A Capsule of Time | MKE Year 3 Week 7


Advice is often though to be didactic in nature; wisdom passing from elder to youth, teacher to student, parent to child…in most cases, the veteran guides the novice. But when the coin flips and we offer advice to our future-self…an older, more worn version of ourself – does this advice, offered from the perspective of our present-day selves, then become foreshadowing?

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Hey there, Future Awesomeness, you’re entirely incredible and this journey is going to be so much fun. 

This is a collection of our best thoughts…you and me…us…because we are one. The Today-me is writing this to the Future-me – because, historically I’ve been stuck in the ‘think about what you want’ category, so I thought I’d share some reminders to serve as a compass if I ever find myself in limbo-land again.

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Believe it or not, the kind of questions you ask determine the kind of life you lead. That’s because your questions trigger its own set of answers, which lead to certain emotions, which then lead to certain actions (or inactions), followed by results. If you ask yourself limiting questions, you’ll get limited results. If you ask yourself mind-opening, forwarding questions, you’ll gain a lot more out of them.

Below is a compilation of the best and most mind-widening questions I could dig up from Google, and dig out from the seat of my soul.

Here they are…happy soul-searching:

    • Who are you?
    • What are you passionate about?
    • What are the achievements you are most proud of?
    • Do I embarrass you? (I’m not 100 percent sure yet if this is a serious or joking question.)
    • What are you most grateful for in life?
    • What are the most important things to you in life?
    • How would you describe yourself?
  • What are your values? What do you represent? What do you want to embody?

Values

    • Do you love yourself?
      • Why or Why not?
    • How can you love yourself more today?
    • What is your ideal self? What does it mean to be your highest self?
    • What’s your biggest accomplishment/experience in the last year?
      • Your worst experience?
      • What did you learn from those events?
    • Look at your life now. Are you living the life of your dreams?
    • Is life truly about the journey?
    • If you have one year left to live, what would you do (bucket list)?
    • If you have one month left to live, what would you do?
    • If you have one week left to live, what would you do?
    • If you have one day left to live, what would you do?
    • If you have an hour left to live, what would you do?
  • If you have one minute left to live, what would you do?

Hourglass

    • What would you do today if there was no more tomorrow?
    • What are the biggest things you’ve learned in life to date?
    • Are you happy? Explain.
  • What advice would you give yourself 3 years ago?

Journaling

    • If you are yourself 1 year from the future, how would you advise the you now?
      • Is there something you’re still holding on to? Is it time to let it go?
  • What are you busy with today? Will this matter 1 year from now? 3 years? 5 years?
  • Do you have any regrets or mistakes you wish you could undo? Do you have anything you wish you’d done but didn’t? Advice?
    • What was the first thing you did after you turned 40? Please don’t let it be something lame like going to the library or getting frozen yogurt by yourself.
    • What opportunities are you looking for?
      • How can you create these opportunities?
    • What are your biggest goals and dreams?
      • What’s stopping you from pursuing them? …Why? How can you overcome them?
    • If you are to do something for free for the rest of your life, what would you want to do?
    • How have your priorities changed in the last year?
      • The last 5-years?
      • The last 10-years?

What would you do if you cannot fail; if there are no limitations in money, resources, time or networks?

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        • … 5 years?
        • … 3 years?What do you want to achieve 1 year from now?
        • 10 years?
    • How important are these goals to you?
    • What if these goals are doubled? Tripled? Magnified by 10? How would you feel? Would you prefer to achieve these or your previous goals?
    • Who are the people who have achieved similar goals? … What can you learn from them?
    • Are you putting any parts of your life on hold? … Why?
    • What’s the top priority in your life right now?
      • What are you doing about it?
    • If you were to die tomorrow, what would be your biggest regret? What can you do now to make sure that doesn’t happen?
    • What are you grateful for today?
    • For every experience you get: What are the biggest things you have learned?
      • How can you do this better the next time?
  • If you have 1 million dollars, what will you do with it?

Money notes

    • Do you love your job?
    • What is your ideal career?
    • How can you start creating your ideal career starting today?
    • What is your ideal diet?
    • What do you need to do to achieve your ideal diet?
    • What is your ideal home like?
    • What do you need to do to achieve your ideal home?
    • What is your ideal physical look?
    • What do you need to do to achieve your ideal physical look?
    • What is your ideal life?
    • What can you do to start living your ideal life?
    • What would you want to say to yourself 1 year in the future?
    • … 3 years?
    • … 5 years?
      • … 10 years?Birthday
    • What do you fear most in life?
    • Is there anything you are running away from?
    • Are you settling for less than what you are worth? … Why?
    • What is your inner dialogue like?
        • Are they helping you achieve your goals?What limiting beliefs are you holding on to?
      • If not, is it time to let them go?
    • What empowering beliefs can you take on to help you achieve your goals?
    • What bad habits do you want to break?
    • What good habits do you want to cultivate?
    • What are the biggest actions you can take now to create the biggest results in your life?
    • Where are you living right now – the past, future or present?
    • Are you living your life to the fullest on a daily basis?
    • What is the meaning of life?
  • What is your purpose in life? Why do you exist? What is your mission?

Mission

    • How can you make your life more meaningful, starting today?
    • What drives you?
    • What are the times you are most inspired, most motivated, most charged up?
      • What did you do during those times? How can you do more of that starting today?
    • How can you change someone’s life for the better today?
  • Who are the 5 people you spend the most time with?
    • Are these people enabling you or holding you back?

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    • What qualities do you want to embody?
      • Where can you meet people who embody these qualities?What are your values? What do you represent? What do you want to embody?
      • Ideal Self: What is your ideal self? What does it mean to be your highest self?
    • Who inspire you the most?
      • How can you be like them?
        • Where can you find him/her?What is your ideal life partner like?
      • How can you get to know him/her?
  • Are you afraid of letting others get close to you?
    • … Why or Why not?

Fear

  • Who is/are the most important person(s) to you in the world? Are you giving them the attention you want to give?
      • How can you spend more time with them starting today?
    • What kind of person do you enjoy spending time with?
      • How can you be this person to others?
      • Who do you want to be like in 1 year?

… 3 years?

        • … 5 years?
      • … 10 years?
    • Who are your mentors in life? (formal or informal)
    • How have you been of service to others today?
  • What is one thing you’re going to do differently after reading this?

Questions aside, I also have a few wishes for you. I know you’ll probably go through heartbreak along the way…but I sincerely wish your ultimate path will be one that you love and one that will never make you feel like you’re settling for less. I hope that between now and then, you’ll have learned a lot more and grown into an amazing human being with a bright future, surrounded by love and friendship and true bliss.

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It is likely that you are reading this on some sort of graphene screen strapped around your wrist or glued to your face. Cool! Fancy! High-tech!

Thanks for following!

Love,

Jen

See what moved me this time last year…MKE7 | Love Letter From My Future Self

A [True] LOVE Story | MKE Year 3 Week 6

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Would it be alright with you if I share a personal story?

It takes place on an enchanted island and as with all great LOVE stories, there are dragons, and best friends who giggle until it hurts … but most of all, it’s about falling in LOVE! And everybody knows that LOVE lets us see ordinary things in an extraordinary way.

But first, a little back of the story…

Cute dragonLooking back on my life before MKE, it was as though I had spent my previous 11,111 days on this planet on auto-pilot. I hadn’t yet clued in that I had been trapped in survival-mode; a prison of my own making. The Dragons keeping close watch to ensure my subconscious shackles were secure [sadly, I am the Dragon].

You see, back then, me and my life-goals…we weren’t that tight. I’d done a pretty good job of repeatedly proving that the life I was living wasn’t getting me anywhere other than exactly where I already was. My current trajectory wasn’t going to help me reach my hopes and dreams, mostly because I didn’t even have a clear understanding of what those hopes and dreams were in the first place.

Where’s the disconnect?

As kids, we embrace valiant dreams and celebrate the grandeur of dreaming big…of becoming Astronauts, or Presidents, or Rocket Scientists – living our own truths with adventurous delight from inside Macaroni Spaceships that we’re certain will transport us to the Moon every day after school. Yet somewhere along the way, we abandon our innocence and lose sight of our innate greatness. We grow older, but we forget to actually live. We take on the weight of societal expectations; abandoning our backyard dreams for some version of ‘Keeping up with Joneses’…

Life was blah. Work was blah. Friendships were hard because life was blah. You get it. Sad. Perhaps even pathetic. Boring for sure.

Without warning or apology, the unremarkable days

morphed into unremarkable nights,

which morphed back into more unremarkable days.

And slowly…

…the days became weeks

…the weeks became months

… and the months became years

until the years themselves faded into a

c o m p l a c e n t   b l u r   o f   m  e  d  i  o  c  r  i  t  y.

What had I been doing with my life??

When did I become comfortable with stagnation?

Why did I stop believing I deserved more?

Did I have any confidence left…or was I drained out of my through the ever-losing battle that exists when raising teenagers?

Until this one time, in 2015 – it hit me: If I could believe in Santa for like 10-years, why couldn’t I believe in myself for 5-minutes? And so began my journey back towards myself…

Introspection led me to a friend who aimed me towards becoming a self-directed thinker, and in late Spring 2015, we embarked on a 13-day adventure-of-a-lifetime together to Kaua’i, Hawaii.

Arriving a few days before the start of the business conference, I kicked off my flip flops, grabbed my Maui Jim’s and a good book, and headed for the beach…my only agenda: to spend time taking in the wonderment and beauty of Hawaii [it had been an unusually cold and long winter in Calgary, Canada…by the way, when people in Calgary use the term ‘pearly whites’ we aren’t referring to our teeth – but rather our legs … nearly transparent and pale as a ghost from being hidden beneath layers of clothing -24/7 while trying to prevent hypothermia]…but forgive me, I digress…

Turns out, the Master Key Experience Live Event was wrapping up, and as luck would have it, some of the residual ‘awe’ – in my opinion: the essence of the event – rubbed off on me and that’s when everything changed. True story!!

As the conference began, I consciously set aside my past experiences, my bias, and what I thought I already knew, and committed to participating with an open heart and an open mind, and to simply let the event do its thing. Trusting and believing that some of the magic and energy I felt radiating from people who had attended the Master Key Master Mind Alliance Live Event, would also extend into the course I was taking, seeing as the same hosts were facilitating both events…and man, was I ever in for a treat!!

