilled ignorance, they may have damaged some friendships or relationships along the way.

So, they rip up the lottery ticket, and instead of taking responsibility for not really starting their business, they blame Network Marketing and make sure to tell the world “Look, I’ve been there. Done that. I talked to every person I know and NM just doesn’t work; save your money.”

If you choose this as a Profession, that’s what you’re up against…the opinions of ignorant people who think they have done it right and it doesn’t work.

Well, news flash:

  • If some people are making a lot of money, then it’s not the compensation plans’ fault.
  • If some people are selling a ton of product, then it’s not the products’ fault.
  • If some people are going on the all-inclusive paid vacations, then it’s not the companies’ fault.

Responsibility rests 100% on our own shoulders. If you can embrace this, the world is yours, and in this Profession, you will get paid BIG money.

In contrast, Network Marketing Companies want to pay you more, not less like traditional Corporations.

They will pay unlimited amounts to people

who can help blind people see,

who can educate the ignorant,

and who can build a community of like-minded people.

The world as we know it has changed. If you’re going to be paid on performance anyway,  why live with the cap??

…summarized and reorganized from Eric Worre’s GoPro…

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