Attending conference by day, and exploring the island by night changed my life. For the first time in a very long time I remembered who I was. A clarity descended upon me as I observed – silently, and with complete childlike wonder, as the true Jen lurched herself to the foreground from deep down inside me where I had been, quite accidentally, keeping her captive. I discovered more about myself in 2-weeks than I had during my previous 34 trips around the sun.

I was able to understand more clearly, and to my astonishment, effortlessly. Up until that very moment, everything had been a struggle. This re-introduction to my true and purest self annihilated the introverted, reserved, hesitant versions of self that I cloaked myself in while trying to ‘fit in’ with society. The clarity simultaneously silenced my fears of the unknown, yet was successful at reassuring me that everything was going to be alright. Better than alright actually. I was finally free.

I fell in love with the person I’m meant to be…

Calm, yet bursting with excitement

Surrendered, yet in complete control

Responsible, yet free-spirited

Daring and brave, yet grounded and realistic

Humble, yet confident

Sweet, yet strong

And as I shed my many false cloaks and embraced the true me…I noticed that I became one with the wonder of Hawaii with this group of spectacular human beings; and for this I feel very blessed and highly favoured.

The sensation of being alive suddenly became completely intoxicating. It was as if I was experiencing everything for the very first time…

The kiss of the ocean breeze felt warmer as it sailed against my skin

The food tasted richer – I could sense the nourishment delivered throughout my body

Hugs from strangers reached right down into the forgotten depths of my being

Emotions resonated directly into my essence; into my soul

My brain was forging new neuro pathways – I could literally feel myself evolving

I could hear and feel the gears spinning as I turned my back to years of cement and revered in the delight of chipping away at it. It was as if a lifetime worth of passion, intense desires and enlightenment descended upon me in an instant, like a ray of sunshine bursting through the clouds on a rainy day. I grasped concepts as I never had before, as if the veil of confusion had been lifted and tossed aside.

Every cell in my body felt like it was on fire! As though I had been selected and blessed directly by the Gods, and was being escorted to my bliss on the wings of angels.

I felt so alive – wildly excited to learn and to grow and to evolve..I was not only willing to, but eager to let down my guards and allow my sun to shine brightly. Finally, I was able to just, be me.

LOVE lets us see ordinary things in an extraordinary way

The course that began the following September – the Master Key Experience – taught me that to find these answers I need do nothing more than SIT – to cut through the clutter, disperse the noise, and truly listen to the Beautiful Silence. It was better than having all the answers…I had connected with who I am and why I’m here, and I knew that I AM the answers…I didn’t need to ‘find’ them because they were already inside me.

And it was this life changing adventure that truly taught me about LOVE. Surrounded by like minded people, eager and willing to support me along my journey as they too progressed along their own. These were my people. Here, I felt was at home.

I discovered a few valuable life lessons that have literally changed my DNA; changing how I think, erasing old blueprints, opening my mind to the possibility of new possibilities:

  • That the LOVE for myself is the foundation for all other LOVE
  • That how I see the world changes when looking thru the lens of LOVE [empathy, compassion, understanding, tolerance, patience]
  • In order to be loved how I urned to be loved, I needed to first learn how to LOVE myself

Thank you so much for joining me on this adventure. I’d love to hear about your LOVE too!

Love,

Jen

Curious what moved me this time last year?

MKE6 | Because Science, that’s why!

Beautiful Silence | MKE Year 3 Week 5

The SIT. Powerful stuff. Taking time to internalize the big questions in your life can have a profound effect. Just sit still and listen. If you don’t know why you’re here…try approaching it from a different angle – why are you here and not somewhere else? Ask different questions. Adopt a fresh perspective.

Listen to your heart. Follow your procrastination. People tell you to ignore it – society tries to beat it out of you…but what if what you do when you avoid doing what you should be doing is the key to your purpose?!!?

I’m not saying that procrastination should become your new compass, however, it is a strong indicator of your preferences…take stock of what activities you default to when you’re avoiding ‘adulting’ [read: what you should be doing as an adult] – for instance, I tend to organize things. Before I learned how to train my mind, I would organize my pantry or under the bathroom sink anytime I needed to make follow-up calls for work. So while I’m still making follow-up calls for my vocation, I’ve put into motion a way to incorporate organizing things into my career.

If you can monetize your preferences and make that your career – then you will understand what it means when people say ‘love what you do and you’ll never work another day in your life’.

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Think outside the box will give you a perspective to see things differently when you do that, you can find solutions to common problems. You’ll notice what your default is as long as you remain alert and vigilant and listen attentively. Believe in yourself. Don’t overthink every aspect. Trust the process.

  • Focus on yourself and your truth – following your instinct will guide you back inside.
  • Keep a positive mental state at all times – as much as possible. I tell my kids’ to ‘think happy thoughts’.
  • Personal development. Living on purpose didn’t happen because of what I learned, it’s who I became. Invest in yourself.
  • Turn the radio off – instead, listen to audios in the car…Marianne Williamson…A return to love is one I highly recommend.
  • Follow the leader…emulate those who’ve had success that you want to replicate.

I am so grateful for the life I am living by growing into my best self.

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My commitment to the SIT led me to realize the following:

  • My vibration determines my mindset and my mindset determines my vibration.
  • Before entering my office to write real estate contracts, attend meetings or meet a new prospect, I listen to the song Hallelujah, Christmas edition by the Pentatonix.
  • Wearing clothes that I feel comfortable in – I’ve got a power dress…I wear it for every contract. Simple. Black. Professional.
  • An app called Synctuition has helped me block the noise so I could find my inner voice.

Thanks for following my journey?

Love,

Jen

Curious to see what moved me this time last year? MKE5 | My JENNERGY

STONEWALL | MKE Year 3 Week 4

Today I begin a new life.

I am building a stone wall as my protection.

I’ve accomplished so much and can see it and am so proud of myself.

My mental, moral and physical harmony is valuable and precious.

I can be what I will to be.

As a daily reminder to hold onto my greatness, I named my corporation The CRATOS Group – Cratos meaning ‘The Personification of Strength and Power’.

You know how you’re instructed before each flight to affix your oxygen mask before helping others on an airplane. The same holds true in life…in order to give your best and highest effort you have to fortify your mind to cancel out the noise; cancel out the opinions of others; cancel out the negative self talk; cancel out anything that isn’t serving you and your higher purpose.

What YOU do is all that matters.

My friend Jesse tells me all the time – always beating himself up – hard – about a bad decision he made in front of his young son…he continues ripping himself to shreds over 3-minutes from nearly a decade ago. He has been holding himself hostage by one bad decision, rather than forgiving himself and learning how to be come a better father, a stronger role-model and a better person overall. He didn’t learn from his mistakes – he fell victim to them.

We must fortify the stonewall in front of our own castle. In our own minds. First.

We need to build up our self belief, and that begins from within. We need to monitor what we are watching and what we listen to; we need to make a top 10 list of what we like about ourselves and read it out loud morning, noon and night; we need to surround ourselves with positive, supportive people. This will help us lay each brick the best it can possibly be laid.

We need not think about building an entire wall, rather fortifying only the portion in front of our own homes…which all begins in our own mind. Once we have mastered this, we can then join hands with our neighbours and build stronger friendships, stronger communities…and a stronger world.

Just like Marvel’s Nova Corps Fleet in the movie The Guardians of the Galaxy – how they unify and together, they become stronger.

I can be what I will to be. 

This scene from the movie Facing The Giants is one of my favourites…it reminds me that I am capable of more.

I know my calling is to help connect people to their inner love again. Help them reconnect with their innate greatness – infusing positive self talk strategies to gain self-belief and confidence to live on purpose. In order to help others I must first help myself do exactly the same.

I trust the universe to supply me with all necessary financial resources.

I trust myself to be open to every opportunity and to embrace change in order to put myself out there, in order to both attract, and be ready for, the next steps into my best self, and towards my best life.

I appreciate you joining me on this journey and would love to hear your feedback.

All my best,

Jen

See what moved me during last years’ course: Year 2 Week 4 | [audible gasp] 

The Watched Pot | MKE Year 3 Week 3

Heightened awareness is my ultimate outcome of participating in this MKE course.

We are masterminding to become self-directed thinkers.

I am so honoured to be a part of their journey, and along for my own in the process.

Our observation has a direct effect on our world … how we see things is filtered through our experiences, our bias, our intellect. No two people experience this life in the same way. We have the opportunity to frame every experience to our benefit; however depending on what we’re made of, many people mindlessly fall victim to their circumstance, while others persevere as the victor – as if in spite of it.

Everybody knows the old saying ‘a watched pot never boils’…but here’s the thing – despite knowing that it actually does boil, we still repeat the saying…blindly just throwing it out there with no real purpose.

11e400f3-2189-4c5a-90e4-1e083ed8dc9bTrue Story…a watched pot does in fact boil! The problem is that humans lack the required stick-to-it-iveness to watch it for long enough – it’s the 6-second attention span curse.

 

We need to develop one habit: practicing the skill of intense observation.

We must delete un-truths imposed upon us by other people.

We have to let go of the fallacies fed to us by sheeple.

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This wasn’t the image I wanted – but it’s funny and cute.

How can it be that the same water that softens the noodle, hardens the egg? It’s the same pot of water…yet two completely different outcomes. Let’s say the egg represents someone full of negativity who is unwilling to change, and the noodle represents someone full of negativity but chooses to accept the possibility of a different possibility – and they begin deleting un-truths. 

Same old thinking...same old results

 

The same is true for humans…are you going to be the egg and become (or remain) hard and crass, or are you the noodle – flexible and forgiving?

Perspective Shift

Fact: There are 86,400 seconds in a day. The average persons’ attention span is 6-10 seconds – which means the brain is required to re-focus – or re-un-focus 8,640-14,400 times per day.

Once we’ve decided to become open to building a better life, and committed to the hard mental labor required to achieve it, we can fit the necessary effort into the seconds in our day…the ones we’ve been wasting, mindlessly. Everybody is busy. I get it. Changing our mentality does not take a tonne of time – we simply have to make it a priority.

All change begins in the mind. By re-designating our pockets of time – we can literally reprogram our existence. The Greatest Salesman, by Og Mandino and The Master Keys, by Charles F. Haanel are books packed with valuable insight and knowledge – since knowledge does not apply itself, these are the thoughts I am choosing to focus on as I reprogram my brain so I can experience life differently:

  • Consciously creating my day – reminding myself: Today I begin a new life.
  • Committing to the process of creating a new life! I am worthy. 
  • Do It Now. DO IT NOW. DO IT NOW!! How could anything be more important?!!
  • Become a vigilant watchman of what I allow into my subconscious…
    • The Master Keys 2-14: it is often true that conditions of fear, worry, poverty, disease, in harmony and evils of all kinds dominate us by reason of false suggestions accepted by the unguarded subconscious mind. All this the trained conscious mind can entirely prevent by its vigilante protective action. It may properly be called “the watchman at the gate” of the great subconscious domain.”
  • I promise to question other peoples’ truths before allowing them to take residence in my brain…
    • 2-16: …”The subconscious mind does not engage in the process of proving. It relies upon the conscious mind, “the watchman at the gate”, to guard from mistaken impressions.
  • The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what we physically experience versus what we mentally experience…therefore, creating a new life begins in our mind.
    • 2-23: The subconscious mind cannot argue controversially. Hence, if it has accepted wrong suggestions, the sure method of overcoming them is by the use of a stronger counter-suggestion, frequently repeated, which the mind must accept, thus eventually forming new and healthy habits of thought and life, for the subconscious mind is the seat of Habit.
  • I promise to remember that everything is going to work out in the end…if it isn’t working out yet, it isn’t the end.

Thank you for joining me on this journey – I’d love to hear your feedback.

All my best,

Jen

See what moved me this time last year – MKE3 | Relinquishing Control

 

Self-Confidence [a how-to guide] | MKE Year 3 Week 2

Self-confidence is not found in the perfect pair of jeans … it’s not having the sickest vehicle … or being amazing at school sports … It’s not about the perfect job … or spouse … or dog … or pencil crayon collection, etc. etc. etc.

Self-confidence is a mindset. Good news about that is: it doesn’t cost any money … doesn’t require any talent … and you don’t need any special equipment.

Keep in mind that developing yourself is a process – much like flat abs, it’s not going to show up without some serious effort on your part. Here are a couple things, in no particular order, that I’ve found useful along my own journey. None are more important than the others, so I’ve listed them all as #1.

I wrote them with an open heart – I hope you’ll receive them with an open mind.

#1: Smile

Screen Shot 2017-12-01 at 11.20.09 AMLearning to like the person in the mirror difficult because most people have spent but instead of trying to get diapers or avoiding the barrel together try something as simple as a smile. Bill Tabing to a complement hate you look nice cute dress good job on your make up can’t find anything nice to say to yourself perhaps you can complement good job we did growing up eye balls or how nice your hair is growing or something…anything positive will do.

Not so sure yet?

Eventually, liking the person in the mirror I promise will need to loving the person in the mirror. You’ve just spent a lot of time disliking the person staring back at you…so it’s only logical that you’re not going to fall back in love with yourself overnight.

It will come, I promise. Give it time.

#1: Be Gentle With Yourself

Go easy on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up, and stop trying to be perfect.

Will it really affect your future if you miss a deadline, or or if the kids had to get take-out for lunch because you didn’t remember to pack lunches?

Understand that you’re just one person, and people have limits. It’s okay to have limits. Actually, limits are healthy.

When you can control your internal dialogue, the rest seems to fall into place. It’s got something to do with vibration – which I’ll write about in a few weeks – basically, we all attract things into our lives based on what we think about and what we feel…and it is Universal law that our vibration can only attract similar vibrations. If we think of our vibration like the keys on a piano – pressing a D-minor key but expecting an A-sharp sound to be produced would be ridiculous, right?!

Quit comparing yourself to others – and just do you.

You are Natures Greatest Miracle.

You’ve got this. 

#1: Say Nice Things

The world is not out to get you. If something goes wrong in your day, don’t beat yourself up about it. For example if the dog food delivery doesn’t get there on time, or you wake up and it’s cloudy, or traffic is unusually heavy during your commute.

The default story you tell yourself might be something like:

“Go figure, bad stuff always happens to me”.

I call this a grumble grumble grumble mindset and one that will only bring you more of the same.

Words have power. Especially the ones you say to yourself.

I suggest making a list of the Top 10 things you like about yourself…ready it three times daily. If you’re not sure what to write – ask a child what they like best about you…they’re honest and haven’t yet learned how to lie so you’ll get a clear answer.

As a kid, my grandma always used to tell me

“If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all.”

She also told me that eating mushrooms would make my boobs grow. Clearly, she knew what she was talking about.

Rather than remaining mired in negativity, try saying – or thinking – something positive. Immediately. Saying nice things will help re-train your brain by reprogramming the neuro pathways so that next time the same or similar experiences happen, your default memory will be positive. In my opinion and from experience, when the memory is positive, it allows you to absorb whatever lesson is being taught so you can move on and learn new lessons [and make new mistakes].

Evolution doesn’t happen over night, so don’t dismiss it after one or two tries. 

#1: Vulnerability is a Virtue

Be kind to everyone for you never know what that other people are facing. It’s a basic life principal: Give More Get More. The Universal Law of unending returns tells us that your good deeds will come back to you. What you give to people – that’s what you’re going to get back. What you give is up to you…if you seem to be grumbling a lot…refer to #1: Say Nice Things, above.

#1: That Song You’re Listening To Keeping You Broke

Now you might be asking, how on earth could this be relevant to self-confidence?? And it may sound like passing blame and/or not taking responsibility…but stick with me here.

I assure you, the impact of what you allow into your subconscious. has a profound and notable impact on your behaviour and your actions.

On the week 2 webinar we learned that there are 4 Billion subconscious connections firing in our brain – as compared to only 2000 conscious connections. True story!

Remember any jingles from your childhood? Perhaps you haven’t heard it for 15-25-35 years, yet when played, you recall it word for word, and can still put the correct emphasis on words as though you consciously recalled it yourself? Our brain retains information that we don’t even register as important. So I assure you, the gossip and mindless chatter sneaks in there too!

#1: Negativity is a Lousy Roommate.

The news was basically fear mongering and I didn’t ever have time for all the associated drama, so I stopped listening to the radio, and eliminated watching the news. When I did tune in, I never heard any money come out of it – the radio, nor the news have ever paid my mortgage, and has never put food on my table – so instead, while in the car I listen to audio self-improvement audio some ones that really helped get my mindset in the right place. It’s not what I learned, it’s who I became as a result of being surrounded by these great people that has had the biggest impact on my life. With so much negativity all around, it is important to disrupt your brain. Don’t let negativity live rent-free in your mind.

Mind your mind. Keep it positive. Find the good.

Napoleon Hill wrote THINK-and-grow-rich. Not DO-and-grow-rich.

So I listen to the signs a person with cheap meant by Napoleon Hill I listen to the strangest secret by Earl Nightingale I listen to return to love by Marianne Williamson I listen to think and grow Rich by Napoleon Hill and the countless hours that I’ve spent with them as my silent partners with them is my mastermind group have got me to where I am today and I am so thankful that I didn’t just listen to the radio!!

#1: Judge Not Lest Ye Be Judged

My daughter does not want to be judged EVER. In fact, the thought of being judged paralyzes her. Yet ironically, she’s probably the most judgemental person I’ve ever met. The psychology behind her logic is this: If she judges somebody before they can judge her – then their words have no power. She has it half right.

If you ever went to junior high then it’s likely that you understand what it feels like to be judged. And most likely, what it’s like to judge other people as well.

Ultimately it’s just easier to point the finger at somebody else make them feel bad so that we feel good.  Remember, when we point the finger, there’s 1 pointing at them, but 3 pointing back at ourself.

#1: Introspection – Get Used To It

Most often other people based on the here maybe give me something to somebody else forget to try and bring them down to your level if you can’t feel better about yourself. Where’s the logic – make somebody feel shitty about their flaws because you’re insecure about your own flaws? When did it become easier to attack others – even if it is  subconsciously. Is it really so hard to look yourself in the mirror and say nice things; to be gentle with yourself and focus on your strengths rather than your perceived deficiencies.

To be fair, I know at first this is hard – but keep tabs on how you feel, and how you respond to situations and when you feel that ‘pang’ in the seat of your soul – that’s when you need to pay attention and do whatever it is you’re running away from.

#1: Live In The Truth

Have you ever met someone who lies about everything? Little white lies… exaggerations… some people seem more comfortable lying than telling the truth. Sadly, they lie so much that they begin believing their own lies, and then the truth is impossible to discern, even for them.

You rob people of the joys in life when you lie. So don’t do it. It’s a shitty thing. It takes so much from you and your family from the people you love it ruins surprises  and drains excitement when you lie – just don’t do it.

#1: Embrace 100% Responsibility

You have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you do…and for everything you don’t do for that matter.

…for everything that you think

…for everything that you say

…for every action that you take

…and for every action that you don’t

It’s actually very freeing.

Don’t make excuses…

…not for being late

…not for missing a deadline

…not for not having enough time

…not for the car you drive

…not for the state of your relationships

…not for the state of your life.

Own your s**t.

The good and the bad.

Only then can you being see things objectively, and hopefully, welcome change.

#1: Be Courageous

The more often you choose courage, the more often you’ll succeed.

#1: Express Your Gratitude

You’ll never get what you want if you can’t be grateful for what you’ve already got.

My Gratitude Stack

#1: Love

Love let’s us see ordinary things in extraordinary ways. I LOVE YOU JHC

With love you can be courageous. You an take responsibility. You want to help others and you don’t feel the need to judge. It’s a very nice place to be.

All of this has become more clear during my 36-months with MKE – I’ve either learned it or had it become more clear.

I don’t simply comprehend these steps, I live them everyday. And it is all sunshine and rainbows in my life – even when it isn’t. I choose to find the silver lining – to see the glass as half full – to believe that I am very blessed and highly favoured.

Will you answer your call to greatness?

You’ve got this.

Jen

Curious what moved me this time last year: MKE2 | The Cliffs of Insanity

Pockets of Time | MKE Year 3 Week 1

Hey…got a minute??

I’d like to talk about the seemingly inconsequential ‘Pockets of Time’ that make up our day. These bite-sized morsels of time can have an enormous impact on how we make our conscious decisions, which of course, then forms our habits. And everybody knows that ultimately, it is our habits that pave the way for the life we live. For better or for worse.

Let’s start by digging into what a ‘Pocket of Time’ actually is: any amount of time which makes up the in-between times…the time that fills the gaps. For instance:

  • Waiting for the bus, or in line, or for the photocopier…
  • After school before the kids come out
  • While your food spins in the microwave
  • When you’re put on hold during a phone call
  • During commercials
  • Listening to the radio in your vehicle
  • Or waiting for the traffic light to change, etc.

These small 20-180 second intervals allow us plenty of time to think ourselves into the life we want to live, or not – just as easily, we could do nothing at all…or worse…complain about all the things we don’t want, or we could log into the black hole that is our social accounts and get depressed about all the things we don’t have.

Whether it’s staring at the microwave; mindlessly channel surfing; or listening to gossip on the radio show…none of those things are going to move you closer to your greatness.

However, can you imagine what you could do with that time if you choose to apply yourself, beginning by putting these pockets to use?! Instead of watching cat videos, you could choose to do a physical chore, such as:

  • Clean out the leftovers in the fridge
  • Wipe the front of the appliances
  • Refresh the dogs’ water bowls
  • Take out the garbage
  • Write a quick love note for someone
  • Straighten the shoes at the front door
  • Organize throw pillows on the sofa
  • Purge receipts from your wallet
  • Unload the dishwasher
  • Sort the mail
  • Start writing a BLOG
  • Or simply … think a happy thought…

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Once you can master the art of putting your physical body to better use, you might be ready to develop your emotional and mental self – this is the world within. Inside each of us is the unlimited potential to harness an unbelievable amount of thought power…yet, out of habit – or perhaps out of sheer laziness – we usually, and subconsciously dismiss the opportunity to do something productive or beneficial – simply by electing to do nothing.

In essence, we refuse to answer the call to our greatness.

It doesn’t take any extra effort to keep the house clean if you make a point to do so…instead of leaving your socks on the floor, just demand of yourself that you respect the house and your housemates and pick hem up when you get off the sofa, for instance. It seems inconsequential, yet truthfully, when you do tiny things to keep order in your life it saves you from having to find hours each week to clean the house. Same logic applies to your mental housekeeping since your exterior world is a direct reflection of your interior world.

Here’s what I know to be true…if you want to go on a vacation, holding a grudge over someone who went on one isn’t going to build you an airplane…you’ve got to get off your butt and start working! The same is true for your life. You’ve got to dream your dream into reality…become one with it…obsess about it [rather than about Candy Crush or Clash of Clans]. Put those pockets of time to better use. Your future depends on it.

I’m not saying you need to fill every second of every day – but if you take a personal inventory of how you behave during the pockets of time in your world, then you can begin to fill your pockets with intention and activities designed to propel you closer to your greatness!

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The good news and the bad news is it’s entirely up to you.

If you’re anything like me you spent a lot of time in your car…yeah, you could spend time listening to songs on the radio about the guy who lost his dog and/or broke his truck, but all the time I’ve been listening to the radio I’ve never heard any money come out of it!! Its never paid my mortgage or put food on my table…so instead, while I’m in the car I choose to listen to audio designed to help me become a self-directed thinker (sure, your kids might complain – but when they do, have them Google what Pitpulls’ Mom made him listen to):

  • Science of Personal Achievement by Napoleon Hill
  • The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale
  • A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
  • Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

The countless hours I’ve spent with these icons as my silent partners; my guides; my mastermind alliance have supported me to new heights that I am enjoying today, and beyond. I am so thankful I didn’t mindlessly fall in line with the other sheeple and listen to the radio!!

It isn’t what I learned – it’s who I became as a result that has changed me the most and had the most lasting impact.

In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill says:

Complaining about being poor won’t bring you riches. Wishing for it isn’t enough, you’ve got to act yourself into riches. Wishing for riches may very well bring you temporary riches, but acting with LOVE in your heart will surely bring you riches for generations.

Autonomy and Legacy are important to me – so I made a promise to myself, and a commitment to my family to be that person who creates ‘old money’ for my family – for generations to come. I chose to put my pockets of time to use to create a better life for myself and my family – a future that creates riches for generations.

Today I begin a new life is a great mantra – adds love to your mindset. Repeat this in your Pockets of Time and witness how your life changes.

To be clear here, riches isn’t about money – ‘riches’ is about anything you hold dear to your heart. I realized I didn’t need to have rich Grandparents, or an old Uncle to leave me a ton of money in his will, or the proper blood lines.

Rather, by tapping into my innate potential and reprogramming my brain;

making better decisions about what to do with my time,

I confirmed to myself that I can become anything I want;

I can accomplish anything I set my mind to!

And you can too!!

You are Nature’s Greatest Miracle.

You have it within you to Persist Until You Succeed.

Now, armed with the knowledge that we can think ourselves into any life we want…I encourage you to be brave.

Go ahead and love yourself into riches, by posting a few affirmation cards on your bathroom mirror or inside the kitchen cupboards and see how what you think about changes.

Malcolm Gladwell concludes that one becomes an ‘Outlier’ [a master of their craft] with 10,000 hours of practice. Essentially, anyone can master anything by practicing for about 90-minutes per day, for 20 years…he calls this the ‘Tipping-Point’ of greatness.

The way I see it – the ‘Pockets of Time’ are the answer; a first step towards the mastery of 10,000.

We may feel short on time to impact change in our lives overnight, or in a week, or in a month…but can you imagine how different your life would be in 2-years or 5-years or 10-years if you were to simply redirect your mindless time into mindful time? The possibilities are endless. Try new things. Make new mistakes.

10,000 hours - how much have you put in?

Today is your day – your ground zero!! Human beings have the ‘God-like’ power to control our thoughts; and since “we become what we think about” as Earl Nightingale reminds us in the Strangest Secret, then it stands to reason we can visualize into reality any life which we can imagine.

Here’s to your next new mistake. I’d love to hear all about it.

Love,

Jen

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Check out what moved me during this week of the course during Year 2: MKE 1 | Disengaging Auto-Pilot

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Social Economy Revolution

Serious change is upon us…the world is experiencing the biggest shift any of us have seen in our lifetimes…a shift towards a performance economy. In the future, you will no longer be paid for your time; rather, you’ll be paid strictly for your performance.

Here’s how the world used to work:

The rise of the Corporation was the norm, and represented a safe place to exist in the world:

Step 1: go to school and learn how to be an employee

Step 2: find a company that will employ you

Step 3: work for that company for 40 years

Step 4: retire

When people realized the loyalty and hard work they were giving wasn’t being given in return, and a different process evolved…

Step 1: go to school and learn how to be an employee

Step 2: find a company that will employ you

Step 3: switch companies for various political an economic reasons every 3-5 years over the course of your career

Step 4: find that you can’t retire comfortably after 40 years so you keep working

This is what will become of virtually every job…in fact, it is already happening in some professions:

  • People in the food industry already live this reality; they earn a small hourly wage (required by law) and make their living through tips, based on their performance.
  • The person cleaning the hotel rooms will no longer be paid by the hour, instead, by the room.
  • Office workers will find a lower base salary and performance incentives if they hit certain performance benchmarks on a monthly basis. Now the pressure is on and the company is loving it…if you don’t hit your targets they’ll save even more money and if you do, guess what’s going to happen – they’ll raise the requirements.

If this hasn’t already happened to you, it will.           Count on it.

The evolution of the Performance Economy has begun.

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According to Eric Worre, here is the ULTIMATE BUSINESS and PERFECT CAREER LIST, summarized from people over 30 countries:

What people don’t want: No boss. No commute. No alarm clock. No employees. No politics. No compromises. No discrimination. No educational requirement.

Using their imagination in a more positive way, here are some more positive attributes: Great product or service. Unlimited income. Residual income. Enjoy the people you work with. Time freedom. Something meaningful. Personal growth. Lots of perks. International. Contribution to worthy causes. Low overhead. Low risk. Low start up cost. Economy proof. Tax benefits. Fun.

As the economy shifts, most people end up with more month than money and are faced to scale back, sell items, or take a second job.Here are some of the typical considerations:

Types of jobs (according to Wikipedia and Eric Worre):

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Blue Collar: A member of the working class who performs manual labor. Somebody who labors to fix something, make something, clean something, build something, or service something or someone.

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White Collar: A person who performs Professional, Managerial or Administrative work. A person who’s employed by someone else to do work other than manual labor or sales. (One of the most socially acceptable options available. Long viewed as the safe and secure option. The previous mentality of ‘if I’m loyal to the company, the company will be loyal to me’ is now long gone.)

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Sales: More adventurous than a typical white collar job because people are paid on their production, instead of by the hour. It is not unheard of for sales people to achieve wild success, when they do, they almost always set their lifestyle to that standard. When times get tough, they work more hours to make the same amount of money…so while they have the stuff, they don’t have the time to enjoy it.

Another challenge for the sales career is that no matter how a person does, they still start at zero the next day, and it can be tiring to live under that kind of pressure for a prolonged period of time.

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Traditional Business Ownership: The details vary a bit, but in general the process goes something like this:

  • Use life savings, take on additional debt via personal loans from family, friends or banks to get started.
  • Focus on everything other than what you’re good at – must be all things to all people. Time of and sleep are unlikely.
  • After everyone else is paid, you might have enough leftover to pay your own bills. Likely not enough to pay down your debt from Step 1 though.
  • Concede, give up your dream, and re-join the sales force with massive debt and a broken ego.

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Investor: Basically, unless you’re extremely specialized, it’s safe to consider this philanthropy rather than investing.

The New Economy Needs Fewer People

Exponential rise of technology has changed everything.

  • 100 years ago, 90% of population worked in agriculture…today, it’s less than 1%…
  • Remember call centres? You used to talk to an actual person, now you talk to a computer…
  • Companies used to have large sales forces, now people order online
  • What about Blockbuster and all of it’s employees…now people stream movies to their handheld or tablet devices…

…and those jobs are gone!

Robot economy pouring beer

Much like the children of farmers saw what was happening and left Farming for new vocations, the same thing is happening in Old Economy jobs. To survive, people need to open their eyes to this new reality and find something new.

Technology and efficiency are eliminating jobs everyday and there’s nothing we can do to stop it; in fact, it’s only going to accelerate.

Just because technology now reigns supreme, doesn’t trump the fact that…

  • …there are still products that need to be promoted…
  • …consumers still need to be educated…
  • …buyers are more discerning than ever to price and quality, because endless information is literally available at the touch of a button…

For the people who recognize this fact, it will be the best of times; for those who don’t, this change will be the worst of times.

Society is moving away from traditional forms of advertising and is rapidly embracing word-of-mouth because it continues to work better than any other form of promotion.

Aside from Super Bowl, when was the last time you volunteered to watch a commercial? PayPerView and OnDemand TV have eliminated the relevance of the commercial.

Hello, AMAZON Prime. In what reality do malls survive where people can quickly and efficiently order what they want and have it shipped directly to their front door with out the hassle and expense of going to the mall? Right…SEARS, ToysR’Us…

UBER rewards referrals with an account credit. Some banks pay hefty bonuses for . And restaurants. And retail stores (what’s left of them). Companies that offer products or services recognize this Social Economy Revolution and are rewarding loyalty with points programs and referral incentives.

Referral Marketing is the new – preferred – form of advertising. Companies aren’t utilizing large and expensive sales forces’, instead, more and more companies choose to provide Corporate support and pay distributors on a purely performance basis to promote their products, thereby utilizing Network Marketing to tell their stories.

More and more, companies will choose to use Network Marketing because it fits the new economy. The best way I know to not only survive, but thrive in the new economy is this Profession.

Network Marketing isn’t perfect…it’s just better.

You must accept [read: embrace] a temporary loss in social esteem from ignorant people.

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For a while, people living in and trying to function within the old system will think less of you. They won’t understand.

You are seeing the future before it becomes apparent to anyone else. You are the smart one. You are taking action to live a better life.

The allure of getting paid for someone else’ efforts is powerful, but often badly misunderstood.

More often than not, this is what goes through the Lind of virtually every person who decides to get involved:

Hmm, I can think of 5 or 6 people who might do this too. My sister would be great. My friend knows lots of people. I know this other person who loves this kind of thing and would be amazing. Okay, I’ll join.

In other words, they aren’t joining a Profession, they’re just hoping to get lucky. They’re hoping to sign up a few people to cover their own start up costs and sit back and wait for the money to roll in. They haven’t started a real business, they’ve just purchased a glorified lottery ticket.

Imagine a lottery ticket with 6 scratch off spots – those spots represent the people they think most certainly will join, they approach those people and try to get them to join, but because of their lack of skill, most of them end up with nothing, just like the lottery ticket. And since they’ve acted in unskilled ignorance, they may have damaged some friendships or relationships along the way.

So, they rip up the lottery ticket, and instead of taking responsibility for not really starting their business, they blame Network Marketing and make sure to tell the world “Look, I’ve been there. Done that. I talked to every person I know and NM just doesn’t work; save your money.”

If you choose this as a Profession, that’s what you’re up against…the opinions of ignorant people who think they have done it right and it doesn’t work.

Well, news flash:

  • If some people are making a lot of money, then it’s not the compensation plans’ fault.
  • If some people are selling a ton of product, then it’s not the products’ fault.
  • If some people are going on the all-inclusive paid vacations, then it’s not the companies’ fault.

Responsibility rests 100% on our own shoulders. If you can embrace this, the world is yours, and in this Profession, you will get paid BIG money.

In contrast, Network Marketing Companies want to pay you more, not less like traditional Corporations.

They will pay unlimited amounts to people

who can help blind people see,

who can educate the ignorant,

and who can build a community of like-minded people.

The world as we know it has changed. If you’re going to be paid on performance anyway,  why live with the cap??

…summarized and reorganized from Eric Worre’s GoPro…

[7 Steps to Becoming a Network Marketing Professional]

MKE10 | Super Hero Complex

Automatic strength. The kind I don’t have to negotiate with my body – or my mind -for…I simply will it, on demand. Endless reservoirs of back up power, available at the blink of an eye.

This is the strong me. The kind of ‘lift-a-car-off-your-kid’ in an emergency kind of innate strength. Not a front, rather truly a part of who I am. While this strength has proven to be available, yet completely exhausting. Calling upon this strength comes with a huge cost – it requires at least 4x the energy expended in order to recover.

In times like this, I find it helpful to remember that This Too Shall Pass.

ENTER: SURVIVAL MODE

For as long as I can remember, I’ve had to do it all. My independence streak runs deep. For better, or for worse. Won’t bore you with the details – and I certainly don’t want pity…

Rough childhood would be putting it mildly. Raised my sisters since elementary school. Moved out at 13. Raised my son since I myself, was a child. Working to pay bills. Paying bills instead of being alive. Its become a really bad habit – putting myself second to everything.

Keeping busy being busy. Jumping around wearing so many hats – and I’m not sure exactly why anymore.

So now, I’ve got myself strung so tight…I’ve got this big house that no one can be bothered to help me with. Trying to complete a University degree [failing, quite miserably]. While working way too much because one income simply isn’t enough to maintain a lifestyle – not an overly grandiose or pretentious one either – simply a roof, some food and a vehicle.

There's no way I was born to just pay bills and die

During a temporary lapse in sanity this Spring, I adopted two adorable puppy-brothers (super glad I did though) because they provide enduring Happiness as I deal with the burdens of everyday life.

While slogging through year eight of an exhausting civil-legal following an MVA, which, now forces me to endure chronic, daily, lower body pain – for which, I take extensive pain killers [prescribed, of course]. When those don’t cut it, I get to choose between quarterly cortisone injections, or perhaps medical marijuana in order to be able to walk, to sit, to drive, to sleep…to function without numb fingers or a stabbing pain from my left buttock down to the bottom of my toes. So many exciting options.

As an added bonus, I also have Acne. And Grey hair. Neither are fun, but seeing Sara giggle because she thinks it’s hilarious lifts my spirits. But let’s get serious…teenagers – either awesome or horrible. Not much middle ground there. Somewhere in there…all the house stuff (groceries, banking, Christmas cards, etc.). So, unfortunately, it goes without saying that I don’t often ask for help. Even when people offer help, I’m apt to thank them profusely, then politely decline. Insistently. To a fault.

Stubborn pride…

This is my weakness – which I’ve been [not-so-cleverly] parading around as strength.

I’m learning [the hard way] that what I have perceived as strength for a really long time, is actually my kryptonite.

ENTER: RECLUSION [also known as AVOIDANCE]

Thought I’d share that in an effort to spare a you the trouble…

Avoidance is not a strategy, FYI.

When my ‘f^*k-it-bucket’ quota breaches the brim, I shut everything down…finding solace in the darkness and reprieve in the quiet. If I’ve shut you out at some point, been a bad friend and not called, not responded or reached out – I apologize…it’s a glitch in my auto-response, and I’m – finally – aware of it. Thankfully. But perhaps more importantly, I see a way to change it.

ENTER: FORGETFULNESS [usually hangs out with STRESS]

I can go days and totally forget things. We’re talking urgent things. The more I stack on my plate, the worse it gets. Forgetful. Then stressed. Or stressed. Then forgetful. As if the sequence of events matters – they come as a package deal – and collectively, they’re a ticking time bomb.

Money is – unfortunately – the King of my castle; holding my sanity and dreams prisoner.

If the Prince represents the KEY to achieving the life I KNOW I was born to live…unfolding all the answers and solutions to what’s been holding me back…

And the Damsel in Distress represents my oh-so-coveted Autonomy and Legacy…

… then …

The busy things I’ve been filling my life with represent the Vigilant Dragon, guarding who the Castle Keep. Sadly, I am the Dragon.

ENTER: OVERCOMING OVERWHELM

Sometimes I find life extremely overwhelming – but when I stop and really observe what’s going on…take a mental inventory of all the moving parts.

My next breakthrough is only slightly out of reach, sitting precariously perched atop the pivot-point of the Teeter-Totter of life…the irony of it all…

…is that my weight is on both sides.

What I have done in the past weighs on the low end, versus what I need to do to move forward and bring about new results on the other.

I realize that at the exact moment when I recognize the overwhelm – when I’m about to admit defeat…that very moment is in fact the fulcrum…

…whether I choose to concede and continue hammering out rock solid, gold metal worthy projects for someone else…or…persist until I succeed…and work as hard for myself as I do for other people.

 

ENTER: VULNERABILITY

This one I need to negotiate with myself in order draw it out. This is for sure not in my DNA – but I promise you I am trying to write it into my code because I recognize the tremendous power of it all.

When my Greatness begins to shine is exactly when Resistance – the Universal Dream Stealer – throws more obstacles into my path. Relentlessly. Fortunately, I am both knowledgeable and wise when it comes to these old tricks – because I analyze when things seem insurmountable, I can easily recognize patterns.

Over the years, the lessons have proven – again and again – that it truly is darkest before dawn, yet when it seems all light has been extinguished, a flicker still remains – found within the innate strength we talked about earlier.

This is confirmation from the Universe that I’m doing the right things to attract Autonomy and Legacy, verifying I’m on the right path. Because as we determined earlier, it’s always darkest before dawn, and I can say with confidence that the Sun is always shining in my world, so it’s this magical decision between old and new, between stuck and free, between my past and my future – this simple decision is where the magic happens!!

The warrior within takes the lead and carries on. Paying no heed to the crippling circumstance, blissfully ignorant to the seemingly insurmountable odds, instead – like a champion – ploughing through the obstacle course of life…reliable…relentless…victorious. This is one facet of my Valkyrie.

ENTER: RECLAIMING CONTROL

Running around doing all the stuff that isn’t moving me closer to my goals and all I want to be doing is building a secret business watching Tracey suffer a yes or no true residual income meanwhile I’m going to work showing condos my daughters at home contemplating suicide and I’m driving all around and doing all the work and completely neglecting my house and my myself my daughter I’m not there I’m not present as a parent and making somebody else rich doing it.

Enough. This is how I feel about my ability to push through – *Facing the Giants | Death Crawl Scene*

It’s my turn now. I’m going to affix my own mask – or I will be unable to help others achieve their own greatness…not on my back, rather by my side.

Theory that people need identity outside of parent only or kids move out and they go crazy. So what kind of super hero have you been facading as? I REALIZED I don’t need to choose just one response – I simply need to control the extenuating circumstances in my life so that all of my strong suits can operate harmoniously.

I am whole, harmonious, peaceful, happy, humble, caring and kind.

Love Letter From My Future Self

Hey girl, slow down for a second…

I know that you overthink things so this is a reminder from your future self that it’s all going to be alright. Read it often.

Despite some pretty major challenges you’ve managed to wear a smile every damn day, and hey, that’s a victory, right!!! Celebrate that you’re on your way to mastering the world within.

Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Trust that things will work out. Remember your greatness. The world needs what you have inside you – so wear your happiness like a badge of honour. Embracing your best self shows others how to embrace theirs as well. The world will become a better place as a result.

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I LOVE you. You’ve got this. Keep going.

Whatever you’re doing…stop, right now! Take a deep breath. Close your eyes. Take another breath, but this time, try to not let your chest rise – instead, breathe deeply from your abdomen. Take another breath. And another. Clear your mind. When you’re ready, open your eyes. Look around you. Do you see nature? Go outside and embrace the feeling of the sunshine on your skin. Go touch the leaves. Smell a flower. Listen to the birds sing. Play in the snow. Enjoy the fresh air. Breathe. Be.

Take another deep breath. Ground yourself. Think objectively. Smile. Your eyes dance when you get fired up…let it all out!

The Compass

I’m sure you’ve got a lot going on right now, and that’s good…just don’t lose track of what’s important, what’s worth making time for. Spend time with people you love. That’s first and foremost, always. Hang out with your mom as much as possible, words cannot describe what she has done for you over the years. Also, eat a cookie once in a while.

Some stuff is going to happen to you. You won’t be able to plan for it, fit it into your schedule, or always have someone pick up the phone to guide you through it. You’re going to have to just rely on your intuition, the insights will come. Remember to go with the flow, take it all in…glean lessons from it. Find the positive in every experience in life. You’ve got this.

Trust in yourself. Trust of yourself.

You know how to carry on…hold your head high, shoulders back, you’re ready to take on the world again. Know that whatever decision you made, it was the right one. You’re here now, and you’re exactly where you need to be. Focus on that.

Everything that has happened has lead you to this moment. Don’t try to change anything. Things have worked out exactly as it should be. All the puzzle pieces fit, all the paths will align. All the people were meant to be. All the successes and failures and heartwarming and heartbreaking moments were all worth it. No regrets.

Please never stop holding on to HOPE. It will, at times, cause you pain, but it will also help you get through. I even hope you’re still naively optimistic about the world, if only because it’s better to have a bright outlook than spend the rest of life wallowing in cynicism. You are an ambassador of HOPE…people admire you and it’s important that you keep telling your stories and letting your light shine.

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You know what? I even want you to go through more hardships and struggles because the hardships make us learn and grow, not only about the world and other people, but about yourself as well. They turn us into a stronger and better person, and the adversities we overcome oftentimes become our best testimonies.

I’m sure you’ll figure out a few more things along the way, and I hope you keep asking questions. Lots of them. Your light shines brightly and I hope you hold that close to your heart…don’t let situations, or people for that matter, get you down or shake your purpose.

As you continue to age, you’ll become even more phenomenal. Remember, the goal is to celebrate turning 100 (at least). Take a bite of something delicious and savor every moment. Enjoy what you have in each present moment. Just because it passes doesn’t mean it wasn’t powerful or important. And you’re not silly for believing in it…enjoy every experience. Your eternal optimism and enthusiasm are contagious.

The Magnifying Glass

You learned what love really means and the lengths to which friendship can be tested (and lost). You learned how to treat your body well, and how to honor those around you. Don’t ever settle for the easy way—actually, don’t settle, period! Life is too short. ENJOY IT. ALL OF IT. Really embrace your greatness.

You will have enough time to do everything that you love. Be here now. Hug those around you. Ask them how they are doing, and lock eyes with them as they tell you…truly listen. Be present. Don’t be so busy searching for clues that you miss all the signs. The inexplicable sensation of true connection and understanding is the best feeling in the entire world. You’ve got a lot of time. Your to-do list can wait.

Here’s a reminder of what you already know to be true…

Money is just a number. It comes and it goes. Love is the true currency.

Be who you are and who you want to be. Be the best you. Be gentle with yourself. Be messy sometimes. Let it all go. Embrace what you’re learning and cherish your experiences because they are divinely fated, truly. You were and are, have been and always will be yourself, and that is what matters above all.

Tell your children you love them…a lot. They are incredible humans and deserve to hear your praise, and often. You’ve raised your kids right, spent time with them, taught them how to properly shake someone’s hand. You’ve instilled values in them, helped them set goals (both lofty and reasonable), and provided them with experiences, insight and have role-modelled to them the life skills to keep their moral compasses on the straight and narrow. Trust that time will continue to massage their personalities and believe that above all else, they love you.

What YOU Focus on Expands

I promise to remain diligent and focused on designing my life so that I can…

Dream Bigger, because BIG dreams have more magic.

Cultivate AUTONOMY + LEGACY

Travel the world with Mike + Sara, paid for by my profession.

Be ruled by my heart, rather than my bank account.

Time LIBERTY to be present for my family.

Healthy Body. Healthy Mind.

PAID IN FULL. Always.

Consistently say YES YOU CAN to myself!

Create a strong blueprint.

Design a bulletproof future for those I LOVE.

Positive internal dialogue.

Show my family how to WIN!

Most importantly, remember that the current version of yourself loves you…

and that is not going to change.

Always remember that.

You’ve got the most epic dogs, sweet friends, and an above average family. You are blessed to live in one of the most beautiful places on earth, and you’re in the best shape of your life thus far, so that’s great. You’ll love what’s to come!

Remember that crossroads are exciting…yet temporary. You been handed a pretty full deck and you survived…no, you’ve thrived. You always find a way. You are resilient and resourceful.

But you know, I hope you had some time for fun. Go…now, take a world class vacation…for you, from you, out of your sweet bank account. You’ve earned it. Keep killing it. Like that 35-day cruise you took in 2015…go and explore, be a Curious Discoverer. Take time to fulfill your hearts deepest and most earnest desires. Nothing else matters.

Happiness is a choice

A few good life rules…

Pick up the phone. Make some plans. Get outside, even when the couch is calling. Camp in the woods. Build a fire. Have some wine. Stay up late. Climb a mountain. Netflix binge every once in a while. Go for a sail. Eat good food, prepared from scratch and made with love. Watch live music. Travel abroad with someone you care about. Immerse yourself in a good book. Don’t be afraid to LOVE. Go to the movies by yourself. Let your creativity shine. Move your body. Give back. Write down your thoughts. Tell your stories. Tell others’ stories. Listen.

Most importantly, I hope you look back on this time with so much love…and remember how uniquely spectacular you truly are.

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Because Science, that’s why!

I was at the doctor the other day, undergoing a battery of standard [read: boring] tests for my memory and cognitive capacity. I’m talking about 2-full days of mind-numbingly boring tests, yet when the doctors asked how I was doing – my answer was consistently “Great!” or “That’s the most fun I’ve had all day!”. Sincerely.

 

In my life and around my home, I’ve talked a lot about being HAPPY, always. Being positive and agreeable and easy to be around…perhaps it’s because my ColorCode is pretty evenly split between White/Yellow/Blue…meaning I have quite an agreeable personality…doesn’t mean I’m a Yes-Man…means I’m easy to get along with, and subsequently, get along with nearly everyone pretty easily as well.

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Relinquishing Control (v2)

Hi, I’m Jen and I’m a Control Freak.

My good friend Mark J. recently enlightened me that “all control is fear based”.

So I asked myself…

  • What am I fearful of?
    • Failure…why, why, why??
  • Is it worse to fail, or to:
    • not achieve?
    • not try?
    • not stretch myself?
  • What would happen if I fail?
    • Will I become embarrassed?
    • Will I die (exaggeration, much!)
    • Will I learn?
    • Will I grow?

…but perhaps the worst outcome of all, the one that carries with it the most trepidation  …Will I succeed?

After soul searching, crying, and having a figurative stiff drink, I realized – no, I admitted to myself –  that I am, indeed, more afraid of success than I am of failure. But also, and maybe more importantly, I am actually afraid of both success AND failure. So I’ve just kind of been hovering – for decades – in this space of ‘not quite enough, but more than necessary’.  Wow. And also ouch.

So naturally, I bounced ideas off of my Mastermind group while my conscious mind came to terms with this new defect (NOTE: how do you add strikethrough to text in a blog?) aspect of my character.

Investigating this query led me down a path of introspection which opened my mind to a multitude of questions, including:

  • What have I been missing?
  • What do I need to fix?
  • Where did this fear come from?
  • How was it nourished?
  • What aspects or events in my life can I pinpoint to prove this realization?
  • How has Subby been reacting to events in my life?
  • How has Subby been responding to internal and external factors in my life?

REALIZATIONS…smacked me right in the face!

My thought process was this…if I can reverse engineer the events in my life (jobs, businesses, kids, marriage, relationships with family and friends, self-talk…) and identify the triggers, then that awareness, coupled with the new tools (read: not coping mechanisms) can assist Subby in creating my new blueprint – ensuring my fear of success, and my fear of failure, are banished for all eternity.

Whatever thoughts I was thinking at the time brought me the results I have had so far. Clearly, I need to disrupt my thinking. In some aspects a little more than others, so overall, my thinker is going to get a good scrubbing!

This week I really resonated with that Mark J. said about realizing and acknowledging that everything in business has helped me earn money…either I earn money now, or I learn a lesson so I can earn money later.

[Hooked on a feeling song playing in my head]…I’ve been attached to this poverty mentality for too long; its not the money, it’s the feeling I’ve been attaching to the money…how do I feel about spending $300 for an electricity bill or a speeding ticket, vs. $300 for a flight, or my vehicle, or Sara’s horse? The first is painful, yet the second gives a feeling of elated happiness (and then the DMP stuff all hit me…why Mark says we must say it with ENTHUSIASM!! Ding, ding, ding…earth to Jen! Duh Hello!

I am learning how to not continue to make the same mistakes. Regarding the blueprint builder…I have been adding boxes in the wrong order. I am leaping over the chasm of doubt that has left me subconsciously shackled to a belief system that is entirely unfounded and is frankly, quite ridiculous.

NOW THAT I KNOW, WHAT DO I DO ABOUT IT??

What ‘channel’ do I need to start listening to? What to say when I talk to myself…our DMP is what we need to say…LINKING = The Greatest Salesman, The Master Keys and Mark J. helps to reprogram our beliefs and blueprints, and directs Subby what to do.

  • What should I be reading?
    • The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino
    • The Master Keys by Charles F. Hanell
    • What to say when you talk to yourself
    • Think and Gro Rich by Napoleon Hill
    • The Science of Achievement by Napoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone

Realizing that every word counts when sending instructions to Subby…I now question everything including the songs on the radio (which is part of my sacrifice in order to achieve my DMP).

What, or who, do I need to focus on, and continually listen to? For starters:

  • The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale
  • DISRUPT YOU by Jay Samit
  • Anything by Napoleon Hill
  • Go90Grow by Mark J., World’s Laziest Networker
  • MKMMA by Mark J., World’s Laziest Networker

The magic within doesn’t flounder…it’s WITHIN.   – Mark J.

I remain a Curious Discoverer!

MOVING FORWARD

I promise to…

Protect the environment in which Subby can flourish. Control my reaction and emotions to situations. Keep my Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) in check. Remain open – not be too attached to anything because as long as we are attached, we can’t be present.

I refuse to carry baggage, any baggage, going forward. Mine, or anyone else’s. My new mantra…’Not my monkeys, not my circus.’

I always keep my promises.

Jennifer Hope Conrad

The Cliffs of Insanity (v2)

As I’ve been working through the Master Keys, The Greatest Salesman and the MKMMA workbook, I am recognizing how they are all LINKING together. I recognize that in the past I have allowed some uneducated thoughts to direct my thoughts and by extension, my actions, in ways that can (and have!) only lead to torment, pain and/or suffering. Enough is enough.

Everybody knows that the definition of insanity is:

doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

– Albert Einstein

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Disengaging Auto-Pilot (v2)

My game plan this week was to sit back and be a silent observer…of the process, the group, myself, and most importantly, my reactions! I noticed when I was hungry, when I was sad, when I was tired, and happy and mad and glad. I paid attention to the details with acute-sensitivity.

Perhaps for the first time ever, I observed as my subconscious began throwing a tantrum at the thought of new processes. I didn’t cave in or get discouraged, nor did I attempt to tell myself how great I was, or wasn’t. I simply identified the feelings in each moment, attempted to isolate the triggers, did my best to dismiss the immediate discomfort, and negotiated with myself farther than I had believed would be possible regarding with my old habits, and instead wrote it all down without editing, judging or trying to control it.

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PRESS RELEASE The Truck Stops Here | Disconnecting Your Subconscious Shackles

Jennifer Hope Conrad named New York Times’ Best-Selling Author; launches book tour

(Kaua’i, Hawaii, 14 March 2018) Jennifer Hope Conrad, Author of The Truck Stops Here, and Founder of The Cratos Group Inc., speaks with us in a rapid fire Q&A about her best-selling book and upcoming North American book tour.

The Truck Stops Here       |      Disconnecting Your Subconscious Shackles 

                                                           (a Mindset Shift, not a How-To Guide)

In addition to her new book, Jen has shared her mindset management theory on Ellen, and has a loyal – and growing – group of followers connecting with her via her weekly BLOG, YouTube channel, website and social media pages.  Jen also runs monthly webinars where people can connect farther through opt-in 1:1 coaching where Jennifer will speak with you directly, hear your story, and help you identify patterns in your own life, then work with you to create strategies to move past your own repeating challenges. Her mantra is “make new mistakes”, because, she notes, “then at least, you’ll be learning new lessons.”

Jennifer is known and respected as a thought leader specializing in horizon-expanding mindset management. This book explores her theory and gives the reader tangible evidence and insight into her thought processes – perhaps more of a thesis actually, that ‘trauma does not have to be traumatic’.

In the beginning…

“Jennifer’s originality and innovation shines through in all she does,” says Mark Januszewski, The Worlds Laziest Networker.  “Jen was in town for the Go90Grow session of Summer 2016, it was during this conference that our individual magnificence couldn’t help but collide – the synergy was unmistakably magnetic.”

Mark went on to comment, “Our first meeting was at the Kaua’i Beach Resort in summer 2016…the Fabulous Davene and I had set final preparations underway for the meet-and-greet in the ballroom.  For one night (which had a reputation of creating some #LifeChanging relationships and opportunities for our #MKMMA members) both the #MKE and #Go90Grow classes converged, personifying an evening of networking and friendship among some of the most personally aware people on the planet.”

As Jen and I settled in together at the corner table on the Lanai, Mark continued, “we reminisced of the first time that we sat in this very spot…a hot August afternoon in 2016, roasting under the mid-day sun, hearing Jen’s account of the drive into our compound and hearing her list the details of why Kaua’i is as awe-inspiring as it is, brought me back to the feeling when we were first exploring the island.  I could see that Jen’s soul was on a similar journey and I was excited to be part of the wonder that I was certain would fill her life in short order.  Jen has recounted on numerous occasions over the past two or so years how much that first conversation impacted her…while reminding me that she was careful to not attribute her success to me as ‘the guy!’, but rather as a beacon of light at the end of a long, windy, treacherous trail filled with tribulations and false starts.”

In preparation to turn the floor over to Jen’s #MasterMind team, Januszewski took one last trip down memory lane, and with a sigh of contentment stated: “Over the past year or so, Jen has often commented that from the moment of our initial discussion, her mind set to link the pieces that she described as previously missing as she launched herself towards a goal so lofty; a cause so great, that no fulcrum known to mankind could possess the strength to knock her out of balance with her burning desire.  She was committed to finally drawing out the full wonder that had been entrusted to her…and it was quite moving to see her light shine so brightly.  I knew right then that I had to get to know her story and, as they say, the rest, as they say, is history.”

And now, a word from her Fan Club…

“Her entrepreneurial vision helped navigate her research and passion through tough times – forming clever strategic alliances, introducing awe-inspiring processes and made sure she investigated every opportunity in an economy that really didn’t support new ideas, change, or…well it really didn’t support anything at all.” noted Sandra Coates, a long-time family friend.

Sandra went on to comment “We are so blessed to be among those closest to her!”  she looked over to Jen and flashed a smile so wide everyone in the room could feel the love and exclaimed “Jenny, they don’t get any better than you!” and as she finished her sentence, she approached with a hug so fierce that you’d think their lives depended on the connection of their bodies.

I remember thinking for a mere second ‘That’s what unconditional love looks like’, – sadly, as quickly as I entered that blissful state Jen’s younger sister, Melissa, effectively diminished my euphoria upon declaring prior to any audible pause…“she’s always been a great friend…she taught me how to fight, both in terms of knocking someone’s block off, and doing the same for any other problem in my way!”  I thought Jen had some kind of superpower – she never let anything get her down…her focus didn’t change regardless of friends, or situations, or the weather.  She knew she was doing the right thing or she simply didn’t do it.  Nothing would change that, her course was set.”

Melissa decreed her admiration from underneath a devilishly grin and continued with a sigh as she looked up from underneath her crook’d brow, sporting a smirk that I was positive concealed a million stories, encapsulated with a lifetime worth of trouble to boot!  After drawing one deep, staggered breath Melissa continued “Life was always an adventure when we got to experience it through Jen’s eyes!  She got herself into – and perhaps more importantly out of some of the most outrageous scenarios!!  Never a dull moment, that’s for sure…” she trailed off once again, clearly lost in memories, admission of which was only slightly acknowledged as the corner of her ivory sleeve dipped in to the side of the salsa dish, repeatedly.  “The maid is off until Tuesday so who cares…” she muttered as she nonchalantly filled another chip, again dragging her sleeve through the bowl.

“For the most part…” she continued, as she crunched the last few bites of her lime flavoured tortilla chip, “…as I saw it, life was a constant uphill battle for Jen.  To me, the majority of it seemed impossible at every turn.  I often thought she was nuts to push on – but despite the pain and discomfort and all the bulls**t, Jen never took her eye off the finish line.  She never gave up and I’m so proud of her for that!”

Sandra was sitting with her back to the sun, wearing one of those sunhats that you’d expect to see on royalty or on a cruise ship full of ladies who just sat for afternoon tea and crumpets – you know, the ones with the floppy sides.  Calmly, Sandra gently raised the infliction in her voice to match Melissa’s – it was as if they didn’t miss a single beat – almost as though one thought was flowing directly from Melissa’s head into hers “Jen’s story has touched so many people!  Not only in the 10+ years since the accident, but we’ve traced her influence all the way back to her youth.  Jenny has always been a powerful force, one not to be reckoned with – yet never once has she used her suggestion inappropriately, nor meant any harm, instead, she always applies her insights blissfully, following her gut instinct like a compass leading a lost sailor to land…it has been amazing to watch how it has grown, how she has grown and developed throughout her lifetime.” Sandra reached over the table and squeezed Jen’s forearm, prompting Jen to return her smile with admiration and contentment.

“We were thrilled when she decided and ultimately committed to capturing it all into a book” added her Mom, Debora.  “I’ll digress for a second if you will allow me, and point out that it wasn’t soon after her return from Kaua’i in 2016 that sharing this story – these experiences – became her driving force in life.  She didn’t eat, sleep or breathe if it didn’t move her closer to her definite major purpose, closer to sharing what she’s learned – in essence, closer to the reality that she is enjoying today.  Whatever you discussed with her was the missing piece.  Nothing could hold her back once she got home (not even the brutal Canadian winters).  It is so fulfilling as her Mom, and as her friend and mastermind cheerleader – perhaps most notably the president of her Fan Club – to see her sharing her message and so bravely baring her vulnerability in front of the world – and actually embracing it.  I’m learning so much from her.”

Debora continued, “We believe her thinking patterns will change the way the world responds to emotional trauma and will influence and encourage people as they find their strength.  Rejecting the societal pressure to assume a ‘victim’ role, instead, embracing the victory of finding the lesson in every situation, of learning, and ultimately, of growing…becoming… evolving!  It’s connected on so many levels – the reach is nearly immeasurable!”

Q+A | Part 1: …and also…wait, what!?!

Q: I understand that you were prompted to write this book after a pick-up truck struck you and your daughter while you were walking to your vehicle, is that correct? 

A: Yes Mark, we were fortunate to be in exactly the right spot, at the right time.

Q: Hold on…did I hear you correctly…did you just say you were in the right place at the right time?  Didn’t you just confirm that you and Sara were struck by a pick-up truck?!  Can you walk me through your thought process?

A: Certainly, my thinking is this…if we were one step further ahead we would have been pinned under the truck with no chance of survival, however if we were one step back of where we actually were, there would have been time to push Sara away, and perhaps jump away myself…which sounds ideal, however if that were the case, we wouldn’t have been able to experience all of the growth opportunities that we have had as a result of the accident and our subsequent injuries.

For instance, GlobalTV did a feature on Sara and the technology that saved her life – now we have a YouTube video, nearly 7 minutes long.  We’re YouTube sensations!  Sara was featured on the Radio-a-Thon to raise funds for the Alberta Children’s Hospital and she’s had countless post-admission visits through the hospital where she’s had the chance to bring a smile to other kids with similar injuries.  Not your run-of-the-mill experiences for any child – never mind one who was still sporting single digits in the age category!  I mean, c’mon Mark, where can you match that kind of life experience!

Q: That’s something else, Jen, quite remarkable.  I understand that one of Sara’s favorite activities with you is a form of rapid fire Q+A, correct?

A: Yes, usually she uses that tactic when trying to compare how angelic she seems compared to something undesirable (read: idiotic, neurotic, selfish or just plain stupid) that her brother just finished doing.  In her words, “Mom, quick…without thinking…who’s your favorite child right now!?!”  How she manages to get through the entire sentence without busting up is beyond me.

Q+A | Part 2: Incase you were wondering…

Mark: Alright then, let’s run through a rapid fire Q&A, Sara style…

Q: Quick…without thinking…what’s your favourite ice cream?

A: Breyers Mint Chocolate Chip…for sure!

Q: Where’s your favourite place on earth?

A: Kaua’i is a strong contender…but I’d have to say Moraine Lake, near Banff (Lake Louise), Alberta.  Only open May – August since you’ve basically got to be a Mountain Goat to get to it, but once you’re there, a lake appears almost as if out of nowhere, surrounded by majestic mountains that basically make you a better person just by being there.

Q+A | Part 3: The Preliminaries

Q: How has moving from being the child, to having children changed you?

A: I cherish the people that surround me…they have given me a safe place to be myself, and remind me daily what it means to both give and receive unconditional love.  I am grateful for them every day and love them with every ounce of my being.  It’s been said that we are the culmination of the five people we hang around with most – so since family is so important to me, it’s been a mission, and a privilege, to help shape Mike and Sara into independent thinkers.  I joke that my goal in life is to create kids who could survive the Zombie Apocalypse…knowing if they can THINK they’ll likely survive.  Although I did get swept up in the endless quick sand of the new Mom mantra of give-give-give…I now realize that putting myself first is a sign of strength, not weakness, and it actually makes me a better Mom (and person).  I’ve learned to walk the tightrope between giving too much and putting myself first with ease and grace.

Q: How do you see yourself now?

A: I am the perfect trifecta of Brains | Bravery | Beauty – all powerfully combined as a positive influence, creation impact as a role model and thought leader, and living life on purpose and of purpose!

Q: When did you first realize that you could associate any feeling(s) to any situation, at will?

A: When I was 11.   I recognized the things I was dealing with had been somewhat cyclical for the last few months (sadly, more likely the last few years) and I performed a science experiment of sorts – if I could change my reaction to the situation/events…would it have any correlation to the outcome?  I was astounded at the results, so naturally had to test my theory again…and again…and again…until eventually, I perfected my approach.  Naturally then, I had to start all over again!

With challenge comes change, and I am up to the challenge of changing!  I accept that life is a process and sometimes perfection is offset by growth.  As long as it furthers me in my evolution or understanding, or helps me exercise empathy…even those nasty ones that seem insistent on teaching me patience…I’m game for all of it.

Q: What is most important to you in your life?

A: My Personal Pivotal Needs are Liberty and Recognition for Creative Expression.

Regarding Liberty:

I want to know I’ve got all of my commitments met, with wiggle-room for surprises, while providing a very comfortable life for my family which includes fun-money for adventures and new experiences anytime we like.

Regarding Recognition for Creative Expression:

Equally as important, it means a lot to me to hear feedback about how my influence is impacting other people.  May I share a story with you about a poem I received from an old-neighbor while Sara and I were in the hospital during our 51-day hospital stay?  It meant so much to me that Mandy took the time to share her thoughts around how my words impacted her life – she went the extra mile to print, frame and present it in person.

Q: What is your most prized possession?

A: My most precious asset is the 6-inches between my own ears and its’ guard is fortified by everything I am and all that I want to accomplish.  The ability to THINK is the greatest gift I have to give to the world, but more importantly, the greatest gift I could ever leave for Mike and Sara.  Intellectual ability and constant growth are the best way I know to prepare them for a straight vertical trajectory in all areas of life and love.  Ensuring they have the skills to think independently, setting an example by showing them what it looks like to be true to themselves, is and forever will be, my chief aim in life.  It will long survive me and become my lasting legacy.

Q: Why are you so committed to this cause?

A: I have been gifted with abilities to follow my core instinct, exercise empathy and possess vision greater than myself.  When combined with my unshakeable self-confidence, life has taught me to embrace the impact I have on others.  I put these gifts to work for the greater good, sharing my mindset through inspirational speaking and writing.  The whole give more, get more theory – you know!

 Q: How do you nourish your mindset to keep you on track?

A: I am wholly responsible for my thoughts, feelings, and actions.  I exercise mind over matter, because if I don’t mind it doesn’t matter.  While I am not perfect, I am pure, humble, kind and empathetic.  While remaining logical and realistic with a birds-eye view, I remain unbiased and free.  I remain committed to upholding the discipline and positive self-talk required to continuously ignite the fire in my belly and propel myself towards the purpose I was born to fulfill.  The Think and Grow Rich habits have changed the very DNA of my thoughts and as a result, of my actions, and are forming the foundation of my personal philosophy.  I wholeheartedly welcome these principles to impact my life in stupendous proportions.

Q: Why are people so attracted to you?

A: I resonate at a very high frequency which attracts people like a beacon (of HOPE). People comment they like themselves best when they’re with me and wonder when they can see me again.  I am honored when people state they simply want to be around me, to ‘hear me think’, to catch a glimpse inside my head…it makes me feel like I can fly!  It is so great being me!!

Mark: Well, your Jen mo-jo is already rubbing off on us around here.  I can certainly see what all the hype is about!

Q+A | Part 4: Because Science, that’s why!

Alright, that gives us some background into why you think the way that you do…now, let’s dive a bit deeper into the science and psychology behind why you think the way you do.

Q: What is the premise of your book?

A: Many people go through their lives being held hostage to the subconscious shackles that are implanted as a result of a traumatic event at some point in their lives.  Many people don’t realize (or refuse to acknowledge) that they are making decisions in their adult lives based on an event that occurred in childhood or their teenage years that they attached a negative feeling to, without any regard for the FACT that the feeling we attach to those events, perhaps, holds more weight than the event itself.

mandy-nickerson-poemI’ve learned

(Dedicated to Jennifer and Sara for their strength and courage)

I’ve learned from my friend

And her hospital stay

STOP and smell the roses

Take time out to play

I’ve learned from her fight

Her pain and her tears

Life is for living

Not hiding from our fears

I’ve learned not to rush

But to simply slow down

Life is too short

To be running around

I’ve learned to smile more

And warmly say ‘Hi’

To help brighten the day

Of a stranger passing by

I’ve learned it’s not money

But my family who come first

My life isn’t that bad

Others have it much worse

I’ve learned from her story

And her little girl’s too

Now I pass this poem on

So you can learn too.

Q: Can you provide an example of when and how you implemented this logic?

A: Joann Mundin MD, FRCPC, MSc, Psychiatrist noted:

“I believe that Sara’s parents took very appropriate steps, perhaps without knowing it, to protect Sara from the development of PTSD following the collision.  This is because her parents made a deliberate decision to expose Sara to newspaper articles and details regarding the collision.  They also honoured Sara’s request to visit the site of the collision upon discharge from the hospital, which Sara did in a wheelchair even while the storefront was still boarded-up.  I believe that Sara’s early and repetitive exposure to the events of the collision while she was still in the hospital was a form of Exposure and Response Prevention which served to prevent Sara from going into full-fledged Posttraumatic Stress Disorder specifically related to events of the collision”.

Q: How do you override – or train – your brain in times of intense fear or immense anguish; how do you always find a positive silver lining?

A: That’s a great question!  Allow me to answer it in three parts.

First, I believe in the old saying; ‘To whom much is given, much is expected’. I’ve been told that my fearlessness is inspiring in EPIC proportions.  My life has been very blessed and I’ve lived a life that many would envy – I mean, many would fear – I mean, it’s perfect for me, regardless of what anyone thinks or doesn’t think.  Every step has lead me to where, and who, I am today.  I wouldn’t change a single thing about my life.

Secondly, I discovered that that fear and excitement trigger nearly identical neurons in the human brain?   Did you know that?!  When I realized this, it became apparent that I could mentally frame new experiences with open-minded excitement and run towards them, rather than becoming their victim…therefore I set out to conquer my fear and insisted that instead, I claim victory in all experiences and challenges that life presents.

Finally, I recognized very early on in life that repeat experiences are an opportunity to make different decisions – and sometimes, new mistakes.  Persistence towards my DMP does not recognize failure, instead by default, I question ‘What is this teaching me?’.  What is the lesson?  De Ja Vu’s are simply put a reminder that I didn’t learn the lesson last time, and I need to pay attention and take a closer look at the situation and evaluate – ahead of time if possible – how I’m reacting, why, and what my other options are.

Q+A | Part 5: Have Brains…Will travel.

Q: What’s next for you, Jen? 

A: My mindset invites unfathomable opportunity, while my humility allows for maximum growth so I know the doors are open and opportunities abound.  I have accepted and embraced the changes to my memory and speech patterns and have embraced HIS master plan for my destiny.  My greatest DESIRE is to give back, I am evolving daily and learning to govern my actions accordingly.

I TRUST that continuing to be a good person, doing the right things for the right reasons, and remaining steadfast in my positive mental attitude…I can TRUST that my Liberty; financial freedom will come as a result of getting right with myself and letting my song out for everyone to embrace, or not, and either is quite fine with me.  I am the master of my own economic fate.  I am the governor of my destiny!  The world is as I see it.

I’ll continue to write…spend more time in a hammock…Autonomy has always been on my side…going to continue getting right with myself so I can help others get right with themselves, as well.  This experience has been so enlightening.  The more I learn, the more I realize I don’t know!   I am a life-long student of growth, performance and self-reflection. I remain a curious discoverer!

Q: In 10 words or less, how would you sum up your life…despite everything that life has thrown at you?

A: I am very blessed and highly favored!